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Re: Home of Gibbor120 10 Feb 2017 06:45 #305506

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Shlomo24 wrote on 10 Feb 2017 05:42:

Markz wrote on 10 Feb 2017 01:12:

Shlomo24 wrote on 10 Feb 2017 00:46:
It should be locked at 120.

And yours at 24?
You must be kidding

Lol. I was thinking more of 240...

Bal Tosif. You write your own destiny.

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Re: Home of Gibbor120 10 Feb 2017 10:05 #305520

Shucks I missed out realized after I logged off 

Well here is to the next 120
my thread:guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/300426-I-will-make-it-bh" option="guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/300426-I-will-make-it-bh">I will make it b"h











very important thread: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21" option="guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21">FEEL THE HUGS!!!

Re: Home of Gibbor120 10 Feb 2017 11:59 #305525

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Now where is Dms1234?



And  Engine 9494?
!אנא עבדא דקודשא בריך הוא

וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל

And every day that you want to waste, that you want to waste, you can
And every day that you want to wake up, that you want to wake, you can
And every day that you want to change, that you want to change, yeah
I'll help you see it through...

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Last Edit: 10 Feb 2017 12:00 by Gevura Shebyesod.

Re: Home of Gibbor120 10 Feb 2017 13:48 #305532

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Gevura Shebyesod wrote on 10 Feb 2017 11:59:
Now where is Dms1234?



And  Engine 9494?

Did you mean 9494?

I'mI actually talkin' to him right now.
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Re: Home of Gibbor120 10 Feb 2017 16:27 #305550

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I speak to 9494 a lot.
What works for me: 1) Honesty 2) Meetings 3) 12-step 4) Listening to my Sponsor 5) Not doing what I want to do 6) Inviting the God of my understanding into my life

"I can't do it, God can help." | "Everything I want is on the other side of fear." | "Where there is deprivation there is addiction." | "Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery." | "Stop stopping, start living."

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Re: Home of Gibbor120 07 Jun 2017 21:31 #314871

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Hi.  I know I haven't written in a while, but I'm still around and still plan to post.

Tomorrow, June 8th will be my 8th anniversary of getting caught by my wife and starting my road to recovery.  I haven't masturbated or looked at porn in 8 years Bli Ayin Hora.  Over the years, on my anniversary, I have posted a bit about my journey and what has worked for me.

This year, I think I want to try something different for a couple of reasons.  First, it's sometimes hard for me to remember what I did when I was really struggling to help my recovery.  B"H, the nisyonos are not as frequent or intense.  That is not to say they don't happen.  Shmiras Aynayim in particular can be difficult at times.  Not allowing my fantasies to get the best of me in my relationship with my wife can also be difficult.  A wife can also be made into an object and that can also cause problems.  Secondly, just like everyone else, I could always use some chizzuk.

So, I  thought of this idea.  I have been privileged to meet so many people.  Some of you on the forum.  Some on the phone, and some in person.

It's hard to know what impact I have had.  Sometimes, I find out, but I suspect that often I don't.

Perhaps I could ask you to write something that I wrote or said that helped you.  Maybe a particular post, or maybe just a line from a post.  Maybe nothing in particular, but some of my posts have helped you in general.  Maybe I pointed you in some direction that helped you.

There is no pressure here.  It is purely voluntary.  But, knowing that I made some sort of difference would really give me chizzuk and make my anniversary that much more special.

Thank you all!
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Re: Home of Gibbor120 07 Jun 2017 22:12 #314878

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When I first joined GYE, I found out fairly quickly that while you learn from everyone here on the forum, there are certain guys that you connect to and relate to their posts more than others.

From day 1, I related a lot to your shares, struggles, advice, jokes, encouragement and support. 

You were gracious enough to spend time with me on the phone, and that helped me a tremendous deal when I was first getting started here and going through a very rocky time in my marriage.

I know it might sound trite, but I've really considered you my rebbe here since I started here almost three years ago. I get excited when I see that you've posted because I know I'm going to finish reading your post with a bit more wisdom, encouragement or at least a good laugh.

Some of the specific posts that had the greatest impact for me, we're in the following areas:
Marriage and relationships, honesty about what our behavior has had on our wives and taking responsibility for it, what our wives need from us , getting out of isolation, and of course the Dov quotes in your signature.

I and my entire family will never be able to thank you enough in this world, although I hope to get a chance to meet you in person sometime. 

May you continue to have much true shalom bayis, mazel, simcha, brachos and nachas in everything you do! Thank you!

Re: Home of Gibbor120 08 Jun 2017 00:29 #314881

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gibbor120 wrote on 07 Jun 2017 21:31:
Hi.  I know I haven't written in a while, but I'm still around and still plan to post.

Tomorrow, June 8th will be my 8th anniversary of getting caught by my wife and starting my road to recovery.  I haven't masturbated or looked at porn in 8 years Bli Ayin Hora.  Over the years, on my anniversary, I have posted a bit about my journey and what has worked for me.

This year, I think I want to try something different for a couple of reasons.  First, it's sometimes hard for me to remember what I did when I was really struggling to help my recovery.  B"H, the nisyonos are not as frequent or intense.  That is not to say they don't happen.  Shmiras Aynayim in particular can be difficult at times.  Not allowing my fantasies to get the best of me in my relationship with my wife can also be difficult.  A wife can also be made into an object and that can also cause problems.  Secondly, just like everyone else, I could always use some chizzuk.

So, I  thought of this idea.  I have been privileged to meet so many people.  Some of you on the forum.  Some on the phone, and some in person.

It's hard to know what impact I have had.  Sometimes, I find out, but I suspect that often I don't.

Perhaps I could ask you to write something that I wrote or said that helped you.  Maybe a particular post, or maybe just a line from a post.  Maybe nothing in particular, but some of my posts have helped you in general.  Maybe I pointed you in some direction that helped you.

There is no pressure here.  It is purely voluntary.  But, knowing that I made some sort of difference would really give me chizzuk and make my anniversary that much more special.

Thank you all!

For me, it's hard to say because everything blurs into one and I usually remember the feel that I get when I see each person's name as they post.

I remember that I got a lot of chizuk from you in my earlier times as you were posting more, or maybe I was going through your thread as I did all of the successful ones right when I joined.

You struck me as upbeat, honest, hard working, and inspiring in a very normal and down to earth way. Eight years is amazing, and even the way you mention that shmiras einayim can be a struggle is your usual straightforward and honest way.

Happy anniversary, keep on shteiging, and much continued hatzlacha!

Re: Home of Gibbor120 08 Jun 2017 01:27 #314882

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Your profile name is one of the first that I came across and it gave me some inspiration. Not to mention the Avatar. I guess the lesson was. It takes hard work, but you gotta be strong.

Sometimes nonverbal lessons are best

Re: Home of Gibbor120 08 Jun 2017 04:13 #314894

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Happy anniversary! Thanks for your constant chizuk.
Feel free to contact me at michelgelner@gmail.com

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Re: Home of Gibbor120 08 Jun 2017 19:41 #314922

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If I  remember correctly,  you had a fairly high count of sobriety at one time and then had a fall. You picked yourself up and then went on to the eight years - KEYN YIRBOO
I have reached a plateau of hundreds of days of sobriety twice already.  I am definitely using you as a model of "success" - if you will - that I too B"H wish to reach.
Your insightful remarks have also been very beneficial.
Stick around my good man - you are very much appreciated. 

Re: Home of Gibbor120 04 Aug 2017 20:08 #318322

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POST # 5000!

Re: Home of Gibbor120 04 Aug 2017 20:16 #318323

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כי עיקר מציאות האדם בעה"ז הוא רק לקיים מצות ולעמד בניסיון,  והנאות העולם אין ראוי שיהו לו אלא לעזר ולסיוע בלבד לשיהיה לו נחת רוח ויישוב הדעת למען יוכל לפנות לבו אל העבודה הזאת מסילת ישרים

Re: Home of Gibbor120 04 Aug 2017 20:21 #318324

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gibbor120 wrote on 04 Aug 2017 20:08:
POST # 5000!

Mazel Tov!!

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Re: Home of Gibbor120 04 Aug 2017 20:35 #318326

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Don't think I'm a hero.  Certainly not based on number of posts.

B"H doing well.  I really try to be busy with good things and not have too much down time.  Summertime can be hard for shmiras aynayim, but one thing that helps me is that even if I look I reeeealy try not to fantasize about it, and B"H I am usually successful.  It makes a huge difference. Hanging on to something I saw is more destructive than seeing it in the first place.

Just a nugget.  I hope you are all doing well and enjoying your summer.
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