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TOPIC: Make it to Yeshiva 108650 Views
Re: Make it to Yeshiva 25 Dec 2020 01:02 #359687
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YeshivaGuy wrote on 25 Dec 2020 00:49:
Looking_to_improve wrote on 24 Dec 2020 23:41: YeshivaGuy wrote on 24 Dec 2020 22:07: Few days ago I went to a miny restaurant, and the waitress was a 20year old Jewish girl. She was very nice, and was attractive. Naturally, in my head I’m like “she wants to have sex with me. I should get her number/flirt with her...” But then I’m like, maybe not  Like she’d put her hands in her coat pockets and push down, and she looked a bit more pretty. So at first I’m like, omg she’s doing it for me! She’s super into me. Then I’m like, maybe she just likes doing that... Anyway, I definitely have this “lust mentality” which I very much want to change. I’m a guy in Yeshiva, I thought I wouldn’t be such a behaima and think about this stuff... Can I make a suggestion, to try help you out and maybe try change this lust mentality? I want to preface it by saying that I really appreciate your honesty and truth in how you write. Perhaps when describing a situation which you struggled in, maybe try spare the details. I didn't find it triggering, but I think your goal should be to try change your mentality like you said, not to suppress your feelings of lust. If you are recalling the details of the situation, a few days later, it may be bringing up more lust within you, which you are trying to suppress, it sounds like you might still be pondering, maybe fantasising about the situation to a degree. If you were on a diet going into the same restaurant, trying to avoid a certain food, maybe you would say they had a food I'm avoiding, and I did a good/bad job in the moment, I would think this would be a good mindset to stick to the diet. If I describe the smell and the aroma, the icing on the cake, or how the meat sizzled etc. a few days later, it kind of sounds like I want to stick to the diet, yet I'm still recalling the exact thing that's likely to make me want to eat the food more. Your a great poster, we won't lose out if you leave out a couple of details, but you may gain by not keeping it on your mind for as long. It's also entirely possible that you are able to analyse your throughts throughout the day without it causing feelings of lust within you. I don't think I've conveyed my point so clearly. If I didn't, I can try elaborate some other time.  Warning: Spoiler!Got it, shkoyach I included more details cuz I was pained by the situation. I was sitting with a friend of mine who was more modern and he wasn’t fazed, and me, the more Yeshivish guy who’s chosen to live more sheltered, is having all these thoughts and going nuts... He’s like hanging with girls, but I’m in Yeshiva staying away.. I don’t regret my decision. But it’s difficult sometimes... He's probably desensitized, not something to want to emulate. |
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Re: Make it to Yeshiva 25 Dec 2020 01:09 #359688
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mggsbms wrote on 25 Dec 2020 01:02:
YeshivaGuy wrote on 25 Dec 2020 00:49: Looking_to_improve wrote on 24 Dec 2020 23:41: YeshivaGuy wrote on 24 Dec 2020 22:07: Few days ago I went to a miny restaurant, and the waitress was a 20year old Jewish girl. She was very nice, and was attractive. Naturally, in my head I’m like “she wants to have sex with me. I should get her number/flirt with her...” But then I’m like, maybe not Like she’d put her hands in her coat pockets and push down, and she looked a bit more pretty. So at first I’m like, omg she’s doing it for me! She’s super into me. Then I’m like, maybe she just likes doing that... Anyway, I definitely have this “lust mentality” which I very much want to change. I’m a guy in Yeshiva, I thought I wouldn’t be such a behaima and think about this stuff... Can I make a suggestion, to try help you out and maybe try change this lust mentality? I want to preface it by saying that I really appreciate your honesty and truth in how you write. Perhaps when describing a situation which you struggled in, maybe try spare the details. I didn't find it triggering, but I think your goal should be to try change your mentality like you said, not to suppress your feelings of lust. If you are recalling the details of the situation, a few days later, it may be bringing up more lust within you, which you are trying to suppress, it sounds like you might still be pondering, maybe fantasising about the situation to a degree. If you were on a diet going into the same restaurant, trying to avoid a certain food, maybe you would say they had a food I'm avoiding, and I did a good/bad job in the moment, I would think this would be a good mindset to stick to the diet. If I describe the smell and the aroma, the icing on the cake, or how the meat sizzled etc. a few days later, it kind of sounds like I want to stick to the diet, yet I'm still recalling the exact thing that's likely to make me want to eat the food more. Your a great poster, we won't lose out if you leave out a couple of details, but you may gain by not keeping it on your mind for as long. It's also entirely possible that you are able to analyse your throughts throughout the day without it causing feelings of lust within you. I don't think I've conveyed my point so clearly. If I didn't, I can try elaborate some other time. Warning: Spoiler!Got it, shkoyach I included more details cuz I was pained by the situation. I was sitting with a friend of mine who was more modern and he wasn’t fazed, and me, the more Yeshivish guy who’s chosen to live more sheltered, is having all these thoughts and going nuts... He’s like hanging with girls, but I’m in Yeshiva staying away.. I don’t regret my decision. But it’s difficult sometimes... He's probably desensitized, not something to want to emulate. That’s right. He’s the one that’s sheltered living in the dark. You’re a Free man! Granted it’s tough being free. It’s cheaper and easier to stay in prison. But is it a life we want to live for 1 minute? |
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Re: Make it to Yeshiva 25 Dec 2020 01:36 #359692
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Re: Make it to Yeshiva 25 Dec 2020 05:08 #359704
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ה׳ עמך גבור החיל! [שופטים ו׳ יב׳] |
Re: Make it to Yeshiva 26 Dec 2020 23:57 #359776
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Re: Make it to Yeshiva 27 Dec 2020 05:45 #359801
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Re: Make it to Yeshiva 27 Dec 2020 05:46 #359802
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Feel free to contact me at michelgelner@gmail.com
My threads: Lessons Learned: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/335248-Lessons-Learned My Story and G-d Bless GYE: guardyoureyes.com/forum/17-Balei-Battims-Forum/303036-My-story-and-G-d-bless-GYE |
Re: Make it to Yeshiva 27 Dec 2020 14:18 #359833
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Re: Make it to Yeshiva 27 Dec 2020 19:40 #359857
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Re: Make it to Yeshiva 27 Dec 2020 20:32 #359862
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Re: Make it to Yeshiva 27 Dec 2020 20:33 #359864
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ה׳ עמך גבור החיל! [שופטים ו׳ יב׳] |
Re: Make it to Yeshiva 27 Dec 2020 20:36 #359865
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ה׳ עמך גבור החיל! [שופטים ו׳ יב׳] |
Re: Make it to Yeshiva 27 Dec 2020 20:56 #359868
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Check out My Thread and The Truth
(עשה רצונו כרצונך (אבות,ב:ד Feel free to email me wilnevergiveupgye@gmail.com |
Re: Make it to Yeshiva 27 Dec 2020 23:44 #359881
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Re: Make it to Yeshiva 27 Dec 2020 23:53 #359884
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