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hi 26 Dec 2017 18:28 #324209

Al322
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Hi,
Just joined last night. Have been struggling with internet filth for around 30 years. Have a wife and family. Only I know. Have had periods of quiet but not too many. Quit smoking last year and I see an addiction can be broken. This will be harder. Watched the video from Dr. Patrick Carnes in the videos/talks-shiurim section. some notes:

It's a 3-5 year effort.
40 days clean has an effect on your brain
Next 90 days reshape your attitudes
many lapse in the second 6 months.

First step: Do the 90 day challenge - each day will read one section in part one of the GYE guidebook and one section in part two of the GYE guidebook and summarize these in a notebook.

Re: hi 26 Dec 2017 19:11 #324210

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Re: hi 26 Dec 2017 21:09 #324218

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Re: hi 27 Dec 2017 00:28 #324231

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Re: hi 27 Dec 2017 01:33 #324237

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Re: hi 27 Dec 2017 04:56 #324244

Al322 OFFLINE Fresh Boarder Posts: 2 Karma: 2	I see. Dov’s posts are fascinating and helpful. I am not addicted to that level (pushing boundaries and putting my life in danger or at risk of ruin). I am considered an addict according to this screening: https://www.recoveryzone.com/tests/sex-addiction/SAST/index.php

Re: hi 02 Jan 2018 23:20 #324602

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Re: hi 02 Jan 2018 23:20 #324603

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Hi welcome.

From my experience a relapse can happen at any time..after one day or after 300 days.

Stress can bring it on, so can tiredness, emotional hurt etc.

HALT has helped me.

These are triggers which can cause a relapse.

Hungry
Angry (Resentful/In emotional pain)
Loneliness
Tiredness

Be aware of one of these or any combination of these.
They make you vulnerable.
So if you manage to recognise them, reach out to a supportive friend or log into here and chat to others who understand.
Or go for a walk, anything healthy to de-stress.
Or in the case of hunger - eat!

Do not be hard on yourself, do not feel low self-esteem.
Keep positive, keep motivated.

Re: hi 03 Jan 2018 02:31 #324614

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Welcome. Sounds like your doing the right thing. Glad your here.

Much Hatzlacha!

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Re: hi 03 Jan 2018 02:38 #324615

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Re: hi 09 Jan 2018 15:25 #325094

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Re: hi 12 Jan 2018 20:25 #325401

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Al322 wrote on 26 Dec 2017 18:28:

It's a 3-5 year effort.
40 days clean has an effect on your brain
Next 90 days reshape your attitudes
many lapse in the second 6 months.

First step: Do the 90 day challenge - each day will read one section in part one of the GYE guidebook and one section in part two of the GYE guidebook and summarize these in a notebook.

Hey welcome,
I liked the points you raised gave me what to think about.
Hatzlacha

Re: hi 14 Jan 2018 02:01 #325407

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Welcome wishing you a lot of hatzlacha!

BTW do you have a filter? You say your problem is with internet filth a filter will probably be a great 1st step!

Lots of Love Yankel!

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