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TOPIC: Starting Again... 13380 Views
Re: Starting Again... 30 Aug 2021 22:30 #372025
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Re: Starting Again... 30 Aug 2021 22:34 #372026
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I am a bochur with a passion for meaning and truth, searching to remain clean and live a holy and fulfilling life.
If you are reading this-you have a friend in me. Feel free to PM me and I'll share my offline contact information, so we can call and text. I'd be honored if you'd trust me with your story and promise to support you in any way I possibly can. I've been on GYE for over 7 years. "I may walk slow, but I never walk back" (-Abraham Lincoln?). (For the background and meaning of my username- see Tanya chapter 15). My current thread |
Re: Starting Again... 30 Aug 2021 22:39 #372027
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Aka - Mischadeish075 Email mischadeish075@gmail.com
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Re: Starting Again... 30 Aug 2021 22:58 #372032
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Feel free to contact me at michelgelner@gmail.com
My threads: Lessons Learned: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/335248-Lessons-Learned My Story and G-d Bless GYE: guardyoureyes.com/forum/17-Balei-Battims-Forum/303036-My-story-and-G-d-bless-GYE |
Re: Starting Again... 31 Aug 2021 19:05 #372067
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Re: Starting Again... 02 Sep 2021 07:04 #372129
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Re: Starting Again... 02 Sep 2021 07:49 #372132
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Re: Starting Again... 03 Sep 2021 13:08 #372173
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Check out my thread The Easy Peasy Method
Or just read the book. Based on Alan Carr's Easyway. "All porn ever does is relieve the withdrawal symptoms that it causes, and it ceases to relieve them completely." |
Re: Starting Again... 09 Sep 2021 07:02 #372276
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Re: Starting Again... 09 Sep 2021 11:19 #372278
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Hi Lou,
Perhaps this can help  Markz wrote: Where's the hundreds of new members??
MOAYT "Missed Opportunity Aseres Yemei Teshuva" I'm sharing this thought because I see others are having the same thing, what I went thru too for many many many years As yechidah wrote yesterday, Rosh Hashana is a time of awesome light in the darkness. It uplifts us. The problem however is that we put limitations into the measure of light we will allow in Or from a different angle: Rock bottom is the point of return where guys will take the brave step and do whatever it takes to get real sober, whether with Taphsic that honestly works for them (some try 100 different versions of Taphsic. Brother either it works for you or it doesn't), or opening up with Dov or Cordnoy, or meetings etc... Many of us with the inspiration of these awesome days say to ourselves on AYT "Ok I'm at rock bottom. My life as a Jew sucks. I'm willing to do whatever it takes". But... It's a catch 22. The inspiration and dread alone which brings the feeling of rockbottom, that itself was sufficient to enable me to stay clean, although a form of white knuckling. Which locked me in a mindset of "why do I need to do anything else for my recovery" So, many take it halfway. We take the boost Gd gives us to go to full recovery mode which for many means realizing we can't do it on our own, and get out of anonymity - (read the first "dov quote"). Instead of that we resort to "white knuckling" which during Elul and AYT is smooth sailing for many. But then the light dims after YK, cause Gd says "I gave you the boost, Now you're on your own", and that is when we are dismayed to learn that we missed a golden opportunity, and it's more difficult to get the push then to get on the road to real recovery, or to realize rock bottom'ing I was sure that Elul and the AYT is a time of high GYE membership, but it didn't happen, why? I think the answer is as I mentioned, that it's simply easier to white knuckle these days, so "although I was more inspired to get clean these days, I didn't feel the urgency to join GYE" Current members of GYE can also have similar feelings "I'm sufficiently inspired to be clean at least until YK, who knows what will be after...". And they don't join the real GYE recovery train Until a short while after YK - days or hours, we realize sadly that we missed the awesome opportunity G'mar Chasima guys, I hope you feel the light and allow it to shine through the whole year, and share some with us please :-) |
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Re: Starting Again... 10 Sep 2021 05:52 #372309
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Markz wrote on 09 Sep 2021 11:19:
Hi Lou, Perhaps this can help Markz wrote: Where's the hundreds of new members?? MOAYT "Missed Opportunity Aseres Yemei Teshuva" I'm sharing this thought because I see others are having the same thing, what I went thru too for many many many years As yechidah wrote yesterday, Rosh Hashana is a time of awesome light in the darkness. It uplifts us. The problem however is that we put limitations into the measure of light we will allow in Or from a different angle: Rock bottom is the point of return where guys will take the brave step and do whatever it takes to get real sober, whether with Taphsic that honestly works for them (some try 100 different versions of Taphsic. Brother either it works for you or it doesn't), or opening up with Dov or Cordnoy, or meetings etc... Many of us with the inspiration of these awesome days say to ourselves on AYT "Ok I'm at rock bottom. My life as a Jew sucks. I'm willing to do whatever it takes". But... It's a catch 22. The inspiration and dread alone which brings the feeling of rockbottom, that itself was sufficient to enable me to stay clean, although a form of white knuckling. Which locked me in a mindset of "why do I need to do anything else for my recovery" So, many take it halfway. We take the boost Gd gives us to go to full recovery mode which for many means realizing we can't do it on our own, and get out of anonymity - (read the first "dov quote"). Instead of that we resort to "white knuckling" which during Elul and AYT is smooth sailing for many. But then the light dims after YK, cause Gd says "I gave you the boost, Now you're on your own", and that is when we are dismayed to learn that we missed a golden opportunity, and it's more difficult to get the push then to get on the road to real recovery, or to realize rock bottom'ing I was sure that Elul and the AYT is a time of high GYE membership, but it didn't happen, why? I think the answer is as I mentioned, that it's simply easier to white knuckle these days, so "although I was more inspired to get clean these days, I didn't feel the urgency to join GYE" Current members of GYE can also have similar feelings "I'm sufficiently inspired to be clean at least until YK, who knows what will be after...". And they don't join the real GYE recovery train Until a short while after YK - days or hours, we realize sadly that we missed the awesome opportunity G'mar Chasima guys, I hope you feel the light and allow it to shine through the whole year, and share some with us please :-) Thank you for sharing... I am just trying to figure out,was there an eitza in there or just bemoaning the fact that people aren't looking for long term improvement? I can sometimes miss things stated in a post so I wanted to double check. Thanks |
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Re: Starting Again... 10 Sep 2021 08:20 #372315
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Lou wrote on 10 Sep 2021 05:52:
Markz wrote on 09 Sep 2021 11:19: Hi Lou, Perhaps this can help Markz wrote: Where's the hundreds of new members?? MOAYT "Missed Opportunity Aseres Yemei Teshuva" I'm sharing this thought because I see others are having the same thing, what I went thru too for many many many years As yechidah wrote yesterday, Rosh Hashana is a time of awesome light in the darkness. It uplifts us. The problem however is that we put limitations into the measure of light we will allow in Or from a different angle: Rock bottom is the point of return where guys will take the brave step and do whatever it takes to get real sober, whether with Taphsic that honestly works for them (some try 100 different versions of Taphsic. Brother either it works for you or it doesn't), or opening up with Dov or Cordnoy, or meetings etc... Many of us with the inspiration of these awesome days say to ourselves on AYT "Ok I'm at rock bottom. My life as a Jew sucks. I'm willing to do whatever it takes". But... It's a catch 22. The inspiration and dread alone which brings the feeling of rockbottom, that itself was sufficient to enable me to stay clean, although a form of white knuckling. Which locked me in a mindset of "why do I need to do anything else for my recovery" So, many take it halfway. We take the boost Gd gives us to go to full recovery mode which for many means realizing we can't do it on our own, and get out of anonymity - (read the first "dov quote"). Instead of that we resort to "white knuckling" which during Elul and AYT is smooth sailing for many. But then the light dims after YK, cause Gd says "I gave you the boost, Now you're on your own", and that is when we are dismayed to learn that we missed a golden opportunity, and it's more difficult to get the push then to get on the road to real recovery, or to realize rock bottom'ing I was sure that Elul and the AYT is a time of high GYE membership, but it didn't happen, why? I think the answer is as I mentioned, that it's simply easier to white knuckle these days, so "although I was more inspired to get clean these days, I didn't feel the urgency to join GYE" Current members of GYE can also have similar feelings "I'm sufficiently inspired to be clean at least until YK, who knows what will be after...". And they don't join the real GYE recovery train Until a short while after YK - days or hours, we realize sadly that we missed the awesome opportunity G'mar Chasima guys, I hope you feel the light and allow it to shine through the whole year, and share some with us please :-) Thank you for sharing... I am just trying to figure out,was there an eitza in there or just bemoaning the fact that people aren't looking for long term improvement? I can sometimes miss things stated in a post so I wanted to double check. Thanks I think the hidden eitzah is in the following quotes: Or from a different angle: Rock bottom is the point of return where guys will take the brave step and do whatever it takes to get real sober, whether with Taphsic that honestly works for them (some try 100 different versions of Taphsic. Brother either it works for you or it doesn't), or opening up with Dov or Cordnoy, or meetings etc.. |
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Check out My Thread and The Truth
(עשה רצונו כרצונך (אבות,ב:ד Feel free to email me wilnevergiveupgye@gmail.com |
Re: Starting Again... 14 Sep 2021 03:40 #372423
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Re: Starting Again... 17 Sep 2021 07:41 #372505
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Re: Starting Again... 17 Sep 2021 14:50 #372520
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"If I am not for myself, who will be for me? But if I am only for myself, who am I? If not now, when?"
feel free to reach out @ ahavayirah@gmail.com |
