Tips & Suggestions

It’s the hardest physical challenge of a Navy SEAL’s 24-week training. It’s where the remaining 20% of recruits are whittled down to the 5%. A former Navy SEAL who got through ‘Hell Week’ shared an important idea that we can all use to get through our challenge. Hell Wee...

How old will be you be in seven years if you don’t go to medical school (or fulfill any other ambition)? – Pauline Phillips (“Dear Abby”) Abigail Van Buren, who penned the long-running “Dear Abby” advice columns from 1956 until her death in 2013, was actually a Jewish wom...

I just read the vort "The Problem of Instant Gratification" in your parsha newsletter (page 4). It reminded me of a nice true story of the same idea that I heard about 40 years ago in Israel. A chossid was once lying in bed on a freezing morning in Russia. He was craving...

I’m a Rebbe in a Yeshiva Elementary School. This past week, we met with the parents of a young man with severe anxiety as we prepared to set him up for the coming school year. Meeting by Zoom, we were joined by parents, teachers, administration and the boy's psychologist....

In recent weeks I've been thinking about something I saw in one of Rabbi Noach Weinberg’s books where he speaks about reaching our goals. He says that the most common reason we don’t reach our goals is because it feels “heavy”, “painful” or “hard”, and therefore we don’t ...

Question: I’m 18 and according to Chazal I should get married. It is just not fair! My desires and urges are so great but I have at least 3 years to go until I get married! Sometimes I just feel like giving up. What is the proper outlook? Answer: First of all, Hashem sen...

I wanted to share my recent experience in the hopes that it can be mechazik others. I’m 30 and married, and like so many of us I’ve been batting in this area for years. There’s always ups and downs, but eventually I reached a point at which I felt I had things under co...

In response to Chizuk Boost #572: Bad Remorse Versus Good Remorse someone wrote: Thank you very much. I needed to hear this, and it is very true point. But what should I do when I try to be positive and move forward with joy and optimism, but then the thought comes "But h...

Every human being has a compartment in their brain for the area of intimacy. As long as this so-called "box" hasn't been opened yet, it remains only in potential and does not take up much bandwidth in the mind, if any at all. This is the normal case with pre-adolescent ...

I wanted to just share this... Recently, a fellow that I know from many years back was arrested for some deviant behavior in the realm of z'nus. Here was a guy just about my age and on the surface seemed to have had it all. A great job, beautiful family, prominence in the...