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Here are a few interesting things I've been thinking about to keep myself inspired, and I wanted to share them: 1) Imagine walking around and everyone in the world knows what you are thinking. You would make sure not to see or think anything bad. Well, guess what? In just...

From TorahAnyTime's weekly Parsha Newsletter. Reb Tzadok of Lublin writes, “Kol adam yesh lo chemda – Every person possesses an inner desire.” It may be for money, physical pleasure, honor, or a variety of other pursuits. “But one should know,” says Rav Tzadok, “that thes...

Set your Window's login password to something like "Iwillguardmyeyes" or "shvisihashemlinegdi" or "losasuru" or "Hashemiswatching". Each time you log in to your computer, you will be reminding yourself to be on guard! Another idea: Write the words and stick it on your com...

"Dave M" Writes: When I started my clean streak from the real bad stuff, I was still watching "clean" moves and shows. However, I realized that this was only making the fight much harder. I finally admitted to myself that I needed to stop the movies too. Since then the fi...

Stress and Anxiety are common underlying reasons for escape into destructive pleasure based behaviors. Dr. Rosemerin developed 4 exercises for increasing bitachon which he has scientifically proven through a randomized controlled trial to reduce anxiety and stress eve...

I want to share an idea I read that really helped me out in all areas of desire. By that I mean, wherever it isn't intellect that is causing you to do or not do something, but rather desire or emotion. The method is to sit down and think through, or write down, all the p...

It’s the hardest physical challenge of a Navy SEAL’s 24-week training. It’s where the remaining 20% of recruits are whittled down to the 5%. A former Navy SEAL who got through ‘Hell Week’ shared an important idea that we can all use to get through our challenge. Hell Wee...

How old will be you be in seven years if you don’t go to medical school (or fulfill any other ambition)? – Pauline Phillips (“Dear Abby”) Abigail Van Buren, who penned the long-running “Dear Abby” advice columns from 1956 until her death in 2013, was actually a Jewish wom...

I just read the vort "The Problem of Instant Gratification" in your parsha newsletter (page 4). It reminded me of a nice true story of the same idea that I heard about 40 years ago in Israel. A chossid was once lying in bed on a freezing morning in Russia. He was craving...

I’m a Rebbe in a Yeshiva Elementary School. This past week, we met with the parents of a young man with severe anxiety as we prepared to set him up for the coming school year. Meeting by Zoom, we were joined by parents, teachers, administration and the boy's psychologist....

In recent weeks I've been thinking about something I saw in one of Rabbi Noach Weinberg’s books where he speaks about reaching our goals. He says that the most common reason we don’t reach our goals is because it feels “heavy”, “painful” or “hard”, and therefore we don’t ...

Question: I’m 18 and according to Chazal I should get married. It is just not fair! My desires and urges are so great but I have at least 3 years to go until I get married! Sometimes I just feel like giving up. What is the proper outlook? Answer: First of all, Hashem sen...

I wanted to share my recent experience in the hopes that it can be mechazik others. I’m 30 and married, and like so many of us I’ve been batting in this area for years. There’s always ups and downs, but eventually I reached a point at which I felt I had things under co...

In response to Chizuk Boost #572: Bad Remorse Versus Good Remorse someone wrote: Thank you very much. I needed to hear this, and it is very true point. But what should I do when I try to be positive and move forward with joy and optimism, but then the thought comes "But h...

Every human being has a compartment in their brain for the area of intimacy. As long as this so-called "box" hasn't been opened yet, it remains only in potential and does not take up much bandwidth in the mind, if any at all. This is the normal case with pre-adolescent ...

I wanted to just share this... Recently, a fellow that I know from many years back was arrested for some deviant behavior in the realm of z'nus. Here was a guy just about my age and on the surface seemed to have had it all. A great job, beautiful family, prominence in the...

“AnonyJew” wrote: I'm just starting out on my journey. I jumped right into the 90 day challenge and made it 5 days before stumbling. But I didn't let the fall drag me down and just brushed myself off and restarted, but I realized that signing up to this website and saying...