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We are very excited to announce our brand new hotline! 646-493-6600 ​The purpose of the hotline is that people should be able to easily access and listen to information and many useful tools & techniques for recovery as well as get chizzuk and listen to shiurim on top...

Set your Window's login password to something like "Iwillguardmyeyes" or "shvisihashemlinegdi" or "losasuru" or "Hashemiswatching". Each time you log in to your computer, you will be reminding yourself to be on guard! Another idea: Write the words and stick it on your com...

"Dave M" Writes: When I started my clean streak from the real bad stuff, I was still watching "clean" moves and shows. However, I realized that this was only making the fight much harder. I finally admitted to myself that I needed to stop the movies too. Since then the fi...

I want to share an idea I read that really helped me out in all areas of desire. By that I mean, wherever it isn't intellect that is causing you to do or not do something, but rather desire or emotion. The method is to sit down and think through, or write down, all the p...

I just read the vort "The Problem of Instant Gratification" in your parsha newsletter (page 4). It reminded me of a nice true story of the same idea that I heard about 40 years ago in Israel. A chossid was once lying in bed on a freezing morning in Russia. He was craving...

I’m a Rebbe in a Yeshiva Elementary School. This past week, we met with the parents of a young man with severe anxiety as we prepared to set him up for the coming school year. Meeting by Zoom, we were joined by parents, teachers, administration and the boy's psychologist....

“AnonyJew” wrote: I'm just starting out on my journey. I jumped right into the 90 day challenge and made it 5 days before stumbling. But I didn't let the fall drag me down and just brushed myself off and restarted, but I realized that signing up to this website and saying...

Question from member "wilnevergiveup": I am a serious avreich learning full time, I learn mussar regularly and constantly strengthen myself with various incentives. I can then usually keep myself clean for 2-3 weeks, then this or that and I am back to square one. I will t...

Question: I need to air out and relax from work, family, etc. How can I deal with stress? I'm looking for healthy ideas and (non-addictive) outlets... Reply: In general, the best way to deal with stress is to ask ourselves at every given moment "What would Hashem want ...

We all know that empty pleasure seeking throws us into isolation, distances us from our loved ones (and Hashem), and sucks all the joy out of our lives. But with all this time on our hands, what can we do to ensure that we don’t get "infected"? Here are a few tips to hel...

Click here to listen to a short audio (4 min), describing the background to this challenge. It all started in the garden of Eden thousands of years ago, as it says: "And she SAW that the tree was good to eat and that it was DESIRABLE TO THE EYES..." As the final generati...

Before I share what works for me, I want to thank this wonderful organization from the bottom of my heart for the amazing things it has accomplished.  Without the GYE community, I would be lost as I try to navigate this increasingly insane world.

Today is the 19th of Kislev, the yahrzeit of the Maggid of Mezritch. I was learning his sefer and he was talking about fearing Hashem and loving Hashem.

Here is my response to the statement below: "I am going to have bad days, days when I slip into anger, resentment, and self-pity. Days that I may even scream at wife and kids but I have not lost my sobriety for that. BUT, if I act out, I am basically back to the starting ...

Whether you’re an athlete, entrepreneur, teacher, parent, manager, or - fill in the blank here -, what percentage of your game do you think is mental? When Lanny Bassham, our Olympic gold-medal-winner, asks elite performers that question, they all say that elite perfo...

Habit #2 of "Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" by Stephen Covey Begin with the End in Mind So, once we move from being reactive to being proactive (Habit #1), we realize we aren’t victims. We’re creators. Which, naturally, begs the question: What do we want to ...

Your phone’s slick, minimalist shell betrays a cacophony of alerts from apps, notifications from non-humans, and icons your fingers barely intended to graze. Yet there you are, ten minutes later, not even using the toilet at that point. Tristan Harris, a former design eth...

Triggers: The Why Matters In order how to understand how triggers work and how to avoid them, the larger question of the why a person is triggered must be addressed. A preoccupation with pornography might begin as just that--a preoccupation/bad habit--but it can easily mo...