LifneiHashem wrote:

AWESOME!!!!!

I love how guys open up in real and then can't find time to post with us losers ;-)

Way to go! Big step.

Isn't it the best?
"Hey you! I masturbate compulsively!"
Ah. Feels good. 

It's the honeymoon phase of recovery. But soon it turns into hard work again

WOW! AMAZING!

I think I started a thread on that topic to give people who are considering opening up chizzuk.  Markz, anyone, remember what it's called?

I can't wait to hear about it.

Also, wet dreams should not be a concern.  In recovery, they will occur less frequently.  There is no way to reduce them directly.  Work on recovery, and it will become a more rare occurence.

gibbor120 wrote:

No - no one gave me chizuk for that :-(

 I just got into the truck and blasted my horn, so now I have contact #'s on my phone ;-)

So I have a close friend who works in the counseling field and has exposure/ familiarity with addiction and recovery. After months of procrastinating & chickening out I finally told him about my ongoing problems. Wow, it was NOT easy to verbalize! He was super supportive and said I need to recognize how special it is to want to change and do something about it. He pointed out that regardless if I'm an "addict" or not, he knows plenty of non addicts who are content to live with porn, and it's special that I'm working on changing my life and accomplishing.
It was definitely easier to reach out to him with the intro that I'm clean since Rosh Chodesh Elul, but It feels good to have a  person who knows who I am to reach out to. 

Very nice

Good fit, an addiction counsellor. Much Hashgocha there.
I have yet to open up to anyone close to me, ie rov, family, etc. SAA meetings are the farthest I've gone. Feels good, yeah?

Singularity wrote:

I was trying to say he's not an addiction counselor,but it's not something totally foreign to him because he has exposure to many people with addiction. People have spoken about opening up to rebbe & it's obvious from the rebbes response that he cannot relate with the situation at all. 

KKal hakkkavod!

Thanks! Means a lot 

Very Inspiring! KUTGW!

LifneiHashem wrote on 11 Jan 2017 11:18:

Sorry, I didn't read it quite right. Still, exposure to addiction in his field is good. Most people don't know about it at all.

They should have a repository of rebbes who have also had lust addictions so you know whom to open up to. \

just joking






yup

Oh, it's not a joke. This disease doesn't discriminate. A guy I know in SA met his mesader kedushin at one of his first meetings.

mega awks as my kids would say

I wanted to share that I'm going through extreme stress at work these days but BH my auto response of immediately going to p&m + tv for comfort is gone. In the past during such situations it was my right and even well earned reward. 

Singularity wrote on 12 Jan 2017 08:01:

Why kidding? I wouldn't suggest exactly a repository of rabbis  but I do feel that oh too many rabbonim and therapists on unaware of this thing called addiction and so many people would've benefited had their rabbi, ruv, rosh yeshiva, therapist etc. know to suggest the 12 steps.... Just my feeling on this topic, not blaming anyone or suggesting a way to change this but I personally delayed dealing with my addiction 4 years because of the above....