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Re: Here we go 20 Oct 2016 18:45 #296668

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cordnoy wrote:

Aryeh821 wrote:
So Should i go ahead with it ?

How many opinions do you want?

Just a unanimous one
im just very confused when i finished with dov i thought that was the correct course but after i asked advice on how to do it both Markz and shlomo didn't think that would be the right path to take so now im not sure
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Re: Here we go 20 Oct 2016 19:10 #296675

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Well, if there is indeed a מחלוקת, you will never get it unanimous again.

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Re: Here we go 20 Oct 2016 19:40 #296680

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Aryeh821 wrote:

cordnoy wrote:

Aryeh821 wrote:
So Should i go ahead with it ?

How many opinions do you want?

Just a unanimous one
im just very confused when i finished with dov i thought that was the correct course but after i asked advice on how to do it both Markz and shlomo didn't think that would be the right path to take so now im not sure

Said what.  I only asked a question, and your reply made sense. Btw I think the Mom will usually be more understanding, but maybe that's what I think about my Mom
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Re: Here we go 22 Oct 2016 05:35 #296727

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Re: Here we go 23 Oct 2016 03:27 #296759

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Markz wrote on 20 Oct 2016 19:40:

Aryeh821 wrote:

cordnoy wrote:

Aryeh821 wrote:
So Should i go ahead with it ?

How many opinions do you want?

Just a unanimous one
im just very confused when i finished with dov i thought that was the correct course but after i asked advice on how to do it both Markz and shlomo didn't think that would be the right path to take so now im not sure

Said what.  I only asked a question, and your reply made sense. Btw I think the Mom will usually be more understanding, but maybe that's what I think about my Mom

Definitely depends on the case. I would MUCH rather talk to my dad first about lots of things. I always assume he tells my mom, but it still works better for me.
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Re: Here we go 20 Nov 2016 03:58 #298088

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Hey chevra so long story short i told my father in very vague terms and he didn't prod which i'm really thankful for and neither did he freak out at all 
B''H hes found me a psychologist and i went once already so a lot to say but cant right now because i have tons of work just really wanted to express my gratitude to everyone who pushed me to do this and of course HIM for helping me out 
bigger update to come later not really sure when 
gut voch to all 
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Re: Here we go 29 Nov 2016 20:01 #298795

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Wow! Amazing! Would love to hear more.

Re: Here we go 18 Dec 2016 04:34 #300149

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So its really been amazing and game changing 
first off i have him many things which i never ever thought i would tell anyone including how this started and what types of stuff i'm looking at/watching and thanks to him my house is as far as i know filtered and in fact when i came home from yeshiva last week and for the first time i couldn't watch anything i had this most amazing sense of freedom and at the same time utter imprisonment i also discovered how far i will go to get porn when i am turned on ( watching stuff in plain sight with my brother one room over)
telling my baggage really has lifted a weight off my heart and my mother even mentioned that since I havve gone to see  him I have been a lot happier
i just want to share one thing he told me from my last session "people think addicts take their substances (whatever it is) to get high but they aren't we are doing it to get level"  (sorry took so long hard to find a good time to post)
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Re: Here we go 18 Dec 2016 04:50 #300150

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Re: Here we go 28 Dec 2016 04:11 #301352

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Bump
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Re: Here we go 28 Dec 2016 04:15 #301354

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stillgoing wrote on 28 Dec 2016 04:11:
Bump

what does that mean 
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Re: Here we go 28 Dec 2016 04:27 #301356

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Aryeh821 wrote on 28 Dec 2016 04:15:

stillgoing wrote on 28 Dec 2016 04:11:
Bump

what does that mean 


It means that I saw you lurking on another thread, so I bumped your thread up to the recent topics list in the hopes that you'll give us another update. :-)
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Re: Here we go 28 Dec 2016 04:35 #301358

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SG you beat me to it :-(

I think we need to add "Bump" to the GYE Glossary Of Terms
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Re: Here we go 28 Dec 2016 04:37 #301359

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stillgoing wrote on 28 Dec 2016 04:27:

Aryeh821 wrote on 28 Dec 2016 04:15:

stillgoing wrote on 28 Dec 2016 04:11:
Bump

what does that mean 


It means that I saw you lurking on another thread, so I bumped your thread up to the recent topics list in the hopes that you'll give us another update. :-)

thanks for that (having a conversation in two different threads is a shtikl confusing)
there is not much to update cause i have been sick so i haven't gone recently but the last time i went i opened up to him about two of my main fantasies and one of them i really thought i would never ever tell anyone and it actually took  a while for my self to accept it (its sort of a ssa type fantasy) and the only time i ever felt the apprehension like i left before telling him was before i opened up the first time to my mashgiach
I'm going back tomorrow night so maybe update then ill have to see if i get a chance     
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Re: Here we go 08 Jan 2017 04:16 #302482

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hey all im going yeshivah tommorow and dont expect to be back till friday so if i dont reply its not becuase im ignoring you (although i a may just not nessacrily)
I'm having a really tough time right now, my house has become all filtered EXECPT my family room computer because of a glitch
so i asked my father numerous times to put a filter on and each time he said we would get to it but never ended up doing it 
my question now is what does HE want from me , my psychologist holds that at least in the beginning stages there must be a filter because otherwise i will go for it and i myself experienced this going farther than i would have every dreamed -watching porn in plain sight with my brother one room over, i did my hishtadlus didn't i? what else am i supposed to do?? what HE want me to do
thoughts? 
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