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Re: The best way to quit 12 May 2016 19:26 #287647

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Hello, my name is Shlomo mirror, and at the advise of realsimcha, I am trying to be a mirror to what is in Shlomo's mind. Mind you, I am a distorted mirror (in the words of Peloni) and not an x-Ray machine, so I definitely could be wrong, and I hope Shlomo will tell me so. 

Anon came on here offering advice that sounds to me and many others here as something that won't work. If he had tried it himself and had a good experience with it, then I'm all for sharing it. Even if I don't use it, someone else might.
The problem is, is that he never said a word if he struggles with the same issues as others here, and if he actually used this method with success. I should not have made fun of his post, but I do believe that pending conformation of this method actually working, it should be publicly discredited.
I believe I need to do this maybe because like stillgoing wrote, other new posters might get thrown off by his suggestion, or maybe for a different reason.
Maybe it just bothers me, after I spent so much time and energy (and money) working on my sobriety one day at a time, it hurts me to hear someone come and just blurt out an answer as if it's nothing. Let him try it in my shoes and then see if he still talks so big. And then there is that new mirror guy who- - never mind, I said I wasn't going to ridicule anymore. 

So how off was the distorted mirror? 
Last Edit: 12 May 2016 19:28 by mirror.

Re: The best way to quit 12 May 2016 20:26 #287656

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realsimcha wrote on 12 May 2016 18:51:
Funny. When I was reading through the thread it felt like mirror wasnt getting shlomo's point. You know what would be cool? [And skep would approve :wink:!] If mirror would write a post being explaining shlomo's perspective. And then, if that is accurate, Shlomo can reply with Mirror's perspective. I wonder if something like that  can work on our forum....????

Cool idea RS. Kudos to you.
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Re: The best way to quit 12 May 2016 23:34 #287668

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Mirror, I have to say that I owe you an apology. I thought you didn't get it. I didn't realize how serious, humble, and genuine you are. I give you credit for trying this, and even more, for [i think] getting it. I am sure - with those middos - that you have good things coming your way.
Last Edit: 12 May 2016 23:34 by realsimcha. Reason: left out a word

Re: The best way to quit 13 May 2016 00:42 #287671

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No need for an apology. Clarity in conversation is a must. I noticed that Shlomo has not weighted in yet on how dirty the mirror was. 
I would be curious if he touched on what i was trying to say previously, or if i was too unclear.

Re: The best way to quit 13 May 2016 01:11 #287675

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mirror wrote on 13 May 2016 00:42:
No need for an apology. Clarity in conversation is a must. I noticed that Shlomo has not weighted in yet on how dirty the mirror was. 
I would be curious if he touched on what i was trying to say previously, or if i was too unclear.


I'm replying on behalf of Shlomo, because he was the one that called my name at the beginning of this thread.

1 Minute Ago markz wrote on 13 May 2016 01:09:
Skep...
What would you do if I created another 25 new threads repeating the same thing as this thread, and not reply ever?
You would be aggravated to say the least


Many people would be aggravated
People would drop -25 karma as many many people did to anonymous_14
WHY?

Because he doesn't have the decency to be open and frank with the GYE fellowship
anonymous_14 ignored BigMoish here
He has ignored many others

SELFISHNESS and addiction are related: Creating new threads which upsets members is selfish, and I have asked him to keep his posts to one thread (which will fill his needs of posting on gye without sharing his story which he's not ready to do yet)
The forum is designed for communication, not kamakazi speeches

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Last Edit: 13 May 2016 01:12 by Markz.

Re: The best way to quit 13 May 2016 01:37 #287677

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That was an erroneous thank you. Sorry Mark. I will respond on my computer. Later, iyh.
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Re: The best way to quit 13 May 2016 02:06 #287678

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Dear Father Karma

The one that raised anon_14 from -35 karma
Please revert Shlomos ThankYou
Please remove my addiction

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Re: The best way to quit 13 May 2016 02:46 #287679

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Shlomo24 wrote on 13 May 2016 01:37:
That was an erroneous thank you. Sorry Mark. I will respond on my computer. Later, iyh.

Uh oh Mark, whatever he says, remember that we love you. 
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Free Choice?!
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Dr. Seuss - You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose. You're on your own, and you know what you know. And you are the guy who'll decide where to go.

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Last Edit: 13 May 2016 02:47 by stillgoing.

Re: The best way to quit 13 May 2016 03:27 #287686

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How do you do that Mark?

In terms of the fairest of them all, you are spot on mirror. Almost exactly what I meant. I think that you were coming from a perspective that 1) It's not nice what I did, and 2) I shouldn't discount Torah. Is that true?
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Re: The best way to quit 13 May 2016 04:26 #287699

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Thanks Shlomo. I am only the fairest of them all when i am reflecting others.
To the 2nd point, i suppose that i did mention that on the last page, but my point now, was that, it is okay if you do not want to listen to what he said. But why can't everybody who disagrees with it just ignore it and go on to a different thread.           I think the answer to that is the same reason that i am harping on what bothers me, which is the fact that others are harping on what bothers them...  i guess that i am guilty of that which i accuse others of...., but then again, what else can you expect from a mirror...
Last Edit: 13 May 2016 04:27 by mirror.

Re: The best way to quit 19 May 2016 22:06 #288307

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Yeah from porn addictor to the high priestess

Re: The best way to quit 01 Jun 2016 21:46 #289435

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Funny thread from start to finish, thanks!
"Off the 18-wheeler and fine on this tricycle!", "I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons...and you are probably the same."
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