Bigmoish wrote on Unknown:
Bro, you have posted 30 times since 2012.
Never once have you so much as mentioned whether or not you have a problem with sexual matters.
Never once did you share with us a single struggle, test, or hardship.
Never once did share with us how you personally overcame this nisayon.
What's the deal?
To clarify Big Moish's question- are you a mussar teacher posting because this is what you believe spiritually? Is this what worked for you? What perspective are you coming from?
Bc I have to be honest- what you're writing is the type of thing that I've read my whole life from the Seforim and that never helped to cause me to stop.
Also, and again this is my opinion, it doesn't even make sense to me. I wouldn't argue if you were saying it worked for you, bc then that's your experience. But otherwise, I certainty don't personally connect it.
It DOES replenish itself, so what IS your answer to that question? And if it makes you tired and less energy to lose it, so does permitted relations with one's wife. So what's the difference?
We have many reasons why we shouldn't do it- each person has to find his that works for him. But the bottom line is even from a Torah perspective what you're saying isn't actually the true reason not to do it.
The reason not to it from a Torah perspective is bc Hashem in his wisdom said so. Period. It's the Halacha. Why do we have to find semi- mystical reasons? Isn't that enough?
And of course, if that's not enough because this is something we struggle with and Torah and Halacha can't stop us, then what you wrote won't either.
Share your experiences or explain where you're coming from and I think you'll probably get a lot more support for whatever it is you're trying to accomplish.
All the best.