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Re: a religious recoverer 17 Nov 2015 16:07 #268838

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The SA site is blocked by my filter as "Sex Education"

Cordy's link was to a document hosted on Google Drive, maybe that's blocked for you too.

Anyway i took the liberty of posting it here as an attachment.
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Re: a religious recoverer 17 Nov 2015 16:12 #268839

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Moish where do I click on?

And how come th front page only has two locations?

Re: a religious recoverer 17 Nov 2015 16:14 #268840

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Thanks Gevura I was able to open your doc. Now I see the huge list.

I still contend that its pretty clear that jewish nieghboorhoods drive a stronger demand. I don't think its just an hypothosis.

Re: a religious recoverer 17 Nov 2015 16:14 #268841

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waydown wrote:

Oh and re guilt I'll simply refer you to the link below. But suffice it to say guilt is a good thing not a bad thing.

guardyoureyes.com/the-gye-program/the-30-principles/21-principles-for-the-struggle/item/principle-18?category_id=279


Thank you for the link, it is a good distinction between healthy and unhealthy guilt - which is not to say a blanket statement that guilt is a good thing is what the article says.

I was posting based on my own experience where I was defining myself by the feelings of guilt/shame/yiush which was unproductive.
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Re: a religious recoverer 17 Nov 2015 16:39 #268842

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waydown wrote:
Thanks Gevura I was able to open your doc. Now I see the huge list.

I still contend that its pretty clear that jewish nieghboorhoods drive a stronger demand. I don't think its just an hypothosis.

This is ridiculous. It is not even a hypothesis. Facts have been produced. It is sheer nonsense.
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Re: a religious recoverer 17 Nov 2015 16:49 #268843

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Moish,

Well I am not sure the differnce in all these webpages but the front end of SA. org when clicking o meetings clealry has a strong emphasize on frum nieghboorhoods. Feel free to click on any state in the below link. Why are the front pages so predomiantlly stressing certain neighboorhoods.
www.sa.org/top/United%20States%20of%20America/

At this point its heresay. But I think if one was intellectually honest they woud see that SA meetings are in higher demand in frum communties. Thats a good thing not a bad thing.

Re: a religious recoverer 17 Nov 2015 16:51 #268844

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Hearsay?
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Re: a religious recoverer 17 Nov 2015 18:16 #268851

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Yes mosih hearsay is an I say you say thing with no defintive right or wrong. What I meant is, I can throw you one website and you can thorw me another one. And we are both correct with nothing defintive. Although I certainlly feel the front page of a website is the ikkur.(In this case the front page has lots of focus on certain neighboorhoods.) But again thats I say you say so who says my "feeling" is correct.

But as I say I don't think its an hypthosis to say more diapers are sold in Monroe verse Newburgh. I think its obvious. Does that mean pampers would go out of business without us yiddiliach? No. We are still a very small population compared to the overall population. I think the same is true for SA.

Re: a religious recoverer 17 Nov 2015 18:36 #268857

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waydown wrote:
Yes mosih hearsay is an I say you say thing with no defintive right or wrong. What I meant is, I can throw you one website and you can thorw me another one. And we are both correct with nothing defintive. Although I certainlly feel the front page of a website is the ikkur.(In this case the front page has lots of focus on certain neighboorhoods.) But again thats I say you say so who says my "feeling" is correct.


"Hearsay" is information received from other people that one cannot adequately substantiate.

All I did was show the thirty cities or more in New Jersey that have SA meetin's.
that is not hearsay; that's a fact. (and regardin' why one page has two and the other has thirty, I have no idea, and frankly couldn't care less).

What you did was make a conjecture; initially from false information, and now you continue to justify that even when faced with accurate information.

Once again, whatever you were tryin' to prove I have no idea and is not my point at all. And perhaps, it is solid, integral stuff.

My suggestion: start all over again with the truth, and then spin your theory.

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Re: a religious recoverer 17 Nov 2015 19:56 #268863

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thank you everyone for the above posts
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Re: a religious recoverer 24 Nov 2015 13:58 #269506

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struggle struggle struggle.
won a week lost a week won a day lost a day.
today is movie day. found a quiet secure place and am watching for 7 hours straight.
hoping to hit rock bottom, or better said, i want to feel disgusted by this absolute waste of LIFE and RESOURCE.
i love you all

Re: a religious recoverer 24 Nov 2015 14:11 #269509

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lavi wrote:
struggle struggle struggle.
won a week lost a week won a day lost a day.
today is movie day. found a quiet secure place and am watching for 7 hours straight.
hoping to hit rock bottom, or better said, i want to feel disgusted by this absolute waste of LIFE and RESOURCE.

Hey why didn't you invite me - I just may give you a bad day, cos I won't feel disgusted by this absolute waste of LIFE...
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Re: a religious recoverer 24 Nov 2015 14:29 #269511

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lavi wrote:
struggle struggle struggle.
won a week lost a week won a day lost a day.
today is movie day. found a quiet secure place and am watching for 7 hours straight.
hoping to hit rock bottom, or better said, i want to feel disgusted by this absolute waste of LIFE and RESOURCE.


Wow!
thanks for that share.
Did it work?
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Re: a religious recoverer 25 Nov 2015 20:03 #269657

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cordnoy wrote:
lavi wrote:
struggle struggle struggle.
won a week lost a week won a day lost a day.
today is movie day. found a quiet secure place and am watching for 7 hours straight.
hoping to hit rock bottom, or better said, i want to feel disgusted by this absolute waste of LIFE and RESOURCE.


Wow!
thanks for that share.
Did it work?


well today i didn't want to watch....only to finish the one i was in the middle of...
i guess , at least for now, the trick is not to download anything. so i don't have automatically an available full movie, [but i still have this one that i just have to finish..yikes..
once i have a good movie available...it is like being trapped in a quicksand..resistance is futile...HELP.
the good news is that i don't go for lust, or at least it is easier to keep away,
and i try to pick only action movies, and fast forward all the yucky parts.
BUT i *really*want*to be RID of wasting precious LIFE.
may i get there one day. amen.
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Re: a religious recoverer 25 Nov 2015 23:32 #269689

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How would I finish an incomplete movie?

I'll share with you how I read novels. My wife loves novels. I do too. I read the first page and the last, and since I have a great imagination I'm done. So I could just watch the last 30 seconds...
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