Hi, i am a 24 yr old man living in the US and have been struggling with shmirat habrit for as long as i can remember. I grew up in a frum household where keeping torah and mitzvot was always a natural way of life for me. At 18yrs old i left to join the IDF where i served for 5 years. Throught my service it was very hard every time i had leave there would be attractive women around who always showed an interest in me and i kept myself back from doing anything for years bc i knew it was wrong. Nevertheless thoughts that would enter and pollute my mind drove me insane. I wouldnt want to hurt anyone else but i would always find myself looking at images online that would cause me to spill my seed. I know how wrong it is but with all the pritzut in the world today i cant seem to escape these thoughts. I am currently dating an amazing girl that i am planning on marrying in the near future. The last thing i want is to go into a relationship like that while still having this issue. I know it will be a lifelong struggle but i want to make sure that i am growing a little bit every day and continue to move forward in the right direction.

Welcome

Way to go!

Thank you for your service.

It does not need to be a lifelong struggle.

B'hatzlachah

Welcome,

Thank you for your service in the idf. 
It's great that you want to work on this issue. Hatzlacha Rabba

Welcome!

Shalom!

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Welcome!
Thank you for your service!!

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Hatzlacha Rabbah!

Thank you for your service!

Welcome, and thank your for your service.

This is definitely something you want to get out of your life. Putting aside the "wrong" aspect, it's has the potential to damage your relationship, and certainly keeping it a secret will do so.

What steps do you want to take to stop? How badly do you want to stop?

That's exactly what im trying to prevent. Im willing to do whatever it takes to end it but its one thing to want and another thing to get it done.

Have you done anything in the past to stop? What has worked? what hasn't worked?

The only thing that has worked for me is keeping busy but even that hasn't been enough lately 

filter, accountability partner/program, hobbies
any of these sound helpful?

I havent found a good filter yet. Any suggestions for an android device? 

Golanchik wrote on 13 Mar 2017 19:47:

Click home, then filter.