am new to this... i succeed in stopping for a few weeks but then fall back again into watching porn. Stopping at the beginning is really tough, and i guess this time i wanted to do it in a structured way to help... 

Welcome,

Like minded people here.

How have you been tryin' to stop?

Welcome. You're in the right place.

First of all please take time to read through the GYE handbook.  No two people are the same, everyone has a slightly different set of circumstances, but we all share this problem and since we share the problem we can share the solution too. The book is written in a general way so it can apply to everyone. I found it helpful to really think about what the book was saying and how it applied to me and my own life.

This is a very common problem nowadays, you're far from the only one to deal with it. The word addict gets thrown around quite a lot, but most people who struggle with this issue are not addicts, just normal people with a normal yetzer hora. Which is good. Some people have come to realise that they really are addicts because their situation got gradually worse and worse despite working on it. When I say worse I mean, in frequency, severity or just feeling worse after every slip. If that is the case we may need more than GYE, which most people find to be therapy or SA or both. But I wouldn't jump to that conclusion about you. Many people have overcome this challenge right here on GYE using the tools in the handbook.

So stick around. Keep posting, keep reading and keep on trucking.

dschim wrote:

Stopping is one tool but not the only one. Some people have a hard time with that tool
BH you have succeeded with it, now it's time to move onto the next tool as I and many others have

KEEP ON TRUCKING!!

Markz wrote on 02 Jan 2017 15:48:

The white book calls stoppin' step zero.

 It is not a tool; it is a prerequisite.

Welcome! Keep coming back, it works!

cheers!

Nice to see you back

♬♪♬♬ Sometimes you wanna go..... where no-body knows your naaaaame ♪♪♫♫♪

Watson wrote:

You mean to Guardyoureyes.com?

dschim wrote on 02 Jan 2017 13:45:

Maybe it would help you to look at what leads you back to start watching the porn. For me I know that if I do or don't do certain things I will end up watching porn. For example if I do any of the following things I will end up watching porn sooner or later: Watch prank videos on Youtube with the intent of seeing scantily clad people, taking a route home from work that I know will allow me to look at people, letting resentments and upset fester with my wife, letting resentments build up with my boss, thinking about how I'm going to "stop" "forever". Those are just some examples. So the answer for me is don't do those things that will lead me to acting out or if I do them then I take corrective measures. Those measures for me are outlined in my recovery program but that's not the point of my post. The point is that  I can't make my bottom line watching porn. I make my bottom line the things that will eventually lead me to porn. I don't mean to say I reset my recovery, but I do try to stay off the warning track. If I start living on the warning track I may have to reset my recovery because I'm just heading for Dov's Nuclear Reset Button Anyway.

Hope that was helpful to someone. 

Watson wrote:

Watson I never knew you knew how to do that

Cheers mate

Welcome!  There's some good advice here. Check out the handbook.  Keep on posting. 

Serenity your words are wise and important.
For all of us those initial falls take different forms but we know them well.