ojcn732 wrote:

I said a few things on this page starting with the boating. What would you like me to explain. 

I am a bit confused, sorry (still new).

Your last msg, regarding Bigmoish.....

Not a problem. Take your time

Just know that regular newbies put maximum 1 post, and some 2, on the 1st day. If your thread moves to page 3 you will be considered an old timer ;-)

Really??? That's funny.
​I really do not care what I am considered, I consider myself an old timer to this bad habits and addiction which is precisely the reason I am here today!  

The question was though if you have a male sexual partner; your post sounded like that and while you have no obligation to answer, that might make things difficult for you because this site doesn't advocate having a male sexual partner. Perhaps you meant your partner in business but it didn't sound like it

NO NO NO, Female partner!!! And no she is not a business partner.

This site doesn't really advocate having a female partner outside of marriage either.  (Unless you mean your wife). And I was hoping you meant a recovery partner (or did you?)

In any case we do welcome anyone who is serious about improving himself in this area. Stick around and find what works for you. Hatzlacha!

Yes, my wife. We have been happily married for a 4 years now.

What did you mean when you said "my partner likes porn"?

How will I be able to fight my terrible addiction when she goes on those sites or watches an R rated movie? 
Again she is not addicted and has no idea that I am!!

ojcn732 wrote on 14 Oct 2016 02:16:

Do you appreciate the situation you're in?

Its a tough one but on the other hand you have the advantage of your wife knowing what you do. So there's nothing you have to hide from her

now here's a secret you'll have to share with her 

That


youre a man

And watching those things effect your relationship, because it causes you to objectify women, and may drive you to look for other porn etc...

If youd have a marriage counselor (which I assume you don't), it would be easier to navigate this

Keep up the good work!

Until you get a marriage counselor, I recommend you join us on the long haul and work on your own sobriety regardless of other people's pastimes

On Yom Kippur we confess. But confession can't be done while leaning on anything. Why is that?

I think because if one confesses while being supported on something or somebody, that represents a lack of serious responsibility on our part

If we can take full responsibility for our actions and not blame anyone else or any situations, and don't put our problems on other people, then our confession will be accepted and our recovery can progress

Blaming the wife for my problems ain't gonna help no one.

Now, my wife doesn't watch porn, but she likes to watch videos that are inapropriate for me eg women's gymnastics. That doesn't inhibit me from doing what I need for my sobriety

TThank you both for the advice, I will get to work. Enough is Enough!!!

Welcome! I wish you much hatzlacha!