121 days today BH!!!!!!!

Great work. Ive been keeping up with you success since that first post.It seems like you have all the ideals in order, and i feel like I'm on that path swell. I see a lot of the ideas you shared in myself.
Do you have any advice for a guy on day 84. I still have some emotional ups and downs. One day I'm happy and one I'm sad. I take many stridencies to not fall, and this is what got me this far. But I'm not seeing 100% of the light at the end of the tunnel that i was promised to get on day 90. Wher's my everlasting happiness? I feel like this will always be baggage that i will have to carry for the rest of my life.

For me, 90 days was a milestone. I felt happy and grateful to Hashem that I reached that point. However, I still need His help every day of my life. Some things have gotten easier, e.g. keeping control of my eyes when I'm outside, but every day is work. The work gets easier, but doesn't disappear. My focus is on being happy and content with my life as it is and staying away from the need to lust.

yosef10 wrote on 13 Dec 2017 03:41:

BINGO! I'm not sure if "this will always be baggage...". It can get easier - definitely. But, this line says it all - "I'm not seeing 100% of the light at the end of the tunnel that i was promised to get on day 90. Wher's my everlasting happiness?". Too many people think this way. I think the marketing of "90 days" is too strong. Plus, it's easy, so many people want to believe that it is some sort of magic. It is not magic. It helps definitely, but it is not a magic pill for "everlasting happiness".

I'm convinced that anyone who uses "the 90 day tool" by itself with no other work will fail. I'm curious to hear from someone who has found otherwise by experience. I highly doubt that I will.

It gets you off the ropes. It starts you on the path. It's like lighting some twigs on fire. They will catch very fast, but will not burn that long, unless you start to add some more substantial fuel, that is harder to light, but will last much longer. That is the real work. 90 days is just a jump start. At least that is my humble opinion.

I see it very much like diabetes. Take your insulin every day, and you can live a very normal life. Forget to take it, and things can go bad quickly. Make gedarim and keep them. Stay busy with positive things. Have friends. Talk to them. Be productive. You can live very normally without being consumed with sexual obsession. But, so far, no one has discovered a magic happiness pill.

I hope this has helped. Sorry for the rant.

You are doing great! Keep it up!

gibbor120 wrote on 13 Dec 2017 14:23:

Markz, where da Hell is da "five-star" widget?

where the H*** are the moderators:see_no_evil: ,but point well said,gibor deserves 5 stars!

ieeyc wrote on 13 Dec 2017 15:43:

They passed 90 days b/c they weren't counting on the days

ieeyc wrote on 13 Dec 2017 15:43:

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cordnoy wrote on 13 Dec 2017 17:28:

You want 7 stars now?????

I counted 18

cordnoy wrote on 13 Dec 2017 17:28:

1.feel better?2. i was just kidding, i guess i should have said it in the just havin fun forum im very inspired by your posts, you and all the old timers  of gye are pioneers ,3. i looked at your post twice once  by accident and the second time intentionaly, is that a fall?4. i have no idea  what the last line stands for ,you probably made it up:smile: .a freilichin Chanuka !

Hello to everybody here. I don't know how this works but I want to try it out 

Markz wrote on 13 Dec 2017 17:52:

those ARE stars arent they?

Great post, i appreciate all the advice and your insight.
Its just that I'm a goal setter. It seems like theres never an end. I understand that its a blessing, that this got me closer to Hashem and will continue to o that. But i don't want this to effect me for the rest of my life. Right now I'm 16, pretty young, but when i think down the line, that if i never truly recover what will that do to my wife, and my kids. I want to be the type of person that never even thinks of crossing his wife, or doing anything to hurt his kids. I see the positives, and i enjoy and understand them, but the plus-minus of going through this seems totally out of proportion in favor of the bad. Even if i get better I will never trully recover. I hate that feeling of guilt that it can never fully and completely be fixed.

shalom uberacha!Hashem should continue giving you the strength to go against the tide of your enviorment,your a true decendent of Avraham Avinu to follow the way that you know to be true in morale purity  in the face of mockers .you bear the name yosef who like your namesake when in the stinking mitzrayim seperated from fellow yidden ,stayed true to morale purity.thank you for  posting and inspireing us .