My Mother went in for a mammogram and checkup. She had to do a urine sample which got mixed up somehow. So the Doctor thought she had cancer, BUT as it turns out she does not. I managed to avoid that fall. Does this explain things, Cordnoy?

betterman wrote on 27 Mar 2016 21:12:

I know you wrote that.
I was questioning the veracity.

I'm not a lab technician, and I'm not gonna do my research, but according to my unprofessional guess, cancer isn't determined solely by urine sample

Whether I'm right or wrong is irrelevant. 

What at is important is one word, which Cordnoy is tryin'

No tea?

Try

H
O
N
E
S
Tea

 

Cordnoy,r u saying I'm lying??
Please don't offense to this.
I was really scared she might die.
I do try to be  H O N E S T.
Mark, the doctor said that urine can tell a lot about a person.
Such as Red and White blood cells, and how healthy they are or should be.
So I am not lying. I and the doctor really thought she did have breast cancer.
Can I please start over with my life?
If only there was a reset/restart button?

You had dishonest tendencies, so you can't call out Cordnoy for being Skeptical and not knowing what posts of yours are true and what are half. He truly doesn't know and you can't blame him

I don't have much to add to what I said above

Many of us are suffering with P&M plus SSA where if we would apply a big dose of honesTEA, we would finally start recovery



We all wish we could join gye and get a new lease on life. It doesn't happen

We are who we are, and are here to better ourselves by looking in the mirror and live real life step by step

markz wrote on 27 Mar 2016 17:10:


 

You could get a new lease on life but you need to let go of your old tendencies.

B'hatzlachah

It's true. I have lied and have acted like a jerk in the past. And I beg your forgiveness for this. 

 I do need to be more honest. 

The doctor did think that she had cancer, but she doesn't. This I am not lying about. G-D Forbid.

I am going to be more honest in the future. I do not want to be a rasha. This is the Hebrew word for evil person, I think. 

Again I beg forgiveness. 

Shmuly.

Let's all please try to be dan l'kaf zechus, and give the guy a break.
We have all made mistakes in the past - that's why we're here. 
Let's focus on the present, and let him start fresh.

No one is trying to come down hard on anyone here

By the way dan lekaf zchus is understanding a real situation in the best light which we were doing

Question we each need to ask ourselves is what is "Why are we on guard your eyes?"

To help ourselves?
shmuly hasn't been driving down that road

Therefore
To help others?
I personally get upset when shmuly says to every poster "please PM me", especially if I recieved some not so nice stuff from him

So lets again go back to the drawing board of honesTea and clarify why we need to be on gye and how we plan to work on recovery

shmulyz18 wrote on 28 Mar 2016 13:06:

No need to beg for forgiveness. The issue doesn't lie by cordy. I believe he just meant that in order to help yourself honesty is necessary.

Much success.

markz wrote:




You can't know for sure what "road he's been driving down". If mistakes were made, they're in the "rear-view mirror" getting smaller and smaller in the distance. Focus on the road ahead, and let him drive.

 

Ah, we've found the first addict ever in history to have lied!  I'm sure one day we'll all tell our grand-kids about this event.

I'm joking. That was sarcastic. Just to be clear.

My concern is that you felt shame over your fall in the first place. I don't know if you're an addict or not, but for sure you're either a good person who made a mistake, or an ill person who hasn't yet treated his illness. Either way, no reason to feel shame, which is quite a counter-productive emotion. It's when the evil inclination dresses up as the good guy.

Shame is also a form of pride. Whenever I've felt shame it's been something along the lines of "I can't believe I did that! Me, of all people. Sure, people make mistakes - regular people that is, but not people like me. I have better standards. I expect myself to be perfect."

Shame is not guilt. Guilt is the healthy emotion someone feels when they've made a mistake. Shame is the unhealthy emotion someone feels when they think they are a mistake.

My advice - accept who you are and get on the truck with the rest of us bozos trying to get by.

Watson how your word do shine

Yours truly

Sherlock

markz wrote on 28 Mar 2016 15:35: