I don't have a magic bullet. I have a list of stratgies but not one cohesive plan.

1) On a day when I get an urge to flirt white knuckle it
2)I am typically used to falling asleep while masterbating I have a hard time falling asleep without it. It just soothes me to sleep. I have changed my sleeping patterns. Now I try to go to sleep eariler and I listen to some interesting radio show that entertains me. It usually takes much longer to fall asleep than just masterbating but it helps alot.
3)A little related to #2. I stopped sleeping shabbos day so that M shabbos (which is the strongest lust nite for me) I can sleep eaiser.
4)I try to avoid working in areas where lots of women frequent.
5) Just hanging around GYE helps.
6) I hope to start a muser seder with a GYE friend soon
7) I try to say hamapiel from a siddur. After all a large percentage of the brocho is a tefila not to have bad thoughts and dreams.
8. When I get an urge I tell myself hey my wife is much prettier both inner & outer beauty than most of these other girls. Knowing that tonight or tom night I can relieve my itch with someone pretty & who loves me sooths me and holds me back.

And yes its a probelm that I am not always so busy. It varies by day.

I am starting my 90 days journey today and I trust God to help me.

I don't know if we always need to think.

Before we all assume that Rabbi pureheart needs to try smarter, one has to know that, that is the case. Thats why lets not jump on to Mr. pure heart. Perhpas all he needs is try harder. Thats why I say you don't necessarly need to think.

Many people here have found, that after many years of really really trying hard and still not getting better, they actually needed to try smarter, as opposed to just harder.