Mesayin wrote:
I would say "to learn to deal with life in a healthy way so that one is not unhappy". We cannot choose to "get rid" of lots of things that make us unhappy, but we can choose to be happy despite those things. (or deal with the unhapiness in a healthy way by talking it out etc.)

Mesayin wrote:


You can always join me....I'm a Cubs fan!

Chiam wrote:


I haven't been followin' the entire conversation, but may i suggest to read the white or the big book? Selfishness is discussed at length as bein' one of the key roots of our problem.

Thanks for the recommendation... How can I access the white or big book?

Chiam wrote:


Links for both are in my signature below.

Thanks!

Wheew ok I need some help!

I downloaded a demo on may gameboy 3DS annnd let's just say the game is not made for recoverers.

B"H I was able to strengthen myself and delete the demo, so B"H for that.

But my head and my stomach are still spinning and my head can't think clearly, I need help dousing the flames...

Go read some long Dov posts

Go for a walk, and breathe deeply.
Fresh air will help you think clearly and feel good.
Then when you get back make sure that you eat if you are hungry, and read a good book.
If you are able to, phone a friend for a chat, maybe one who has been sick or needs a pick me up?

Mesayin wrote:

You made a bonfire and threw your play/gameboy in!
That's cool I'm coming over to join you in a rekida

If you don't want visitors that's fine I'll feel bad but I'll get over it. Quickly douse the fire with a bissel woodford before you have an electric fire and all your vids get deleted too

Thanks to everybody's advise .

Now I just need an emotional pat on the back please.

Part of me wants to give you the pat on the back just b/c you asked for it but that would be people pleasing which is a character defect of mine...

Well I've had queasy feelings for the past 24 hours but I'm B"H feeling a bit better now B"H.

I think, and this is just my opinion, that since my mind got exposed to those stuff it kind of went into a state of needing more of it and when I deleted the demo and decided not to go after those stuff anymore then my mind went into a frenzy, because it is not getting what it needs (which is fine, I'm not going to give in 'cause of that).

Any comments?

Makes sense. At times when I do the right thing and take away the means of lust, my mind goes crazy because by being triggered it became convinced it is "hungry" and needs to be fed, and even though I had the saichel to take that "food" away, my mind is still in that hungry mode and still is screaming for me to squelch that hunger.

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However I did take pleasure whenever by accident I would look at those stuff, furthermore I would try to watch a movie that I thought might have some of those stuff and I'll watch it in a way that it seems like I innocently fell into it and make it look like I didn't know about it. (How clever is the Y'h)

Hello Mesayin, you are correct. The YH is clever. I hope you are doing better. I would like to share a story with you about myself.

I was involved with a kid when I was a HS Freshman. This kid had a sexual sense of humor, and I followed his lead. We started talking inappropriately, and he printed the messages and turned them into the principal. He tricked me into sinning. I am now a Senior and a whole lot wiser now, B'H. So what ever the YH wants you to do, tell him you are a G-d fearing Jew and not a sinner. I hope this helps.