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Re: Big Steps 10 Nov 2015 18:33 #268308

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markz wrote:
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i hate to get all serious on a "funny" thread (#ouch #imgonnagetburnedforthis) but it's nice and all to say we are tzadikim but we kinda aren't. we may be people who have changed a ton and we good be good people, but tzadikim! i think that is a stretch. (btw this has always bothered me but i never commented till now). if "x" is a tzadik then what was r' aryeh levin, an uber-tzadik? praise is like a teabag, the more you use it the less powerful it is.
Who is a Tzaddik?
בן בנו של ר׳ יהושע בן לוי ראה עליונים למטה ותחתונים למטה - כי אותם שהם גדולים בתורה ובמעשים טובים בעוה״ז והיה בכח וחוק הכנתם לעשות יותר ולא עשו, הם בעוה״ב למטה מן מדרגת התחתונים ושפלים מהם שלא השיגו לעשות כל מה שעשו הם ולא נמנעו אלא מפני מיעוט הכנתם.
(מבי״ט בהקדמה לס׳ בית אלהים)

Which essentially means that you can be in עוה״ב greater than R Shlomo Kanievsky and even than his father מורינו הג״ר Chaim שליטא or his great-grandfather R Aryeh Levin ז״ל. How are we to know???
(We can however safely assume that these forementioned tzadikim בכח וחוק הכנתם לעשות יותר והם עושים)

I consider someone like yourself our dear Shlomo - that has made great personal strides - as a great צדיק, and we avidly keep tabs on you and follow your truck religiously.

Worried about wringing the teabag of praise?
Another צדיק of ours (Cord') has a truckload of tea, so don't worry about that

And I need to mention one thing which my Gabbai alluded to

All us strugglers and lustaholics have deep emotions.
I will get very upset if someone makes light of compliments that i mentioned

Let NO ONE turn around and say "I'm not the צדיק you think i am..." Not you or Cord' or anyone. Not here not in the having fun forum or anywhere.

Personal negative shares are fine, that's what we all do, but personality determinations? We need positive input, and it's real

KO TLC


i hear your point and i always thought u were being sincere, it's something that i don't like using and i also don't like when ppl call me a lot of praises, i can't stand that. i really don't like kiss ups. (i am not insinuating that anyone here is one).

on the other hand one of the most meaningful compliments i ever recieved was from my rebbi who texted me "my pleasure, tzadik" in response to me thanking him for something. i felt really good inside b/c i really looked up to him and he doesn't throw around praise. if he said it then he meant it, even if he meant it in a "tzaddikle" way as opposed to a "righteous" kinda way. aight. i am done talking abt this. i don't like when my thread has controversy or arguments on it.

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Last Edit: 10 Nov 2015 18:34 by Shlomo24.

Re: Big Steps 16 Nov 2015 03:36 #268689

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Today was day 90. YAY!
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Re: Big Steps 16 Nov 2015 03:41 #268691

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Re: Big Steps 16 Nov 2015 04:13 #268696

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Shlomo24 wrote:
Today was day 90. YAY!


a celebratory pun:

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and just for you today, i will include your responsatory pun:

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we call this:

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Have a corny day ... and if you do have other plans, change 'em!!
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Re: Big Steps 16 Nov 2015 04:21 #268697

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Shlomo you don't know what Zechus you have even on day 90 saving another Jew from filth

Mr Peloni Almoni has amassed a stockpile of dirty pictures and almost dropped it on all of us. Trust me.
Instead he drew such cute pictures for you

Kol hacavod

Now I'm going to the forum to tell everyone - Shlomo made it!!!!!!!!!!
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Re: Big Steps 16 Nov 2015 04:47 #268705

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Re: Big Steps 16 Nov 2015 15:20 #268718

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Re: Big Steps 16 Nov 2015 15:27 #268719

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Shlomo24 wrote:
Today was day 90. YAY!


Continued hatzlachah.

You da man!
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Re: Big Steps 16 Nov 2015 16:49 #268730

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eslaasos wrote:
Congratulations! A big step for man, a larger step for mankind


... and one hell of a jump for a bird. (do toucan's fly? צ"ע)
Have a corny day ... and if you do have other plans, change 'em!!
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None of us has it all together, but together, we have it all.

we always put our sobriety before our ego -
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לפעולות אדם בדבר שפתיך אני שמרתי אורחות פריץ. תמוך אשורי במעגלותיך בל נמוטו פעמי. תהלים יז
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Re: Big Steps 16 Nov 2015 17:17 #268734

Mazel tov Shlomo on 90 days. Happy for you.
Please share your secret to success.

Re: Big Steps 16 Nov 2015 17:59 #268739

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markz wrote:
Shlomo24 wrote:
i hate to get all serious on a "funny" thread (#ouch #imgonnagetburnedforthis) but it's nice and all to say we are tzadikim but we kinda aren't. we may be people who have changed a ton and we good be good people, but tzadikim! i think that is a stretch. (btw this has always bothered me but i never commented till now). if "x" is a tzadik then what was r' aryeh levin, an uber-tzadik? praise is like a teabag, the more you use it the less powerful it is.
Who is a Tzaddik?
בן בנו של ר׳ יהושע בן לוי ראה עליונים למטה ותחתונים למטה - כי אותם שהם גדולים בתורה ובמעשים טובים בעוה״ז והיה בכח וחוק הכנתם לעשות יותר ולא עשו, הם בעוה״ב למטה מן מדרגת התחתונים ושפלים מהם שלא השיגו לעשות כל מה שעשו הם ולא נמנעו אלא מפני מיעוט הכנתם.
(מבי״ט בהקדמה לס׳ בית אלהים)

Which essentially means that you can be in עוה״ב greater than R Shlomo Kanievsky and even than his father מורינו הג״ר Chaim שליטא or his great-grandfather R Aryeh Levin ז״ל. How are we to know???
(We can however safely assume that these forementioned tzadikim בכח וחוק הכנתם לעשות יותר והם עושים)

I consider someone like yourself our dear Shlomo - that has made great personal strides - as a great צדיק, and we avidly keep tabs on you and follow your truck religiously.

Worried about wringing the teabag of praise?
Another צדיק of ours (Cord') has a truckload of tea, so don't worry about that

And I need to mention one thing which my Gabbai alluded to

All us strugglers and lustaholics have deep emotions.
I will get very upset if someone makes light of compliments that i mentioned

Let NO ONE turn around and say "I'm not the צדיק you think i am..." Not you or Cord' or anyone. Not here not in the having fun forum or anywhere.

Personal negative shares are fine, that's what we all do, but personality determinations? We need positive input, and it's real

KO TLC


Mark,

If we aren't doing personality determinations, then we ain't tzadikim either - and that's probably truer.

I get positive reinforcement, but let's not get carried away.

Please prove me wrong...
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Re: Big Steps 16 Nov 2015 19:39 #268752

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Thank y'all for the chizuk. much appreciated
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Re: Big Steps 17 Nov 2015 18:33 #268855

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I realized something on sunday. I don't really lust after women. In recent memory there was a very revealing photo of a women that got me triggered. but for the most part i just don't get that rush when i see an attractive women. an attractive man and i'm head over heals but women are different for me. i am actually happy abt this b/c when i get married iy"h i don't have to bring lust into the bedroom. sex could be abt sex. obviously time will tell but i spoke with a member who has a similar situation to me and he says that he doesn't have lust in the bedroom.
i am very proud of myself that i am not ashamed to say this and that i can honestly be happy with what god gave me.
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Re: Big Steps 23 Nov 2015 04:57 #269360

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Happy Belated 90 Wishes!

Mazel Tov!!

Toucan keep on keeping on!

Re: Big Steps 23 Nov 2015 17:18 #269402

[quote="Shlomo24" post=268855]I member who has a similar situation to me and he says that he doesn't have lust in the bedroom.

cant resist the urge to share my experience.... so to me lust includes the obsession with sex...
so things like thinking about what will happen in bed or what happened in bed...when will it happen again....are all part of the machalah!
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