RealSimcha when you get a urge today

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let me know if that helps

Hey RS, you're not alone,  keep it up,  this is something you can overcome with gds help. 

Remember,  every day you don't feed it,  it's a little weaker,  the magic fades just a drop,  so hold on another day. 

The motivation can also fade every day,  well that one you SHOULD feed,  and that's what we're here for.  

So if you keep on feeding the commitment,  and keep on starving the challenge,  you end up with a healthier situation for yourself,  no?

Whatever,  

Just hang in there and REACH OUT, as much  as you like we are here and we LOVE to help. 

Zg. Y

I was also here in the past and then relapsed... but I'm back now too and starting again... 

Bigmoish wrote on 19 Feb 2016 14:33:

Thanks ... been thinking about it and i think that its really just the time passing. I read a study somewhere here on a post [I am sure markz can find it :) ) that there is such a thing as withdrawl with this stuff and it hits at around two weeks. It seems that the brain starts freaking out when it realizes that its not getting its fixes. I think thats what it is. So its really about putting one foot in front of the next ... Thanks, for being there

Yesod, thanks for reaching out the other day. I think i will try that call. thanks

markz wrote on 19 Feb 2016 14:48:

I'll do whatever works ... if i have to say ani zeresh i'll do it
 

Yesod wrote on 19 Feb 2016 16:26:

Your'e a good friend. Thanks for the chizuk. Yes. i think you have the equation right. starve the urge and feed the commitment. clear. not easy. but with hashem's help. doable.

OTR wrote on 19 Feb 2016 16:29:

Its been a hard day for me ... but seeing that fighters like you keep getting up and trying again gives me strength . thanks for reaching out and hatlacha with your journey...

Instead of focusin' on what was different yesterday or today, simply focus on the task or moment before you, and not more than that. Don't listen to studies please, even on gye.

cordnoy wrote on 19 Feb 2016 20:05:

Why?

For they will just confuse you, depress you, and convince you that now it is time for withdrawal.

cordnoy wrote on Unknown:

Cord' I think you should have chosen a username 'RealSimcha', but it has been expropriated...

Reb realsimcha, studies can be disregarded, but your opinion counts, and it can be productive to checkout the poll voting booths of gye found under the "Free Towing" thread HERE, I have found them to be beneficial for me

Just to weigh in, I love studies. They've helped my messed up brain make sense of some things and to know what things in recovery to avoid. But I think that I would agree with Cordnoy still bc there is a study for everything. As they say about statistics (and they should about studies) there's lose, damn lies, and statistics. 

RealSimcha I hope you're doing OK! I think we started struggling around the same time on our newly committed journey and I feel your pain. Yah studies no studies at least for me I think sometimes it gets hard just because my enthusiasm is not the same and my brain needed excitement. Sometimes my need for excitement is satiated by my commitment for recovery but when it dies down my need for excitement comes back and as we know nothing is as exciting as porn;)​. I like what Yesod said how we need to focus on feeding the commitment and starving the challenge! 
Keep it up! looks like you have a lot people backing you up here. As for me this is my post for the day and I hope we continue on our goal of at least a post a day and eventual recovery! 

 

shmirashachaim wrote on 19 Feb 2016 21:47:

Thanks for checking in on me. 

Day 12: (I know it says day 13 but day 13 just started in the evening so as far as i'm concerned - tomorrow is day 13). Shabbos was wonderful. It just feels different havign a good week behind me. When i was saying kiddush in friday night i was noticing how much kedusha is mentioned there and i felt that in some maybe very tiny way - this week i added kedusha to the world. And all of it thanks to all of you who are sharing your struggles, looking out for each other and really caring. 

Hoping for a day that lives up to these feelings...