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Re: I am Back After a Long Leave Of Absence 15 Sep 2016 20:39 #295147

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Shlomo, why? I do as well.
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Re: I am Back After a Long Leave Of Absence 15 Sep 2016 20:45 #295148

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Guys 

Waydown, Moish, vechol hamispallelim kan:
We all have our quirks and what to work on. No one is perfect (Hey chill, I was only talking about me)
Waydown you came back onsite to converse? perhaps 
perhaps you also wanted input and its apparent from some of your posts that you do

No one is pushing you to anything

You can have your lollipop and eat it
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Re: I am Back After a Long Leave Of Absence 15 Sep 2016 20:53 #295149

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Markz wrote on 15 Sep 2016 20:45:

No one is pushing you to anything


The tone and content of the responses on this thread lead me to firmly disagree.
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Re: I am Back After a Long Leave Of Absence 15 Sep 2016 20:55 #295150

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Bigmoish wrote on 15 Sep 2016 20:53:

Markz wrote on 15 Sep 2016 20:45:

No one is pushing you to anything




The tone and content of the responses on this thread lead me to firmly disagree.

And the thread is not that big.....yet, that one cannot peruse for two minutes and see that.
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Re: I am Back After a Long Leave Of Absence 15 Sep 2016 21:06 #295151

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I was referring to "force recovery down his throat"

I didn't feel it was so extreme
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Re: I am Back After a Long Leave Of Absence 15 Sep 2016 21:18 #295153

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What do you mean I can gave my lolli pop and eat it? If i do that then I'll be back to square one. I realize no half hearted measures.

Its kind of quirky, like I wish I just had the desire to M"Z but that it would never lead me to worse. In my warped mind I wish I can still lust yet control it to my desired levels. of course its wishful thinking. I know you can't split the two. That's my problem. (and of course I wish I wouldn't wish to keep my M"Z candy either as I know its wrong.)

I hope that makes sense.

Re: I am Back After a Long Leave Of Absence 15 Sep 2016 21:28 #295155

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waydown wrote on 15 Sep 2016 21:18:
What do you mean I can gave my lolli pop and eat it? If i do that then I'll be back to square one. I realize no half hearted measures.

Its kind of quirky, like I wish I just had the desire to M"Z but that it would never lead me to worse. In my warped mind I wish I can still lust yet control it to my desired levels. of course its wishful thinking. I know you can't split the two. That's my problem. (and of course I wish I wouldn't wish to keep my M"Z candy either as I know its wrong.)

I hope that makes sense.

Aint it true. I have no idea if it makes sense, but i think most people here can completly relate to that. I know that i can..
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Re: I am Back After a Long Leave Of Absence 15 Sep 2016 22:14 #295156

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Bigmoish wrote on 15 Sep 2016 20:29:
I actually feel bad that a guy can't post on the forum without 3 guys trying to force recovery down his throat.

Unfortunately that's the nature of an online forum. The only place I've every been where you can say how you really feel and no-one tries to force anything down your throat is a face-to-face 12 step meeting 

Re: I am Back After a Long Leave Of Absence 15 Sep 2016 23:00 #295157

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Pardon my french, but that is bullBAD WORD REMOVED.
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Re: I am Back After a Long Leave Of Absence 15 Sep 2016 23:04 #295158

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Could you elaborate please

Re: I am Back After a Long Leave Of Absence 15 Sep 2016 23:13 #295159

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Actually, please don't elaborate. I said my own experience with face-to-face meetings. You can say what you want, it won't change what my experience has been.

(Although you're kind of making my point...)
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Re: I am Back After a Long Leave Of Absence 15 Sep 2016 23:21 #295160

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I know of several 12 step meetings where the attitude is a "force it down" policy. I was even thinking of writing it up for a magazine. Especially in places on the east coast (of this country), where there is an anti frum perspective, even from those who are frum.
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Re: I am Back After a Long Leave Of Absence 15 Sep 2016 23:22 #295161

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That being said, my personal experiences of meetings have been only positive.
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Re: I am Back After a Long Leave Of Absence 15 Sep 2016 23:25 #295162

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What can I say? I'm sorry you experienced that. The meetings that I go to, I can share freely with what I really feel and I get nothing but acceptance and support.

Re: I am Back After a Long Leave Of Absence 15 Sep 2016 23:25 #295163

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I wish you'd all put in your signatures that you go to meetings as in "what works for me", cos I think the greatest inspiration is leading by action.

But either way are you not scaring some away if you mention that?
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