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help 20 Apr 2016 05:12 #285397

second chance OFFLINE Junior Boarder Posts: 22 Karma: 2	Please help me get back up. I fell down about 3 days ago after being clean for like 3 weeks . Except for a few minor falls . But this time I cant get myself back on track , its like the yetzer horah is pulling me down deeper. Please help me!!!

Re: help 20 Apr 2016 05:19 #285398

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Re: help 20 Apr 2016 12:22 #285424

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Welcome,

Is this your first time here, or are you the "second chance" from the past?

What have you tried that hasn't been working?

Looking forward to hear more.

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Re: help 20 Apr 2016 13:27 #285432

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second chance wrote on 20 Apr 2016 05:12:

Please help me get back up. I fell down about 3 days ago after being clean for like 3 weeks . Except for a few minor falls . But this time I cant get myself back on track , its like the yetzer horah is pulling me down deeper. Please help me!!!

I would like to understand when you say " I fell down about 3 days ago after being clean for like 3 weeks . Except for a few minor falls"

What do you call minor falls?
If it is considered a fall even if it was small one, then you weren't clean for 3 weeks.
Am I right?

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Re: help 20 Apr 2016 13:46 #285434

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Hashem loves you more than you love yourself. You gotta foucs on the now (however hard that may be). Leave anything from the past and any worries about the future in Hashems hand.

Our seforim say that we must treat aanything that happend in the past as something Hashem wanted. Our choice is what to make of the now.

Lifes about progress; not perfection.
What can you do now to stay clean?

I highly suggest the TaPHSiC method - has worked for thousands.

Go on your homepage to find it. Listen to the 40mins shiur.

Let us know how it goes!

Re: help 20 Apr 2016 14:30 #285439

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military613 wrote on 20 Apr 2016 13:46:

Military,
Have you used the Taphsic personally and has it worked for you? I think if you're offering that advice to people you probably should be a little clearer and share more of YOUR experience with it. Thousands? Really?

And wouldn't work for someone cold turkey? Do they have to do anything else? What happens when the Taphsic expires (I've seen many guys on the thread have consistent falls in between renewing Taphsics).

Re: help 20 Apr 2016 14:53 #285442

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Workingguy wrote on 20 Apr 2016 14:30:

military613 wrote on 20 Apr 2016 13:46:

... and all of this without even knowing anything real (yet) about the newcomer.

Have a corny day ... and if you do have other plans, change 'em!!
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Re: help 20 Apr 2016 14:54 #285443

Markz OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 8203 Karma: 426	Working guy, I think the question is different Military Im happy taphsic works for you! You saved me, because I rarely hear long term success with it But please tell me one thing Is that the only gye sobriety tool you use
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Re: help 20 Apr 2016 16:17 #285454

inastruggle Current streak: 25 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder the picture is shimshon hagibor. not st. mary.... Posts: 1263 Karma: 35	Welcome second chance, The oilam tends to get off topic rather quickly here. Two Jews, three opinions and all that. Tell us some more about yourself, what you've been doing to stop, what helped you stay clean for those 3 weeks etc. KOP! (keep on posting)

Re: help 20 Apr 2016 16:46 #285458

military613 Current streak: 19 days OFFLINE Senior Boarder Posts: 68 Karma: 7	I am saying what works well for me. If you listen to the beginning of the 40min audio you would see whether its correct for your level of addiction straight away. Sorry I should have been more clear.
	Last Edit: 20 Apr 2016 16:48 by military613.

Re: help 14 Jun 2016 23:40 #290068

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military613 wrote:

I am saying what works well for me.
If you listen to the beginning of the 40min audio you would see whether its correct for your level of addiction straight away.

Sorry I should have been more clear.

Apparently our friend "second chance" has kept his Taphsic to the tee, but if there are underlying issues, you're gonna have ouch for sure

So now take the next step, but this is a small one. it's called the 12 steps and I think it can help you my friend

If you can keep posting on 1 thread it's appreciated

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Re: help 15 Jun 2016 03:40 #290075

Markz OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 8203 Karma: 426	Many guys have a hard time keeping a program (myself included) The fact that you held down the Taphsic for a good duration is impressive, and it'll make your next move easier I think KOT!!
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Re: help 15 Jun 2016 05:59 #290082

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markz wrote on 14 Jun 2016 23:40:

military613 wrote:

Skrry for multiple threads. I just couldn't find this thread. thanks for directing it back here. Thanks for taking an interest in me, i appreciate your advice. On my personal home page I didn't find anything about the 12 step program but after your suggestion i did a little digging and found recordings of the 12 step program. I couldn't commit to specific timings for phone conferences because it doesn't suit my work schedule. But the next thing I'll do is listen to those recordings. Any other suggestions and how to get there is appreciated.

Re: help 15 Jun 2016 06:05 #290083

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markz wrote on 15 Jun 2016 03:40:

Many guys have a hard time keeping a program (myself included)

The fact that you held down the Taphsic for a good duration is impressive, and it'll make your next move easier I think

KOT!!

I only did a w day stretch last time. I just didn't update it. And then it asked me for my last fall and it figured that I've been clean for 70 days. I never in my life did even a quarter of that
I wish...
P. S. What does kot mean?

Re: help 15 Jun 2016 11:50 #290088

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