hi all.

wondering if anyone gets real desire to act out on times like motzei shabos. For some reason it's 1 time in the week that it really gets to you and it's extremely difficult because of the long winter motzei as well.

Please help if anyone can share any advice and tips.

Jay - It is a great observation. Have you thought about why it is difficult? Do you generally find yourself connecting to real people on Shabbos and/or/vs during the week? Having what to do?

Yesod (Oct 18) wrote:


I think it has more to do with it being "free time"
Six days a week we work - Sunday to fri, Shbs is day of rest.

BUT motze Shbs is time of freedom, to browse the Internet...
Well of course! We deserve it, we need down time (and whatever other excuses, after sleeping most of Shabbos...)

Welcome jay,

How do you manage the rest of the week?

Thanks

As a matter of fact I usually don't find myself socialzing on shabos only with family.

thanks for feedback.

markz wrote:


And some peoples motze Shabbos ends on Monday morning...

Rav Shalom Schwadron ZT"L used to refer to Sunday as "Shabbos Sheini Shel Goluyos".

It was the hardest time for me.

I think that finding something to do on M"S can really help. For me the biggest trigger is boredom. If I am bored then lust hits like crazy. I gotta be doing something at all times. Which is why M"S can be hard with all that free time, especially in winter.

I know some of you might not like this one but nevertheless it has some truth.

כיון ששבת ווי אבדה נפש, the soul feels empty after the holy spirit of Shabbos departs, and seeks fulfilment with whatever it can grab, some engage in learning with the kids, many make a special shiur on motzei shabbos that may follow with a nice MM or KUMZITZ, when that's over its bedtime already, and for some the feeling of loneliness kicks in and opens the door for the YH to entice us with whatever, it's important to be vigilant about it.
Try whatever works!

I got to SA on M"S. there's a lot of spirituality there this past shabbos i was actually going 2 go to a kumzitz but i had a very uplifting shalosh shuddis (how the heck do u spell it anyways?) that i was like, "i got enough singing/dancing/uplifting experience for one day".

Jay,

Its the hradest nite for me as well. Many of my reasons have been posted by others (such as bemost and shlomo). But here is a few more,

1) If I sleep too much on shabbos then I am twisting and turning too much on Motzai shabbos. Too much time awake while lying in bed is dangerous for me. So I try to only take a very short drimel on my couch so I can sleep on M shabbos.

2) My shabbos eating habits. Facts are the certian foods bring the itch on stronger. As we all know on erev yom kippur one should not eat eggs or meat lest he be M"Z on yom kippur. Well shabbos afternoon I eat eggs & cholent. Then on top of it, using the restroom often brings on the itch as well. Thats not to great on M Shabbos either.

Sorry if I got graphic.

Great stuff!
belmont4175 wrote:

Agree