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Elya K (our dedicated 12-Step phone conference moderator) offers below a Frum "10 Step Program" as an alternative to the 12-Step program, for anyone that - for whatever reason - doesn't feel the 12-Steps "talk to them". Elya writes: I just attended a convention with 650 ...

"Jack" posted on the forum to someone who is struggling with certain times of the week that he feels very vulnerable to falling: Get a sponsor who you can call anytime and call him when you feel the urge coming on. Put your head between your knees and brace yourself. Bite...

Dear Members, the GuardUrEyes Forum is a vibrant community of Yidden determined to break the addiction and purify themselves. The amount of Teshuvah and Chizuk that goes on there every day is enough to banish the Yetzer Hara to the ends of the earth! If you haven't joined...

Join the Worldwide YEshiva Shovavim Initiative at shovavim.org - "YES we can!" Here's a nice vort for the Shabbos table, as well as a profound understanding into our struggle with the Yetzer Hara. It is not for nothing that these Parshios of "leaving Mitzrayim" were chos...

Question: "Why am I so easily aroused and triggered by everything I see? When I walk in the street or even see a children's movie, there are just so many triggers. Have I messed up my mind for life?" GYE Answers: Almost anyone who was once addicted to these things has in...

Jack sent me an e-mail recently: We couldn't improve in any area without resistance to what we are trying to achieve. It's that push, that brute force, that makes us stronger. In martial arts theory, we see an enemy not as an enemy, but as a chance to perfect ourselves....

Someone sent me a nice article from www.jewishworldreview.com By Rabbi Zelig Pliskin. The philosophy behind this idea can help us in our struggle with the Yetzer Hara. Five Powerful Words: 'What Can I Do Now?' Develop the habit of asking yourself, "What can I do now?" Th...

For today's e-mail, I want to share an inspiring story that someone sent us. (By the time I had finished reading the story, I was crying).   I first discovered masturbation at about age 15, when a fellow yeshiva student showed me smut. Before hand I had never even conside...

Question: I've given up the bad stuff already for a few months, but I still feel far from learning to control my eyes. When we see a beautiful girl, and we really KNOW that it's really nothing, but it affects our senses, how in the world can we deal with that? I mean, it ...

I would like to bring an important message today from Elya K (moderator of the free 12-Step phone conferences) that he posted on the forum: I was recently at a conference, and one of the groups was having a discussion about internet filters and someone brought up the poin...

There's a fundamental and elementary piece from the holy Ohr Hachayim that gives a clear perspective on the powerful nature of carnal desire, and helps us understand how Hashem expects us to remain holy in spite of it being against human nature. In honor of Shovavim, I wo...

Every Midah (attribute) that Hashem created, can be used for either good or bad. How can the attribute of "laziness" be used for good? Well, one powerful way to fight the Yetzer Hara is simply to be LAZY about sinning. The Yetzer Hara wants us to act out, but what if we j...

Join the Worldwide YEshiva Shovavim Initiative at shovavim.org - "YES we can!" Today begins the six week period known as "Shovavim", which is an acronym made up of the first letters of the Parshios of these 6 weeks, Shmos, Va'era etc... Shovavim is a very auspicious time...

Someone sent us this cute "number Cheshbon" below, based on the ABC. Although obviously this is not a "Gematria" with any real meaning, the lesson it brings out is a powerful truth. (Pictures from the war in Gaza were added for illustrative purposes).If you can't see the ...

Download the video directly here, or see it on the Aish.com website here (if you can't watch Youtube videos [hopefully!] then click the link below the video to watch it in a different player). Dov explains the point of this video: The video is not so precious because it ...

"Poshut Yid" posted today on the forum: I have failed! I have fallen. After 32 days I lost it. I knew I was losing it and I couldn't stop myself. It started with Facebook and I spent the whole day on the computer surfing. I even went home for supper and came back and thou...

After we talked about taking drastic measures in the past, "Mevakesh" sent us the following e-mail: I'll tell you something that I have been doing for a while and it seems to be working and may work for others. Every time I find myself looking at a woman for more time tha...

The Beis Ahron of Karlin writes that Torah and Mitzvos need to feel fresh and new in our eyes every day. So he asks, how can we instill this in our hearts? Answers the Beis Ahron, we can learn a Kal Ve'Chocher from the Yetzer Hara himself. The Yetzer Hara tempts a person ...