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It is written in Pirkei Avos "Let the poor be members of your household and don't talk much with women". R' Nachman says that the Mishna is hinting to us a secret, namely, that Tzedaka is a great s egulah not to come to sexual fantasies. Even so, continues R' Nachman, the...

Mevakesh Hashem posted on the forum: We have to realize that if and when you fall occasionally, IT SHOULD NOT GET YOU DOWN!!! The very fact that the falling makes you feel bad and guilty shows how high you have climbed! That same "falling" was everyday happening in the "...

We've been working for the past few months with a 20 year old Ba'al Teshuvah, unmarried and schooling in a secular environment. Through great self-sacrifice he has been clean for close to a half a year already. Recently however, he has been feeling a bit frustrated and se...

Taken from www.ilovetorah.com Once, when Rabbi Pinchas of Korets entered his Beis Medresh, study hall, he noticed that his students stopped conversing and then started again. He asked them what it was they were talking about. They told the Rebbe that they were saying ho...

Here are some excerpts from a discussion on our forum that's just packed with great tips and chizuk! (Some slight editing was done to make it easier to read). "Frumthinker" writes: I came across this site today, and I felt compelled to make some comments here. I won't say...

The Jews who left Egypt didn't make it into the Holy Land. They couldn't believe that Hashem was strong enough to conquer so many powerful nations. But even though they didn't make it, their children did, as is says "and your children who you said would be plundered, the...

People often ask us how to avoid sexual thoughts and fantasies from plaguing them. Normally we refer them to this page of our FAQ section, but today I want to discuss another important facet as well. There is a common theme throughout Chassidic literature, that the more a...

The evil urge is similar to a prankster running through a crowd showing his tightly closed hand. No one knows what it is he is holding. He goes up to each person and asks, "What do you suppose I have in my hand?" Each person imagines that the closed hand has in it just wh...

Dear Chaver! It sounds like the two of you communicate quite a lot, sharing some feelings, and the bitter comments saying "she feels I ignore her", or that she is "exceedingly angry with me that I do this, or don't do that," that she lets you know she feels depressed, etc...

I came across some great chizuk that "Mevakesh Hashem" posted on our forum to someone who is just starting out on their journey and is having a hard time:   When the Yetzer Hara realizes that you are ready for real to give up the evil addiction, that's when he tightens th...

Listen up, all you spiritual warriors on our list! We keep receiving e-mails from people how difficult the struggle is and how they keep slipping... Dear Yidden! We know how powerful lust is, and how insidious the addiction can be! BUT... We know that the addiction is de...

In the summer time, many people have lots of time on their hands. The Michtav M'Eliahu (R. Dessler zt"l) writes that the mind is like a vast empty field. This field will not remain empty. If you do not fill it with good positive thoughts, or busy yourself with something, ...

  A Member posted on forum... One thing that works is Tefillah. Instead of asking Hashem for all the things YOU want, thank HIM for all the things he has done for you lately, like giving you a day without acting out. Keep doing this every day and you will see and feel th...

Here are some excerpts from an inspiring story recently posted on our forum After G-d placed me at the crossroads, and i found myself having to confront my demons, that I have been hesitant (or perceived as unable ) to confront, I went on a drive to clear my mind.I shut ...

Here are some excerpts from an article on www.chabad.org that deals with recovery from addictions. Rabbi Benyamin Bresinger has worked with addicts for twenty years. He is the creator of a national seminar which integrates kabbalah and the 12 steps of Alcohol Anonymous, a...

Summer time is harder. Wherever you go, there are mixed crowds of vacationers and immodestly dressed women. One-time-addicts are especially sensitive to what they see on the street. The nature of the addiction causes the chemicals in the mind to be quickly aroused. It is ...

Someone asked us recently the following question. "How does one know that Hashem has accepted his Teshuva, especially for sexual sins?" Here are three different answers, all of which are true. 1) Chaza"l say that true Teshuvah is acheived "Ki'sheme'id alav yode'ah talumo...

An 18 year old Bachur posted his story on our forum along with the tips that he uses to help him stay clean. The story is particularly inspiring due to the fact that this boy received no Jewish Chinuch from his parents, and yet he is clean already for almost a year! If h...