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"GettingHelp" posted on the forum: It is truly amazing to see that when I stop and think before doing anything, good or bad, the few seconds of really thinking through of what I am about to do or want to do, helps put me in line. If I could only think before I act, I woul...

Staying happy, upbeat and positive is one of the biggest keys to success in this struggle. Chanukah is over, there's war in Israel, the cold winter lies before us and there have been falls and slips here and there. The Yetzer Hara wants more than anything to drag us down ...

I came across an awesome song called "Moishi On-Line" by "Destiny 4". Click here to listen to it. The song is a great example of how a person sometimes must take drastic measures to save his soul. Although most of us can't afford to smash our computers, there are other th...

Some important points of Chizuk from "Battleworn" on the forum to someone who was having a hard time guarding his eyes and who found that focusing on guarding his eyes made it even harder for him: 1) Your life's focus must always be on the positive. You absolutely can't g...

We have a non-Jew on our Chizuk list for a long time already who has totally broken free from the addiction to masturbation and porn for over two years already. When we asked him what was the secret of his determination, this was his reply: I have no secret other than the...

Someone asked us recently after a fall for an incentive to restart his clean count to 90 days. Off the top of my head, I wrote him the following:Our sages say two things:1) "Repent a day before you die". Since we don't know if we will be alive tomorrow, we must always rep...

We should never think that we are above falling and let our guard down.  Rabbi Miller was once in the hospital and asked for a male nurse. The doctors said to him "but you're an old man already!". "Yes", replied Rabbi Miller , "but I don't want to become young again!"

Today, Ephraim posted on the "Wall of Honor" section of the forum: I'm not that new to this site, but I finally have the courage to commit myself to this project. I am single and have been trying to overcome this for many years. I just started going to SA meetings and hav...

Below are excerpts from the SA pamphlet called "Why Stop Lusting" from www.sa.org. Rabbi Avraham J. Twerski believes that joining a 12-Step SA group is the most powerful and sure way to break free of this addiction. However, even Rabbi Twerski agrees that it is not for ev...

"Mevakesh" sent us recently the following insight which can help awaken our yearning and hope that Moshiach is indeed very near! This is written in the Zohar in Parshas Balak: "The Divine Spirit (Hashem) will go and return to Moshe Rabenu for 70 days. At the end of the 70...

Many people are accomplishing great feats of Teshuvah and turning their lives around on the GUE network B"H. And we can all watch this happening LIVE on our forum every day! Here are some recent inspiring posts (edited for clarity):   "Ano-Nymous" (a Bachur) writes: Today...

"Habib613" posted the following yesterday on the forum: Baruch Hashem, today is day 9. I cannot believe I made it this long! It's incredibly difficult, especially at night when there is no one around. But this site has helped tons! I listen to music while I work, and it b...

"Battleworn" posted the following powerful Chizuk on the forum from a Shmooze by R' Tzvi Meir Zilberberg - Shvi'ee Shel Pesach 5759 (edited for clarity): The Chozeh from Lublin, The Beer Mayim Chaim, R' Hershele of Ziditshov, R' Tzadok Hacohen and other tzadikim all sai...

Some may protest the above title. "Why do we need to look for psychological explanation when someone acts out sexually?" they protest. There is a simple explanation. It's called taivah (lust) and yetzer hara (evil inclination). Looking for psychological explanations, they...

The Chassidic Sefarim speak about how we are able to learn true Ahavas Hashem from Shechem Ben Chamor. The Torah uses four different descriptions for Shechem's infatuation with Dinah, in the following order: It is interesting to note that the order of Shechem's "infatuati...

One of the great tzadikim rendered the pasuk "Velo sosuru acharei levavchem ve'acharei eineichem" as follows. Don't untie your kesher with Hashem after (acharei) you went after your eyes and after your heart. The greatest nachas ruach for Hashem is when we keep fighting e...

The Zohar in Parshas Tetzava brings an encounter between R' Shimon Bar Yochai and a old Holy Jew who came out of the desert. R' Shimon asked him why he had been in the desert and he replied that he dwells there the whole year round and learns Torah, explaining that he did...

Addicts have a problem -- their addiction. I had a problem -- my addiction and my inability to overcome it. Convictions got us nowhere. I had plenty of convictions. I was learning sifrei musar regularly and seriously for 20 years. Had I been in control, no doubt I would h...