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Re: Home of Gibbor120 30 Dec 2015 00:26 #272762

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take it easy wrote:
Can someone please explain if its a contradicts anything by understanding where the addiction comes from

I think understanding addiction is totally fine, it can give one clarity and certain tools for emotional development. But if one is truly an addict then it's not gonna keep them sober.
What works for me: 1) Honesty 2) Meetings 3) 12-step 4) Listening to my Sponsor 5) Not doing what I want to do 6) Inviting the God of my understanding into my life

"I can't do it, God can help." | "Everything I want is on the other side of fear." | "Where there is deprivation there is addiction." | "Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery." | "Stop stopping, start living."

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Re: Home of Gibbor120 23 Mar 2016 04:55 #282259

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take it easy wrote on 29 Dec 2015 20:14:
Can someone please explain if its a contradicts anything by understanding where the addiction comes from

Usually younger people like to think about this question and talk about it a lot. Older, married folks who have something to lose, often lose the patience to mess around with philosophical matters - they need help. Just an observation. I have no clue what age you are, or whether or not your problem threatens your life, lifestyle, or anything you've got at all.

But setting all that aside, have you discovered that figuring out things like where the addiction comes from, has helped you in the past? If so, can you bring an example of that, please. I think that should come before philosophical discussion ensues, and before anybody tries to answer your question. Just a suggestion  
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Re: Home of Gibbor120 23 Mar 2016 10:06 #282268

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There are definite genetic, environmental, and experience factors that increase the probability of addiction. But I need to work my program to stay sober. I also go to therapy for emotional development. My emotional maturity stopped when I started acting out, which was very young.
What works for me: 1) Honesty 2) Meetings 3) 12-step 4) Listening to my Sponsor 5) Not doing what I want to do 6) Inviting the God of my understanding into my life

"I can't do it, God can help." | "Everything I want is on the other side of fear." | "Where there is deprivation there is addiction." | "Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery." | "Stop stopping, start living."

My thread: Big Steps

Email: iam24zman@gmail.com

Re: Home of Gibbor120 23 Mar 2016 11:08 #282278

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Dov wrote on 23 Mar 2016 04:55:

take it easy wrote on 29 Dec 2015 20:14:
Can someone please explain if its a contradicts anything by understanding where the addiction comes from

Usually younger people like to think about this question and talk about it a lot. Older, married folks who have something to lose, often lose the patience to mess around with philosophical matters - they need help. Just an observation. I have no clue what age you are, or whether or not your problem threatens your life, lifestyle, or anything you've got at all.

But setting all that aside, have you discovered that figuring out things like where the addiction comes from, has helped you in the past? If so, can you bring an example of that, please. I think that should come before philosophical discussion ensues, and before anybody tries to answer your question. Just a suggestion  

Which also explains why some people get stuck on one of the first few steps for many months or more. There are people that don't wanna work the program and that's fine, but if you wanna work it, don't beat it to death.
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Re: Home of Gibbor120 27 Mar 2016 23:32 #282695

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Yes, it is helpful for a person to be aware of why/in what situations they turn to their addicted behaviors.

Re: Home of Gibbor120 28 Mar 2016 02:42 #282711

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skeptical wrote on 27 Mar 2016 23:32:
Yes, it is helpful for a person to be aware of why/in what situations they turn to their addicted behaviors.

Long time no see skep. Hope things are well.
What works for me: 1) Honesty 2) Meetings 3) 12-step 4) Listening to my Sponsor 5) Not doing what I want to do 6) Inviting the God of my understanding into my life

"I can't do it, God can help." | "Everything I want is on the other side of fear." | "Where there is deprivation there is addiction." | "Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery." | "Stop stopping, start living."

My thread: Big Steps

Email: iam24zman@gmail.com

Re: Home of Gibbor120 28 Mar 2016 14:41 #282741

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Boruch Hashem. 
Have been really busy.

Re: Home of Gibbor120 28 Mar 2016 15:30 #282744

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That is what i heard. Good for you.
What works for me: 1) Honesty 2) Meetings 3) 12-step 4) Listening to my Sponsor 5) Not doing what I want to do 6) Inviting the God of my understanding into my life

"I can't do it, God can help." | "Everything I want is on the other side of fear." | "Where there is deprivation there is addiction." | "Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery." | "Stop stopping, start living."

My thread: Big Steps

Email: iam24zman@gmail.com

Re: Home of Gibbor120 29 Mar 2016 15:44 #282873

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ditto
Admin put these lines here cuz he likes 'em:
"The heart needs to be broken when will-power is not enough"
"Get off the 18-Wheeler and onto a tricycle!"
"The heck with me, what can I do for you?"
"I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons!"

Re: Home of Gibbor120 13 Apr 2016 21:13 #284497

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A very big Mazal Tov to Gibbor on (yesterday) reaching 2,500 days clean, one day at a time!
Just as an alcoholic needs to avoid that first sip, a lust addict needs to avoid that first slip.Slip today? No way! ;)Fall today? No way, Jose'!

Re: Home of Gibbor120 13 Apr 2016 21:31 #284498

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WOW - I was worried he fell off the highway

MAZEL TOV!!!!!!!!!!

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Re: Home of Gibbor120 13 Apr 2016 22:57 #284509

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He might be off the highway, but he sure as Hell is on the right road, and boy am I glad that he didn't lose my number.
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
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GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


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Re: Home of Gibbor120 14 Apr 2016 20:38 #284607

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Thank you!  I'm still here and still trucking B"H.  I'm just busy, which itself is a good thing for my sobriety.  I do plan to spend some time here when I get a chance.  Probably, not much until at least after Pesach.

Re: Home of Gibbor120 14 Apr 2016 20:54 #284609

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Thanks for stoppin' by the Monstuh Truck Stop and Comedy Club!!
!אנא עבדא דקודשא בריך הוא

וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל

And every day that you want to waste, that you want to waste, you can
And every day that you want to wake up, that you want to wake, you can
And every day that you want to change, that you want to change, yeah
I'll help you see it through...



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Re: Home of Gibbor120 14 Apr 2016 20:54 #284610

Congrats on your year of sobriety!
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