There was a lot on the forum about watching your eyes
I could only share my experience
I basically gave up my struggle years ago, because it was worse when I didn’t look, because I got so exited what’s going on there…… and as we all know by now that 99% of this struggle is the imagination that makes you……
So what I learned
I needed to find a way not to look around, not because I’m strong and I’m able to FORCE myself not to look, only to find a place in me that’s not interested
So I practiced, urge surfing, mindfulness, and when I’m aware what in me wants to look etc. and you don’t give in, I’m are not forcing myself, rather being in control of myself, being mindful and recognizing the urge, and not letting it hijack me, and not letting him take me over.
But this helped me to be happy not to look around and feeling in control, and feeling good not being controlled and pulled by my urges.
But still once I see something attractive I still have a hard time, but still much better than before.
But being in this mindful mindset is not easy all the time
And I do feel I need to practice daily urge surfing etc.
I tried accountability, to have to report how my day was, but I see it doesn’t help me, because when I use force the opposite happens, I need to feel not interested in looking.
But to have a partner that keeps me accountable to practice urge surfing, F2F that’s a very big help.
Summary
1. Practice urge surfing
2. Review F2f, work on one thing each week
3. Avoid triggering situations
