mikvehmayim wrote on 02 Aug 2017 23:34:
Hi there, I wanted to reach out to the forum and introduce myself. I have been struggling with addiction in this area for about 20 years, since I was about 20. The main aspects of behavior in my addiction are viewing p**** images on-line and acting out with m****. I go through different periods of "off" and "on", and I have had times that I have been able to stay clean for a while (perhaps a matter of weeks or months at the most) - but often (and currently) this has been a daily struggle.
I am sure that I share many of the feelings and struggles that I have seen on this forum. The sense of presenting myself one way and being something else are of course very difficult. In addition, I am amazed at myself for wasting so much precious time on this addiction. It is totally hampering my ability to succeed in areas of life that I know are important to me. I know that I am undermining myself in a huge way - but I have not yet broken out of this behavior after many tries. Thank G-d, I am married with kids, and on the whole, my family life is strong. Yet, I know that it would be much stronger if I can succeed in breaking past this.
I do think that it is key for me now to try and get out of isolation. This is my first time posting on the forum. I do recognize that this addiction thrives on being alone and "in the dark". I would love to know what people suggest in terms of connecting with others who are struggling. Is there a weekly or daily phone call that you would suggest? Or any other suggestions in terms of getting connected to others would be appreciated.
In addition, I think that I could use some help on a purely technical level. Many years ago, I installed Webchaver on my computer and phone - and that helps a great deal. However, Webchaver does not monitor app activity on the phone, and that has left some "holes" in apps that have "allowed" me to slip time and time again. I would love to find out if there is someone that can give me some technical guidance to make some things on my phone inaccessible. I am not in a community near a Vinishmartem group, so I would appreciate some help over the phone or by email.
Thanks very much for any help or guidance, mikveymayim.
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