sheleg wrote on 27 Jun 2017 22:02:

This bocher = you, the one and only sheleg

"Stop stopping start living"

Stop stopping by everyone else's garage and advising what other bachurim and color teachers should do even though you have no clue if it works or not

Check your own engine
start with your karma.  I never touched your karma. Do you know what it is?

Somehow it got damaged in transit

Someone said you should check other recovery tools on gye

Actually you should check other websites, no gye tools will work for a toy truck. 

You're playing games administering advice and no clue what you want here  or why

I asked you if you would be honest with your future wife and state your philosophies

Im waiting for an answer

Thats what i was told. I was going to start dating almost a year ago and my sponsor and my Rebbi agreed that i should wait until i become sober and start to recover. I am very grateful that i didnt start dating yet. I am just over a year sober and i am just starting to see my character defects and the underlying reasons why i act out and deal with them like a responsible person and not just escape to lust

Do you have a Rabbi/mentor/teacher/sponsor?
No said Mr. sheleg

Mr Sheleg,

You said you haven't had much sex, but that sounds like some. Is that correct?

Also, you sound so puzzled that he shouldn't get married till he recovers. Would you tell a drug addict to get married before he recovers?

Markz,,,you are not going to get an answer for me because I don't understand what you are saying.

sheleg wrote on 27 Jun 2017 23:14:

Markz asked you if you would tell your wife that she is supposed to be there for your Lust. 

sheleg wrote on 27 Jun 2017 23:04:

Do you think it might be time perhaps?

Workingguy,,,
that is correct.
 years ago I had some.
I stopped when I realized that forbidden relationships don't last.

sheleg wrote on 27 Jun 2017 23:35:

Why don't they last?

Since you are the resident Marrige expert and Torah scholar as proven from your extensive posts, you should have at least 2 answers up your sleeve

workingguy,,,
 a question like that would scare her off.
Instead I would seek to know if she was a lusty lady in a round about way.
The mishna in avos says light headed talk brings one to lust.
So i would keep talking until I find the answer to that question.

Markz,,,
they don't last because a Jewish wedding has shevah brouchos.
And a forbidden relationship has none.

Cordnoy,,,,

Mr sheleg says not yet.
I am having to much fun posting on this forum. 

sheleg wrote on 28 Jun 2017 00:22:

It may be 2 months late, but the snow is gonna melt very soon if you keep going on like this having fun at the expense of the recovery fun

By the way, are you in college or Yeshiva or already semi retired?

sheleg wrote on 28 Jun 2017 00:22:

Mr Sheleg,

It is no big deal to poke fun and cause Trouble (sorry Trouble) where people are working hard and you're writing silly posts in broken English that seem to just want to stir the pot. If you're serious people might take you seriously, but it doesn't seem that you are. Every single person on this forum can be a clown like you if they so choose- with jokes about sex and prostitutes and the like, making light of everything. But if your jokes cause even one person to take this issue more lightly.......oy vey. 

Workingguy,,,,
I Sense the anger in your post and I am not going to reply.