will Succeed Beh wrote on 09 Jan 2017 14:23:

Why jump straight to Taphshic? Have you tried stopping?

cordnoy wrote on 09 Jan 2017 14:34:

I did stop, since Motzei Shabes.

But i need something to keep me off it.

Singularity wrote on 09 Jan 2017 14:37:

What i call Jewish is - Grovies, the Yidish Plays, or just simple music videos.

Shlomo24 wrote on 09 Jan 2017 14:50:

Yes Sholomo i have tried stopping more than once, the past week was the first time i saw i non Jewish movie (except fireproof) since i am sober.

you know how it goes one weak moment and your getting sucked into it again, i can say im somewhat (or more) addicted to movies!!!  and i want to get off it!

I had/have the same issue with movies. Before GYE I knew other people struggled with p&m but never realized so many also struggled with tv/movies! 

I think it's a good idea to stop watching movies, however i agree with shlomo that you shouldn't jump to TAPHSIC shvua. Maybe try backing away from movies little by little- no PG-13 then no PG, etc. From personal experiance it might not be good to stop cold turkey, but of course everyone is different

360gye wrote on 09 Jan 2017 19:07:

I do not totally agree with you, as when i stopped smoking, the only way it worked was by stopping at once, i did take breaks that Bein Hazmanim i did smoke etc. but when i didn't i was cold turkey, i'm now nearly 4 years smoke-free.

Could be that a Shavua is to far just because if i would fall on movies, it would pull me down in p&m as well....

But i wouldnt make it as severe as my system in p&m (here), just a single fence with a £50 Knas, if the YH would persuade me that it's worth watching it even with all the problems i get from it, then let let him persuade me that it is worth 50 bucks (witch would be harder....)

In our SAA meeting last night, the topic was avoiding temptation, and I explained the TaPHSiC method, as best as one could to a room of mainly non-jews =3

It's a temptation-blocker, sure. But I wouldn't advocate its sole use. It must be used in conjunction with other stuff.

Tell me, do you like movies, like as a break, or are you addicted to them? I was addicted to TV shows, would knock out seasons in one sitting. But I broke out of it. BH. How? Gradual progression. And the wife and I sit down to a good animated animal film every now and then.
Strike a good balance. You'll know what works for you.

I am addicted to movies, last Motzei Shabbes i came home about 12 @ night coz i got pulled into movies, and i keep on watching even if i knew that its going to be on the Cheshben of the urgent thing needed to be done, and on the cheshben of my wife and job....

So yes i am addicted to movies {mostly crime & action}, and even as im an addict i have got some self control, as of today im 41 days sober - just on the TaPHSiC Method.... (will probably start the 12 steps soon, will post about it!)

But could be that i should have more of a balance...

will Succeed Beh wrote:

I recommend such Taphsics - I use such too - click on the word "restrictions" in my signature for an example

This is unlike regular Taphsics that are designed for extreme white knuckling situations which wouldn't help me

Markz wrote on 10 Jan 2017 12:22:

I already had a conversation in mini 196 about having something like a 90 day chart for other type of Kabolles, a few suggested habitbull - but thats a smartphone app, and i just use a computer...

I don't see what you have to lose by not watching those movies.  Gedarim are important, (although as some have mentioned, they don't solve the entire problem).  They can help, so why not use them.

Thank you all for the warm and caring responses

I spoke with my mentor yesterday about everything including the movies issue, i realised that the whole movie addiction is in sync with the p&m addiction.

There is a certain hole inside me, craving to be filled {addiction} ! and that keeps me wanting to go back to p&m, and when im not getting it, i try to fill it with other substances like movies etc. So its all one big issue that needs to be dealt....
i notices another interesting thing that Shabes by Davening i get so tense just by thinking - the whole week i escape from being with myself, and when it comes Shabes especially by Davening, my mind starts rolling so fast that i cant cope, i start thinking about money and fantasising of porn, anything just not have time to connect with myself....

He advised me to start with the 12 Step's, he'll find me a sponsor, help me get the literature, he said he'll even fly over for my first SA meeting (not sure yet if i'll do it) .... 

I'll keep you posted whats going on BEH.

Thx fro sharing your thoughts. 
\what do you think the hole inside of you is? how did it come about do you think?
From what you just said it sounds like the hole is a lose of time to connect with yourself...

I fell im slipping!!!!!!!!!