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Re: Community 13 May 2016 03:04 #287681

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I'm posting, because i kind of feel like i NEED to. I'm not even sure what i want to say, and what's relevant, but i know that i've often had that issue, and that's when i started sliding out of the supports i was just starting to have.
I've been, reading some of the threads. Unfortunately, i don't have that much time for it. There were a lot of things that i identify with-all of them trouble, and i just feel crazy because i'm doing some things, but at the same time i'm hesitant/scared to do the big important things. But for that i guess, ODAAT, although then i wonder what's the point of reading an writing etc, if it's not going to have effect, so what am i accomplishing on this one day? At least i'm connecting, and (i'm not sure if this is actually good) actually getting some of the crazy thoughts out of my head.

Re: Community 13 May 2016 03:10 #287682

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I have decided to do a taphsic. I'm fearful of it. And i have to work out what the details will be. And of course as i think of ideas for knas etc, there'll be excuses why this and that can't work etc. so i'll have to write down options, and then go through them again (possibly with someone i take advice from), till i have something real.

Re: Community 13 May 2016 03:28 #287688

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Taphsic sounds like a great idea
The only time I swear is when I hear it mentioned
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Re: Community 13 May 2016 03:33 #287689

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I'm not sure what you mean with that disclaimer. And while i'm at it, what on earth does that spoiler thing mean?

Re: Community 13 May 2016 03:55 #287693

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Sorry it's late - can't explain now

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Re: Community 13 May 2016 04:23 #287697

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Tap on it

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there is no turning back

Re: Community 13 May 2016 05:02 #287703

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I always do. I just can't figure out what the word spoiler means in this context, and what there is to beware of.
Also is there a comprehensive list of roshei teivos some where? For instance "KOT" (i gave a guess but not sure.

Re: Community 13 May 2016 17:00 #287727

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Avrohom wrote:
I always do. I just can't figure out what the word spoiler means in this context, and what there is to beware of.
Also is there a comprehensive list of roshei teivos some where? For instance "KOT" (i gave a guess but not sure.

KOT means keep on trucking 
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Re: Community 13 May 2016 18:42 #287734

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Avrohom wrote on 13 May 2016 03:04:
I'm posting, because i kind of feel like i NEED to. I'm not even sure what i want to say, and what's relevant, but i know that i've often had that issue, and that's when i started sliding out of the supports i was just starting to have.
I've been, reading some of the threads. Unfortunately, i don't have that much time for it. There were a lot of things that i identify with-all of them trouble, and i just feel crazy because i'm doing some things, but at the same time i'm hesitant/scared to do the big important things. But for that i guess, ODAAT, although then i wonder what's the point of reading an writing etc, if it's not going to have effect, so what am i accomplishing on this one day? At least i'm connecting, and (i'm not sure if this is actually good) actually getting some of the crazy thoughts out of my head.

I feel much better now than I did before I starting posting. For me, the connections are huge because it reminds me that I'm not alone in this frustrating, confusing struggle.

Sometimes just getting our thoughts out there into the world can unburden us, and the knowledge that people will read what we write, and sympathize, is helpful.

ODAAT doesn't just mean to focus on the now. It also says to be patient, to allow the process to play itself out. We aren't going to change ourselves instantly. Improving ourselves, especially in something as powerful as lust, is going to take time. Focusing on today is easier because a) it's only a small load to carry and b) it let's us rely on our current progress to power us through the process by itself. It's less work this way.

I think that made sense.

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Re: Community 13 May 2016 18:52 #287735

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So this is the infamous "one day at a time" thread that the guys on the call were talking about....
Good thing I didn't read it. 

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Re: Community 13 May 2016 19:10 #287737

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Bigmoish wrote on 13 May 2016 18:52:
So this is the infamous "one day at a time" thread that the guys on the call were talking about....
Good thing I didn't read it. 

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Re: Community 13 May 2016 19:12 #287738

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Even better.
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"Expectation is the mother of frustration" - gibbor120
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Re: Community 13 May 2016 19:21 #287741

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markz wrote on 13 May 2016 03:28:
Taphsic sounds like a great idea
The only time I swear is when I hear it mentioned
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Please see this recent threat and decide for yourself if it is the first tool you should try
guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/285443-Re-help#285443
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Re: Community 13 May 2016 23:27 #287771

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So where is the infamous one?

Re: Community 13 May 2016 23:35 #287774

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