Rightkedusha wrote on Unknown:

I use a filter to weed out unnecessary "first looks". Meaning a filter that blocks me from accessing lustful material without meaning to. Most filters do that.

Shlomo24 wrote on Unknown:

My filter occasionally blocks me from seeing lustful material when I am meaning to as well, but that approach is a foolish one.

As i mentioned - I sure hope you were on cordnoys call as I was (lucky day for me - during work is usually impossible)

moish that was a great share - I heard yours previously - and it's a chizuk for me!

Lets keep on Trucking together!!!!

markz wrote on Unknown:


Markz

I actually mostly don't disagree with you. When I said that being committed to change would stop you from acting out, I didn't mean that you can think your way out of this. All I meant is that if you haven't decided for real to quit then no filter will help.

BUT if you DO decide to quit AND do something about it, then you have a shot. I had no intention to just convey that deciding was enough. As I wrote it I realized that it might be taken that way but I was too lazy to add.

In regard to the filter, I don't disagree with you in concept either. You need a plan, an approach, and then the filter helps that and without it it's worthless.

But I still don't understand why you think he should wait to install it. He's going to get it eventually anyway.

For most of my time on GYE, my computer has had monitoring but no filter and I know how to get around some of the monitoring. And now I have a filter for the kids only; I have the password. And this level of deterrent didn't always stop me when I was interested in bypassing it, but it did often enough.

Now that I made a decision that I really had enough, it doesn't really matter that much one way or another. But I would never feel comfortable having wide open internet, bc hats too easy and too readily available to get into trouble.

I have a filter at home without a monthly report for the internet activity.
At my work, although I asked to put filters, they didn't take seriously, so I have to be extra careful and I use the Taphsik method. Meanwhile b"h I didn't fall at work. It might be that by work I'm scared that if I'll be cought I'll be fired.
This shows that having a monitor or a report on your internet activity is even stronger than a filter.
A filter is still necessary for our week moments.

On one of the latest Gye Chizuk Emails was a study that long use of porn ends up with prostitution.

Right kedusha, I can share with you a tool which helps me basically to overcome my urge to porn, I have someone NOT my wife, whom I'll share my fall. If your ready try finding someone live whom you can share your falls.
He should be someone you can trust and he should be someone that can understand you.

Hatzluche

Rightkedusha wrote on Unknown:

guardyoureyes.com/the-gye-program try here to download the Hanbook

Ok, we aagree:ree1) A filter is necessary2) A filter isn't the only help I need.I never had a filter (because I wanted the access to the...).  If you don't mind sharing which filter you have I'd appreciate it.

Depends what type of computer but for a Windows then k9 is good.

click here
Tag is very good as they have your code, and you can call in to open or ajust your settings.
there is a lot on the market and you have to see whats good for your needs

I am personally satisfied with qustodio. It has filter and accountability software (which is crucial). It's free for one device, 35 dollars/year for up to 5.

Bigmosh has 2 in 1
go for it
I'll also look into it
thanks

Also, it works for all platforms and operating systems, though iPhones will probably need more careful accountability.

From the qustodio website, it looks like more of a parental control filter. Seems like they won't block social media, which is my main yetzer hora

So then call the game manufacturer, they have specials...

You'll be hearing from my legal team