serenity wrote:


I feel like this should be the first post of every thread that gets started so true

Anyone want to shmooze?

schmoozing through the forum is like eating soup with chopsticks: undeniably frustrating.

I am so glad that I found this site. I come here looking for help, pornography has ruined my life , has taken my life ,job, career . I started when I purchased my first computer and I found out how easly it was to fing pornographt on the internet.I would spend hours on the computer till wee hours of the morning. It was common for me to ignore family time time with my children I was addicted to porn, but it did not end there , I found file sharing sited and than started downloading child porn, Iwas spirling out of control. Untill one morning there was a knock at the door and it was federal agents with a search warrent. that that exact moment my life changed for good. I was arrested 3 weeks later charged with possession of child porn. I spent the next 2 years in federal prison/
I lost my career as a adjunct professor of Respiratory Therapy and a full time position in a large hospital taking care of life support machined when patints came out of surgery.
my license to practice medicine was revoked. Now I am lucky to either get a dishwashing or cooking job somewhere. I am on probation for the next 12 years.
I thank Hashem every day that I have my wife and children that stuck with me through all this there support never wavered.
pornography in any form is dangerous .\I still struggle , and I am sure that I am on the right track here and I can get some of the guidance I need

yitzack

OMG, there is so much good hope for you, Yitzack. Great hearing the truth about yourself so plainly laid out and without judgement or shame. Boruch Hashem. You will certainly find friends here and wherever you go for recovery.

I didn't get clear on whether you are still in now (i doubt the federale's allow internet), or out - and if ur out, since when was that, please? Just for context.

I want to remind you that GYE is not like a live SA meeting. A live meeting is far safer, fr even though you are there without a bag on your head and a username here is essentially a bag-covered head - still, curiosity-seekers generally stop at actually walking in themselves to a live meeting of pervs like me. Not so here on GYE...

GYE's forum is completely open to the public, where ANYBODY will see your post whether they are GYE members or not. 'Anybody' definitely includes unscrupulous people, trawlers for dirt, etc. For this reason, I'd never give any more possible identifying info here on GYE than just my name. So please friend, be careful with any more detail (you've got plenty there already, if you ask me).

Finally, after all that, do you feel free of lust compulsions since your incarceration? Has it changed since your release?

Thanks again, and continued success for you and your obviously very special, sweet family.
Dov

Shlomo24 wrote:


On the phone

yitzchak613, that was a very powerful and emotional share. Ditto to what Dov said. Pls feel free to email me.

Hi yitzack613 and Welcome,

I have no words, other than we are happy to have you with us. I'm sure we can learn a lot from you. Please keep sharing.

serenity wrote:


serenity if you press on index you will see this:

One of the most powerful tools for breaking addictions is to stay out of isolation. The GYE forum is anonymous platform of group support, and a life-line of chizuk and support for hundreds of people in exactly your situation. See what others are doing to stay clean. Get and share advice with our vibrant community. Post on the forum to get support, tell your story, reach out for help when feeling weak and strengthen each other! You will never be alone in this struggle again.

I have unlined a specific line of the quote. can you make sense of this given what you have just quoted.

I have been home now for 4 years and go to S.O therapy once a week,in addition to that we must submit to polygraphe every 6 months. zOne of the questions on it have you viewed pornography or C P .What we work on mostly is cognitive restructing redirecting our thoughts.It has helped but I have stumbled along the way but it is getting easier.I hope I can help at last one person here I plan to honest and open because you can't help yurself if you are completely honest with your self.

Yirais, Thank you for your response. I'm not sure what you are saying though. Are you just showing me what seems to be a contradiction in GYE policies, are you offering a different opinion and citing another paragraph from GYE in support of it or maybe both?

From my point of view and looking at the two paragraphs in context, I don't see any contradiction. There are different kinds of advice. There is the kind that is based on my personal experience of what works for me and there is the kind of advice where I am trying to make up what I think is good for people. Perhaps the wizards of GYE can clarify the policy better.

serenity wrote:


K - I started to write but I deleted. I was showing you what I saw as a possible contradiction and perhaps you could shed some light.I don't want to split hairs on the intentions of another persons writing.
Thanks for the response.

yiraishamaim wrote:


I have been assured by the author of the paragraph that I quoted from that my explanation was sufficient

MarkZ, how do I a paste a picture in here?

Technical Support GLAD TO BE HERE
Serenity - for you - anything!!

The image must

1- be kosher
2- reside in a folder that never hosted porn images (that's why I only post images from my work computer - just kidding)
3- be jpeg gif or tiff

4- click add file
5- browse and click on the img
6- To have the image show בכל כבודה, click 'insert'
7- I just figured out how to add an image in here with an iPhone too!