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Re: Big Steps 03 May 2016 18:07 #286498

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cordnoy wrote on 03 May 2016 18:02:
Great stuff Shlomo.

I wasn't completely sure about the last paragraph though, but that's fine as well.

You have one heck of a healthy attitude.

Thanks. I'm not sure either. 
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Re: Big Steps 03 May 2016 18:52 #286505

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Shlomo24 wrote on 03 May 2016 18:07:

cordnoy wrote on 03 May 2016 18:02:
Great stuff Shlomo.

I wasn't completely sure about the last paragraph though, but that's fine as well.

You have one heck of a healthy attitude.

Thanks. I'm not sure either. 

Do i need to quote the exact email? I still have it.
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Re: Big Steps 03 May 2016 19:13 #286509

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Shlomo24 wrote on 03 May 2016 17:02:

3) SSA isn't my problem because God has decided that I should gain attraction for women. My attraction is steadily growing and believe me I am not trying to facilitate that. I may even be actively NOT letting it facilitate. I'm quite comfortable with my attractions, we are old buddies. I am used to this and I like it, it's a homey place for me. I do find that the more I distance from SSA the stronger my sexual attractions to women are. I was in a point where I didn't lust after women at all, I just had the attraction, but now I need to be a little bit more careful. I am still grossed out by the prospect of watching heterosexual porn, I don't think women should be portrayed that way and I don't believe that any woman REALLY want to be a pornstar, as much as the liberal media will say otherwise. I am not, however, grossed out about sex with a woman, which I used to be. (And that is also for a slew of reasons). A woman in a gorgeous dress may be triggering, although for the most part they are not. I do objectify woman a lot though, probably the same I do with everybody. 

On the weekly ssa calls with jonathen, he explains (in his understanding) ssa  is attraction (a longing to have somthing from the other person, non-sexual)  combined with lust. If one would lessen that need to get something, one would still be left with the plain regular lust issue that so many on gye have.  If you're now dealing with women issues, it sounds like you're doing good work in the ssa department, but watch out, most people here will tell that lusting (even for women) aint no picnic.
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Re: Big Steps 04 May 2016 02:36 #286580

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Uhuh, you'd better bet You see men walking around in mini skirts? 

Re: Big Steps 04 May 2016 02:53 #286587

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Yesod wrote on 04 May 2016 02:36:
Uhuh, you'd better bet You see men walking around in mini skirts? 

The men walk around topless. It's alot worse.
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Re: Big Steps 04 May 2016 02:54 #286588

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Hi Shlomo, you sounds like a great recovery guy!.
just wanted to point this out
we can move on now
English is not my native language (Hebrew is)
Sorry if there are any mistakes.
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Re: Big Steps 04 May 2016 02:56 #286590

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GuideMe wrote:
Hi Shlomo, you sounds like a great recovery guy!.
just wanted to point this out
 

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Re: Big Steps 04 May 2016 03:48 #286591

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stillgoing wrote on 04 May 2016 02:53:

Yesod wrote on 04 May 2016 02:36:
Uhuh, you'd better bet You see men walking around in mini skirts? 

The men walk around topless. It's alot worse.

Hehe
That was a setup 

Re: Big Steps 04 May 2016 04:07 #286592

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stillgoing wrote on 04 May 2016 02:53:

Yesod wrote on 04 May 2016 02:36:
Uhuh, you'd better bet You see men walking around in mini skirts? 

The men walk around topless. It's alot worse.

I don't get it...
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Re: Big Steps 04 May 2016 04:12 #286593

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I'm not exactly working on SSA stuff... Yes, I know about women. I used to be obsessed with heterosexual lust. I may have mentioned it earlier. From like 5th through 7th grade I was obsessed sexually with girls. It's proof that I'm an addict, not just SSA.
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Last Edit: 04 May 2016 04:12 by shlomo24.

Re: Big Steps 04 May 2016 04:31 #286594

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Yesod wrote on 04 May 2016 03:48:

stillgoing wrote on 04 May 2016 02:53:

Yesod wrote on 04 May 2016 02:36:
Uhuh, you'd better bet You see men walking around in mini skirts? 

The men walk around topless. It's alot worse.

Hehe
That was a setup 

 
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Re: Big Steps 04 May 2016 04:34 #286595

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KingShlomo24 wrote on 04 May 2016 04:07:

stillgoing wrote on 04 May 2016 02:53:

MelechYesod wrote on 04 May 2016 02:36:
Uhuh, you'd better bet You see men walking around in mini skirts? 

The men walk around topless. It's alot worse.

I don't get it...

Truthfully shlomo, i don't really get it either - even though i responded. You'll have to ask Yesod to explain.
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Re: Big Steps 05 May 2016 06:30 #286722

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Re: Big Steps 05 May 2016 19:42 #286811

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stillgoing wrote on 03 May 2016 19:13:
but watch out, most people here will tell that lusting (even for women) aint no picnic. 

I do not understand. There is nothing attractive about women. Only that getting married is duty. If already you have wife I do not understand why lust on other women? Already you have a woman
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Re: Big Steps 05 May 2016 20:42 #286817

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ehrliche.bochur wrote on 05 May 2016 19:42:

stillgoing wrote on 03 May 2016 19:13:
but watch out, most people here will tell that lusting (even for women) aint no picnic. 

I do not understand. There is nothing attractive about women. Only that getting married is duty. If already you have wife I do not understand why lust on other women? Already you have a woman


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