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At the brink of cheating - can I hold myself back?
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At the brink of cheating - can I hold myself back? 26 Sep 2019 14:45 #343856

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My wife is great in most areas. Thing is, she is moderately attractive and l also feel I don't get enough sexual passion from her. I have a goyish beautiful single girl who is actively trying to get me in bed with her. It is my own fault that I started with her but now I feel I have to be like Yosef Hatzadik to hold back.

Re: At the brink of cheating - can I hold myself back? 26 Sep 2019 14:53 #343857

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Re: At the brink of cheating - can I hold myself back? 26 Sep 2019 14:55 #343860

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You had a similar experience?

Re: At the brink of cheating - can I hold myself back? 26 Sep 2019 15:12 #343861

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passion wrote on 26 Sep 2019 14:45:
My wife is great in most areas. Thing is, she is moderately attractive and l also feel I don't get enough sexual passion from her. I have a goyish beautiful single girl who is actively trying to get me in bed with her. It is my own fault that I started with her but now I feel I have to be like Yosef Hatzadik to hold back.

be strong passion,be strong!may i ask you a personal question,are you religious?
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Re: At the brink of cheating - can I hold myself back? 26 Sep 2019 15:16 #343863

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Not only am I religious, I am a very well respected and learned man. I excel in almost every area of my life but deep down inside lies the turmoil that not a soul is aware of.

Re: At the brink of cheating - can I hold myself back? 26 Sep 2019 15:16 #343864

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passion wrote on 26 Sep 2019 14:45:
My wife is great in most areas. Thing is, she is moderately attractive and l also feel I don't get enough sexual passion from her. I have a goyish beautiful single girl who is actively trying to get me in bed with her. It is my own fault that I started with her but now I feel I have to be like Yosef Hatzadik to hold back.

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Re: At the brink of cheating - can I hold myself back? 26 Sep 2019 15:22 #343865

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passion wrote on 26 Sep 2019 14:45:
My wife is great in most areas. Thing is, she is moderately attractive and l also feel I don't get enough sexual passion from her. I have a goyish beautiful single girl who is actively trying to get me in bed with her. It is my own fault that I started with her but now I feel I have to be like Yosef Hatzadik to hold back.

Welcome. Sorry to hear that. I struggle similarly. "Moderately attractive" was a reason that you look elsewhere, the reason she doesn't provide passion, or what? By the way, how do you know that this beautiful princess is tryin' to bed you?

By the way, a thread just started the other day about husband's who have cheated. Maybe post there and ask them for tips (on how or why not to cheat, hopefully).

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Re: At the brink of cheating - can I hold myself back? 26 Sep 2019 15:26 #343867

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Can you send me the link for that thread? Couldn't find it- new here and not so familiar. Thanks!

Re: At the brink of cheating - can I hold myself back? 26 Sep 2019 15:28 #343868

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And regarding your question- it's a combination of both. I am convinced that if my wife was the passionate type and really excited to be with me I probably wouldn't be looking in foreign pastures.

Re: At the brink of cheating - can I hold myself back? 26 Sep 2019 15:37 #343870

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Re: At the brink of cheating - can I hold myself back? 26 Sep 2019 15:46 #343871

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besides this girl do you have other issues with porn or mzl?i assume you do,if so does your other problems bring you happiness after the deed is done ,or terrible guilt, if guilt do you think acting out with this girl will be different?are you so confident that this girl wont be a whistle blower ?what do you mean that you  wish  you wouldnt have started with this girl?i wish you loads of hatzlacha to get out of this mess!
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