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Re: BAIN HAZMANIM 19 Apr 2016 04:25 #285149

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2 hours is a nice chunk.  It's too much for me for a commit.  But I wonder if for the purpose of this group a lower number is better anyways.  Are you confident that you can commit to 2 hours every day, rain or shine, Y"T or chol, even if the matzah and cream cheese is running low?

Re: BAIN HAZMANIM 19 Apr 2016 04:25 #285150

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Why?????

why would you not continue a bein hazmanim program after bein hazmanim

Yeah it would have a different structure, but "just think about it"
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Re: BAIN HAZMANIM 19 Apr 2016 06:31 #285189

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Mostly because if we continue the group after b"h then you  other people won't have an excuse for not joining. Right now they can still say that it's not bein hazmanim for them etc.


I do think it would be nice to continue the group (assuming it works out) after bein hazmanim as well.

Back to business, I think 45 minutes or a half hour is a better time for learning.
Also exercise might be better if we say a half hour of moderate exercise such as a brisk walk or 20 minutes of more intense exercise where your heart rate goes up a decent amount.

I'm already up after a semi-normal time so good night all.
Last Edit: 19 Apr 2016 17:52 by inastruggle. Reason: mark! seriously. Stop.

Re: BAIN HAZMANIM 19 Apr 2016 17:44 #285270

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I can commit for that - I could push for as much as 1 hour of learning. And 30 minutes exercise works. And I think a night time internet shut-off could be good, though it would cramp my style a bit.  

Aryeh? ela?  What do you think? 

I'm gonna plan to start as of today. B"N
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Re: BAIN HAZMANIM 19 Apr 2016 17:53 #285273

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It would cramp my style a lot. But definitely a good idea.

I'm ok with an hour too.
Last Edit: 19 Apr 2016 17:54 by inastruggle. Reason: markz

Re: BAIN HAZMANIM 19 Apr 2016 17:55 #285274

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fine here's the rough draft
all member of the Bain ha'azmanim program must commit to 1 hour of learning per day (not necessarily at one time) and 30 minutes of exercise per day as well if anyone wishes to use any device for any kind of entertainment (movies tv shows, games ETC)after 10:45 it must be cleared with the chevra first anyone who transgresses any of the conditions must give 5$ to tzedakah/ GYE
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Re: BAIN HAZMANIM 19 Apr 2016 18:01 #285275

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I was thinking more of a time when we can't use the internet for entertainment anymore. 
Last Edit: 19 Apr 2016 18:02 by inastruggle. Reason: who needs a reason?

Re: BAIN HAZMANIM 19 Apr 2016 18:08 #285276

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inastruggle wrote:
I was thinking more of a time when we can't use the internet for entertainment anymore. 

I edited it 
better?
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Re: BAIN HAZMANIM 19 Apr 2016 18:21 #285280

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Can we make the time 12:00 am? I don't plan on going to sleep before then anyway.

Re: BAIN HAZMANIM 19 Apr 2016 18:25 #285281

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inastruggle wrote:
Can we make the time 12:00 am? I don't plan on going to sleep before then anyway.

You don't think that that's  a little late?
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Re: BAIN HAZMANIM 19 Apr 2016 18:32 #285284

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Why can't each choose their own time that the group will hold them responsible for

Someone that wants to shutdown unfiltered devices after 2am, it's their call.

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Re: BAIN HAZMANIM 19 Apr 2016 18:43 #285286

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I'm kind of a night owl. Going to sleep from 12 to 8 is my ideal situation, It's not easy for me to go to bed at 12.

I think we should all commit to our own time. Something that's reasonable for us. We each have our own ideal schedule.

Also my entertainment isn't usually movies and games. It's gye and another forum I'm active on.

Re: BAIN HAZMANIM 19 Apr 2016 18:44 #285288

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Mark blew it up before I finished posting

Re: BAIN HAZMANIM 19 Apr 2016 18:52 #285289

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inastruggle wrote:
I'm kind of a night owl. Going to sleep from 12 to 8 is my ideal situation, It's not easy for me to go to bed at 12.

I think we should all commit to our own time. Something that's reasonable for us. We each have our own ideal schedule.

Also my entertainment isn't usually movies and games. It's gye and another forum I'm active on.

I know I'm hilarious but still you consider GYE entertainment 
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Re: BAIN HAZMANIM 19 Apr 2016 18:55 #285290

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(Good night Device Calendar) Summary


  • Choose 10, 10:30 or 11pm.
  • If you decide to login or continue after your 'goodnight time' you must first write a valid reason / excuse on the Discussion Blog why you feel exception should be granted to logon.
  • If the reason is rejected by the forum group or administrator, we commit to pay $5 knas to GYE.
  • If we logon and didn't 'Write a reason', there's a $15 knas to GYE the following day, regardless of whether we slipped to sin in the clutches of the web or not.


Thanks for the input Aryeh. 12:00 is better for me too. Sometimes I get home close to 10-11.  But if you are on the computer for some time already by 11ish, then 10:45 makes sense.  Are you OK with everyone choosing their own times Aryeh (within reason)?

The rules also don't require the other group members to "OK" your reason for using after your shut off time, as it's not always possible for us to respond in real-time.  Just keep it sensible, or we'll finde you!! 

Also, I was thinking the shutdown time is for ANY internet use.  That way, there is less chance that an innocent....   "Maybe Moish sent me a response to my e-mail in the past 30 seconds...." turns into something worse.  What do all think? And is everyone really up for the fine thing?

 
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