This tool for recovery has many different names, but i kinda figured that since i have dissed the letter "G" for so long now, it is fittin' that I devote an entire thread to it, so here goes:

Some call it "Veggies," other call it "the four G's," and I will let you search feter G.... to see more about it.

The theory behind it is a simple one. It creates connection to God. It lifts your spirits and keeps you focused.

So, without further ado:

Gratitude:
1. for almost a year of sobriety
2. for my third daughter's success
3. for the progress on my primary project
4. for the completion of our 3rd cycle on the phone
5. for the health progress in the family

Good stuff (victories) (this should be overcomin' specific challenges):
1. wakin' on time for the early shiur
2. helpin' wife with the early mornin' dressin' (w/o her even askin')
3. supported wife with her work challenges in a pleasant manner
4. looked out for another family even though it meant showin' up late for an appointment
5. skipped over a 20 second part of a clip, knowin' that it was extremely triggerin' to me

Glitch
Watched several episodes too many last night

Goals (usually specific tasks; items that we can look back on and see that we've actually made progress; something actionable):
1. Avoid distractions and be productive at work (until 10:30) (avoid lofty unreachable goals)
2. Have kavanah by first and last brachah in S"E
3. Exercise

hatzlachah to all

[I thank all those who contributed to this idea and thread; tis one worth emulatin']

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And btw, this thread is open for anyone to use.
While i did not reach some of my goals today, and some of my "good stuff" did not turn out so good after all, the writin' itself made me more cognizant of my day and has proven to be beneficial.

Thanks

I'm trying to work on how I relate with the biggest "G" of all... GOD

Thank you cords.

cordnoy wrote on 28 Jan 2016 13:13:


Please see updates above in pink.
You can join as well.
Here is today's list

Gratitude:
1. for havin' most of my teeth
2. for the happiness of my married kids
3. for the ability to update my projects
4. for the actual completion of our 3rd cycle on the phone
5. for the health hurdle of yesterday

Good stuff (victories) (this should be overcomin' specific challenges):
1. no episodes yesterday (although some of it was by default)
2. worked productively, although lust wanted otherwise
3. positive reaction when wife was crumblin'
4. gave honor to Rav although I really wanted to be elsewhere
5. email responses were pleasant, although some did not deserve the courtesy

Glitch
Shacharis and Minchah were pretty disastrous

Goals (usually specific tasks; items that we can look back on and see that we've actually made progress; something actionable):
1. Stop to think for several seconds before S"E on the Shabbos tefillos, includin' Minchah and Maariv before and after
2. Avoid starin' at my wife (in that way)
3. Exercise

hatzlachah to all

Hmmmm... I think on my thread the chiddush wouldn't be that Shacharis and Mincha were disastrous; it would be that they were good. So מכלל לאו אתה שומע הן; Kol hakavod to you!

cordnoy wrote:


To Exercise Or Not To Exercise

It is well documented that for every mile that you jog, you add one minute to your life. This enables you, at age 85, to spend an additional 5 months in a nursing home at $5,000 per month.

2. My grandmother started walking 5 miles a day when she was 60. She is now 97 and we don't know where the hell she is (btw where's hell)

3. The only reason I would take up jogging is so that I could hear heavy breathing again.

4. I joined a health club last year, spent about $400. Haven't lost a pound. Apparently you have to show up.

5. I have to exercise early in the morning before my brain figures out what I am doing.

6. I don't exercise at all. If God meant us to touch our toes, he would have put them further up our body.

7. I like long walks, especially when they are taken by people who annoy me.

8. I have flabby thighs, but fortunately my stomach covers them.

9. The advantage of exercising every day is that you die healthier.

10. If you are going to try cross country skiing, start with a small country.

11. And last, but not least, I don't jog - it makes the ice jumpright out of my glass.

This is great! Am I revealing my relative newb-ness by asking why you don't like the letter, "G?" Or do I have to wait for the origin movie: Cordnoy Begins?

TalmidChaim wrote on 31 Jan 2016 23:08:


I'm waitin' to see your list.

cordnoy wrote on 31 Jan 2016 23:16:


Sure thing. It'll do me good.

This tool for recovery has many different names, but i kinda figured that since i have dissed the letter "G" for so long now, it is fittin' that I devote an entire thread to it, so here goes:

Some call it "Veggies," other call it "the four G's," and I will let you search feter G.... to see more about it.

The theory behind it is a simple one. It creates connection to God. It lifts your spirits and keeps you focused.

So, without further ado:

You can join as well.

Here is today's list

Gratitude:
1. for my health bein' stable lately b"H
2. for the progress of what can be a difficult parshah
3. for wife's mood
4. for the opportunity of beginnin' our 4th cycle on the phone today
5. for bank account at the end of the mont

Good stuff (victories) (this should be overcomin' specific challenges):
1. learnin' was gesmak
2. connectin' a bit durin' davenin'
3. mikvah night was special
4. no gamblin' for several days (tryin' not to replenish a depleted account)
5. helped out a friend in time of need

Glitch
Behind in a very important project

Goals (usually specific tasks; items that we can look back on and see that we've actually made progress; something actionable):
1. Continue to think for several seconds before S"E on the Shabbos tefillos, includin' Minchah and Maariv before and after
2. Productive next five hours
3. Exercise (it's still here, for besides for shabbos (?), I have failed miserably)

hatzlachah to all

My list for today:
Gratitude:
1. For my wife being understanding
2. For having good friends to reach out to
3. For having friends who reach out to me, though I doubt they understand how much it helps me

Good stuff:
1. Was able to help out my Rebbe with something he needed
2. Having a productive day at work

Goals:
1. Try to get up a little earlier to learn for a few minutes before davening...instead of coming late
2. Go to sleep a little earlier so #1 can be "actionable"
3. Continue being productive for the rest of the day

Glitch:
Been dwelling on things I shouldn't be a bit too much. Some obsessing yesterday, a tad of resentment today.

Update:
I haven't gotten up early enough to learn before davening, but I have been coming on time most days. Grade: B
I haven't been going to sleep much earlier, but I've been trying. It's gonna remain a goal. Grade: C+
Productivity has been somewhat up; could be better. Grade: B-

I believe we always downgrade ourselves (and you know where that leads us...)

Productivity somewhat up is A or A+

The G.oal is A++

Today's list:
Gratitude:
For being able to help another in isolation

Good stuff:
Had a good time at a wedding recently, reconnected with some old friends

Goals:
Be more productive today
Go to sleep earlier
Get up early to learn

Glitch:
Past weekend was rough. I let other people's stress get to me too much. Gonna try to prepare myself better for these situations.