Sorry waydown, I think Gevura is correct. I wish I had more experience with the cleaner side of living to be able to explain it better, but in my limited experience, lust has no place in a Jewish home.
Gevura - this sounds like a very tricky balance. We engage in an action that by the rules of nature is extremely pleasurable, yet we are supposed to be able to do so ignoring our pleasure and focusing on the giving. Is that what you're saying?
Can you give me more details on the distinction between lust and physical attraction?
For example, there can be a physical arousal generated by an emotional bonding. What's that about?
For someone who is used to indulging in pleasure it is difficult. With a handful of victories under my belt (no pun intended
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) I have seen that it's possible, but it's like a muscle that needs a lot of time and working out to get it to the level it should be, kind of like PT or OT for someone who was in an accident. Without getting too graphic, it's easier in the beginning but as things progress, it gets harder to retain that focus.