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Re: a new start 30 Apr 2016 20:34 #286143

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I hear what you are saying Cord. I was responding to what I perceived as shame within his words. Many times I say things that may not seem directly related. Although mg... did say very true things. 

I terms of addiction; I don't recall mg... saying that he was an addict. I may be mistaken.
 
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Re: a new start 03 May 2016 14:38 #286474

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Day 3 

I thank you Hashem for giving me another consecutive day of sobriety, and I ask you to please keep the cravings at bay. I can't do it alone.
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Re: a new start 04 May 2016 18:38 #286646

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Day 4

Lots of stresses going on today - good things - B"H, that said, stress is stress, and lust is the way I deal with it. I ask you Hashem to help me see your presence and deal my day with serenity.
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Re: a new start 04 May 2016 18:58 #286647

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I have not seen serenity in a loooong time, and Hashems presence even longer. Is it possible to pray to see it? I don't know

I'm only commenting on your wording, however I know what you meant and may your prayers be answered!!!

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Re: a new start 04 May 2016 19:05 #286648

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Is "feel" any better ?
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Re: a new start 04 May 2016 19:10 #286650

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Question is what happens if we go for months without this prayer answered, and we don't feel... ?

I don't believe that's the correct surrender prayer format

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Re: a new start 04 May 2016 19:23 #286651

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It's not intended as a surrender prayer. But as a pre lusting one. For me it helps to reach out to Hashem and to people, to stay connected.

However, I'm borrowing your disclaimer.
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Re: a new start 10 May 2016 11:40 #287349

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Nothing very positive to share. I've been releasing steam with lust.

I upped my filter to block a certain site that has started to cause me problems (in the past my filter blocked any inappropriate content of that specific site, but in the last few days an upgrade to that site has outsmarted the filter). Without a filter I'm smoked. 

In any case I hope to be able to share successes, I've got a lot of motivation, I just keep on slipping on a banana peel..

 
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Re: a new start 10 May 2016 12:00 #287350

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I didn't get it clear
Have you been slipping or falling

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Re: a new start 10 May 2016 12:51 #287357

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mggsbms wrote on 10 May 2016 11:40:
Nothing very positive to share. I've been releasing steam with lust.

I upped my filter to block a certain site that has started to cause me problems (in the past my filter blocked any inappropriate content of that specific site, but in the last few days an upgrade to that site has outsmarted the filter). Without a filter I'm smoked. 

In any case I hope to be able to share successes, I've got a lot of motivation, I just keep on slipping on a banana peel..

 

Can you write a three item gratitude list, and let's not worry about a string of successes, rather, the appreciation of the present?
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Re: a new start 12 May 2016 00:30 #287558

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markz wrote on 10 May 2016 12:00:
I didn't get it clear
Have you been slipping or falling

If there are banana peels everywhere in your house, it may be time to move...

What happens when you slip on a banana peel ?

On your second suggestion. Life is full of banana peels.

 
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Re: a new start 12 May 2016 00:48 #287559

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mggsbms wrote on 12 May 2016 00:30:

markz wrote on 10 May 2016 12:00:
I didn't get it clear
Have you been slipping or falling

If there are banana peels everywhere in your house, it may be time to move...

What happens when you slip on a banana peel ?

On your second suggestion. Life is full of banana peels.

 

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MYTH: CAN YOU REALLY SLIP ON A BANANA PEEL?

Explanation: The banana peel fall: It’s a myth that got its start in the early 1900s when bananas became the most popular fruit in the United States. People would toss their scrap skins on the sidewalks, where they rotted and became slippery. Enough people slipped on the aging peels and were injured that many places enacted anti-littering laws. The myth has been a gag in slapstick comedy over the years.

Contrary to comedic genius, MythBusters found that — although the slick underside of a fresh banana skin does have some friction-reducing properties — a single peel isn’t a guaranteed fall magnet. If you’re determined to see some major slippage, try running on layers of peels. Putting peel upon peel reduces static friction, the force that keeps an object from moving when it goes from “stop” to “start.” And the older the peels, the more slippery they will be, because the solid material decomposes into a soft, slimy texture.


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Re: a new start 15 May 2016 14:41 #287845

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Day five 

The challenge is to keep the eye on the ball once the lusting subsides. The sharp contrast between living life and the descent into fantasy land. Any ideas ?

Another point. As much as ODAAT is recommended, I still try to focus on the benefits one could reap from extended sobriety. Fantasizing about a sober shevuas, summer and yamim noroim fills me with emotion and motivation. Getting there has to come through making life livable one day at a time.
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Re: a new start 15 May 2016 14:59 #287846

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mggsbms wrote on 15 May 2016 14:41:
Day five 

The challenge is to keep the eye on the ball once the lusting subsides. The sharp contrast between living life and the descent into fantasy land. Any ideas ?

Another point. As much as ODAAT is recommended, I still try to focus on the benefits one could reap from extended sobriety. Fantasizing about a sober shevuas, summer and yamim noroim fills me with emotion and motivation. Getting there has to come through making life livable one day at a time.

Sorry that this will not be a cuddly post. I'm not sure, in your case, that there is any difference between fantasizing about a clean shavuos, or a sexcapade next weekend. Your job, my job, our God-given mission is to do His will today, nothing more, nothing less. If your focus is on the summer, then act out today and worry about the summer tomorrow.

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Re: a new start 15 May 2016 15:01 #287847

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mggsbms wrote on 15 May 2016 14:41:
Day five 

The challenge is to keep the eye on the ball once the lusting subsides. The sharp contrast between living life and the descent into fantasy land. Any ideas ?

Another point. As much as ODAAT is recommended, I still try to focus on the benefits one could reap from extended sobriety. Fantasizing about a sober shevuas, summer and yamim noroim fills me with emotion and motivation. Getting there has to come through making life livable one day at a time.

It is definitely very motivating to think about long term sobriety. There is something you should be aware of: Sometimes when we fantasize about being sober on shavous, let's say, we start thinking of it was done. And its not done till its done. So while its great to think about a sober shavous. Thinking about it is not it. And there is alot of work and prayer to do -- day by day -- to hopefully with Hashem's help, get there
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