now that I am married I recognize that you cannot lead a proper jewish life while stuck in this addiction…the addiction fundamentally alters your jewishness the way even pork-eating (I imagine) does not…this is more than about keeping a specific halacha (like wearing right shoe first then left then tying left then tying right, which is also halacha) but it is about your very existence as a jew…something that single people maybe cannot fathom…

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Thats a great point thanks for saying it the way it is ! Also it does an incredible amount of destruction in heaven , which then corresponds to "bad" coming down to this world(The nefesh Hachaim speaks about the damage an avirah does to this world)

On The Road wrote on 01 Oct 2009 20:34:


Sounds sadly familiar - single guys, deal with this when you're single - you - and your future wives - are the lucky ones.

All you singles out there, myself included.
These guys WERE single before they got married [I think] what in the world are you arguing with them for?!

Which reminds me of a derasha I heard on shavuos: [it sounds better in the original yiddish, I'm sure a kind soul will be willing to translate it for the rest of the chevra]


LOL

some say bochurim are like cell phones
no plans
free roaming
free nights and weekends
wacky ringtones
making noise at all the wrong times
they get put in 'silent mode'

Cord' perhaps they were interested in this poll?

Maybe.

It is a good one.

There is nobody quite like zemmy.