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90,000 Reasons To Say NO to acting out.... in 20 words or less
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Re: 90,000 Reasons To Say NO to acting out.... in 20 words or less 15 Oct 2015 16:13 #266019

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When we act out we our taking the souls of our children and turning them into demons that haunt us on this world and the next.
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Re: 90,000 Reasons To Say NO to acting out.... in 20 words or less 15 Oct 2015 16:16 #266022

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Hashem loves us so much, that is why he gives tremendous punishment for this sin, it is as kavyachol Hashem is trying to do whatever he can to stop us from doing such a terrible thing.

(Other than the punishment, acting out is terrible)
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Re: 90,000 Reasons To Say NO to acting out.... in 20 words or less 15 Oct 2015 16:18 #266024

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rosh hashana it is written down how much pleasure a man should have for the year.

So we are going to get pleasure anyway, why take it in such a bad manner?
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Re: 90,000 Reasons To Say NO to acting out.... in 20 words or less 15 Oct 2015 17:13 #266031

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Mesayin wrote:
When we act out we our taking the souls of our children and turning them into demons that haunt us on this world and the next.



Don't even know if there's any truth in that.

hope that works for you.
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"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


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Re: 90,000 Reasons To Say NO to acting out.... in 20 words or less 15 Oct 2015 17:14 #266032

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Mesayin wrote:
rosh hashana it is written down how much pleasure a man should have for the year.

So we are going to get pleasure anyway, why take it in such a bad manner?


cuz' we want this pleasure!
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
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If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.

Re: 90,000 Reasons To Say NO to acting out.... in 20 words or less 15 Oct 2015 19:08 #266040

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cordnoy wrote:
Mesayin wrote:
When we act out we our taking the souls of our children and turning them into demons that haunt us on this world and the next.



Don't even know if there's any truth in that.

hope that works for you.


I went to a guy a mashgiach in a yeshiva in his 60s for help in this issue and scared the daylights out of me with gemara and midrashim and this is one of the things that he told me.
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Re: 90,000 Reasons To Say NO to acting out.... in 20 words or less 15 Oct 2015 19:17 #266041

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well i will repeat what cordy said, i hope it works for you. i heard something from a shiur that each seed becomes a malach that haunts us in this world and the next and the way to get rid of them was saying krias shma al hamittah. didn't keep me sober but i sure started saying ksha"h after that! (i stopped about a half a year ago)
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Re: 90,000 Reasons To Say NO to acting out.... in 20 words or less 15 Oct 2015 19:55 #266045

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Mesayin wrote:
cordnoy wrote:
Mesayin wrote:
When we act out we our taking the souls of our children and turning them into demons that haunt us on this world and the next.



Don't even know if there's any truth in that.

hope that works for you.


I went to a guy a mashgiach in a yeshiva in his 60s for help in this issue and scared the daylights out of me with gemara and midrashim and this is one of the things that he told me.


B"H!
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
My threads:
GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

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Re: 90,000 Reasons To Say NO to acting out.... in 20 words or less 18 Oct 2015 14:23 #266234

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Before acting out think about this: You don't want to lose your current streak and start again!

Re: 90,000 Reasons To Say NO to acting out.... in 20 words or less 18 Oct 2015 14:28 #266236

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Mike, is this the only thing that you've used to keep you lust free for the past 56 days?

Id think not, as I understand from seems from another comment you posted today HERE
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Re: 90,000 Reasons To Say NO to acting out.... in 20 words or less 18 Oct 2015 15:04 #266248

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mike dupont wrote:
Before acting out think about this: You don't want to lose your current streak and start again!


If that works for you, fine; but I say that a streak is meant to be broken; what other reason would there be for a streak? I call it "livin' life."
My email: thenewme613@hotmail.com
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GYE Handbook | Gibbor's Insights | GYE FAQ - Thanks Skep and DMS123456789 White Book | Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous)

If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
"Tryin' and doin' are two different thin's - tryin' is hopin'; doin' is succeedin'.
"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


Disclaimer: I am not a cheerleader; B"H, there are many on the site. I am here to change myself, and with God's help, by some mistake, I might even help change others.

MY POSTS ARE NOT WRITTEN AS A MODERATOR UNLESS EXPLICITLY STATED.
Last Edit: 18 Oct 2015 15:05 by cordnoy.

Re: 90,000 Reasons To Say NO to acting out.... in 20 words or less 18 Oct 2015 17:54 #266261

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cordnoy wrote:
mike dupont wrote:
Before acting out think about this: You don't want to lose your current streak and start again!


If that works for you, fine; but I say that a streak is meant to be broken; what other reason would there be for a streak? I call it "livin' life."


Sobriety's not about beating a previous high score:

guardyoureyes.com/forum/2-What-Works-for-Me/265130-Sobrietys-not-about-beating-a-previous-high-score
Last Edit: 18 Oct 2015 17:55 by Watson.

Re: 90,000 Reasons To Say NO to acting out.... in 20 words or less 18 Oct 2015 20:17 #266268

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Obviously my comment is not meant to summarize my 'strategy'; rather I was just trying to add something to all previously mentioned ideas and suggestions. It takes indeed more than that.

Re: 90,000 Reasons To Say NO to acting out.... in 20 words or less 29 Oct 2015 22:17 #267289

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Because it just aint worth 60 secs of enjoyement to feel like an animal for 10 mins(more or less).
when the going gets tough the tough get going

'We were not put on this world to chill and relax
or to laze around shtelling our hacks'

The sole reason we were put onto this world is to overcome our negative traits - steipler

Re: 90,000 Reasons To Say NO to acting out.... in 20 words or less 30 Oct 2015 02:11 #267318

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our brain creates a chemical that pushes us to remember only the good parts of acting out from one time to the next. so when we get the urge, we have to actively remind ourselves of the unpleasant parts that were undoubtedly present last time around. it is never as good as you recall. focusing on having to go through the unpleasantness plus the spiritual and religious fallout can be powerful. #whatworksforme
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