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B'Erev Yalin Bechi, vla'Baboker rina! I posted last night on this forum for the first time about my struggles. I went to sleep feeling silly for posting. But this morning I woke up and there you all are. So many sincere and heartfelt responses! You know, the underlying...

Someone asked Dov: "I never understood why our Higher Power would restore us to sanity. Someone from SA told me it just works and never mind why." Dov Replies: "Wasn't your motive for desperately searching out and drinking in porn, fantasy and masturbation *always* in or...

The following is meant as a convenient review of Hilchos Yichud ( written by Rabbi Y. Dov Krakowski). The Piskei Din for the most part are based purely on the Sugyos, Shulchan Aruch and Ramah, and Nosei Keilim unless stated otherwise. They are based on my understanding of...

Hi Ladies, Many of us have the following questions: How am I going to deal with my husband when I see that he is acting out by finding stuff on the computer or catching him in the act? What should I ask, say or do?! Here are four answers that I suggest: 1)The green book ...

I have been mired in the garbage of my addiction for about 20 years. I have tried to stop tens (maybe hundreds) of times without success. Things started to finally change when I found this site. I do not know what tomorrow will bring, but I do know that to...

To heck with me. What can I do for you?

Someone posted on the forum an excerpt from an article at livescience.com which he says reminds him a lot of the idea that an addict is "powerless" over lust. Here's the excerpt: If you think you're generally good at resisting temptation, you're probably...

E.L reached this milestone yesterday on the 20th of Av, which is spelled Ke'Av. The word "Ke'Av" has a double meaning In Lashon Hakodesh. It can mean "pain" and it can also mean "like a father". E.L. has taken the "pain"...

Last night, I just lay there in the dark thinking, and all of a sudden I became terrified. The fear was from the thought - the mental image of me going back to the way it was before I found GuardYourEyes. Perhaps it was an attack by the Yetzer Hara to entice ...

First of all, I want to congratulate you on improving your site with many new options! They are invaluable tools for all Jews! Second, I am happy to tell you that I have been close to 100 days clean, THANK G-D, the only One who has made this possible through his kindness!...

Decisions aren't forever

Today I want to share some big Yesodos that I learned from Dov. (If anyone has experience with what really works, it's Dov. Once a slave to an all-consuming lust addiction, Dov is now sober for over 18 years! See Dov's story here). It often takes a lot of trying and faili...

My friend, I assume you are taking actions to put the steps into practice in some way in your daily life. You wrote that "something's gotta change". For some folks (like me), I believe it's this: Are these steps just ideas that you accept in your heart? Or... Are they ...

Excerpts taken from an article here on YeshivaWorld.com ~ We formatted the most relevant parts in italics below ~ The second half of the Sunday morning session at the Agudah convention addressed the devastating impact of substance abuse and other kinds of addiction on ind...

I had built-up a very close kesher with my rebbe who knew everything about me, for better and for worse. Although I was a very good bachur, I still had my quirks, and I hid nothing from him. Except for one secret. There was a whole side to me that I had never revealed to ...

I read through the handbook last night for the 1st time and have found lots of great tools. Now I will start working through the handbook again more slowly, step by step. I am now seeing that there are blessings in this addiction, for example: the need to truly surrender to HaShem. By nature I'm a fighter, but that is all in my own strength. This is one battle that I now realize I cannot win on my own. Thank you again. I can say that I am now looking forward with hope to be drawn closer to HaShem.

I have a friend who taught me to make it habitual to say "Hi" to Hashem when I get into my car - you know, the way we tend to have a ritual flicking on of the radio? Well, instead of that, flick on REALITY and just say "Hi G-d".... (He didn't know he was "teaching" this t...

In some ways, I feel about lust the way I do about European governments... You see, Europe is kinda old and they've gone through many forms of governance over their many countries... like communism, monarchy, dictatorships, democracies, free governments, liberal governmen...