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Tool 10: Extra Strong Fences - TaPhSiC Method

Part 2/7 (to see other parts of the article, click on the pages at the bottom)

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Part 2: What Would Stop Us?

Now that we have faced the truth about ourselves, we need to ask: What spiritual and non-spiritual repercussions WOULD stop us?

Spiritually speaking, what WOULD stop me?

- I would not be Mechalel Shabbos to view shmutz, no matter how bad I wanted it. I would be able to wait 24 hours.

- If the only way to get my fix in the coming 24 hours was by eating a Ham sandwich first, I probably would hold out and not do it for 24 hours.

- After I finish fully giving in to my desires, I don’t want to throw the rest of my Yiddishkeit away. I feel bad about it and I really do want to “come back” to Hashem. If I had a choice to push a “Stop These Aveiros Forever” button, I would press it then.

What does this all show me? That I still do have a holy spark within me, and that my Yiras Shamayim is still existent. It may not be enough to stop me in general, but it is strong enough to make me want to get rid of these behaviors AFTER the act. And even before the act, it is strong enough to enable me to hold out for a while - when the spiritual repercussions are BIG (like Chillul Shabbos or eating Treif). What we can see from this is that there ARE spiritual repercussions that would stop us, if they were only BIG enough, and especially when we’re not under the spell of lust.

Now let’s look at the non-spiritual side of the coin. What WOULD stop me?

- If I was about to act out and someone walked into the room, would I continue?

- If every time I acted out, I would become racked with pain, would I continue?

- If there was an electronic eye following me, and every time I acted out, my wife or Rebbe would see me doing it, would I continue?

- If every time I acted out I would feel sick and I would have to take a bus to the hospital, stay there for 2 hours, and get a shot to return me to normal, would I continue?

What does this all show me? It shows that there ARE repercussions that would stop me, if only they were BIG enough.

To sum up: Although the “normal” repercussions, both short term and long term, are not enough to stop me, there still do exist both spiritual and non-spiritual repercussions that WOULD stop me, if they were big enough and immediate enough.

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Comments (12)

  • Avraham1983
    Avraham1983 says:
    14 August 2016 at 17:07 |

    I have a question on the shiur how do I go about this

  • David64
    David64 says:
    21 April 2017 at 07:02 |

    Is there any way to download the shiur?

    • obormottel
      obormottel says:
      27 April 2017 at 07:31 |

      To download, right-click on the link above and select "Save link as" or "Save target as" (depending on your system). This will download the file to your hard drive.

      To listen to the shiur by phone, dial the playback number (857) 957-1119

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  • Nachman613
    Nachman613 says:
    22 May 2017 at 20:01 |

    Is there any way to listen to the 40 min shiur without internet like calling a number?

    • obormottel
      obormottel says:
      23 May 2017 at 05:59 |

      The answer is right above. Open your eyes, you're safe here;)

  • OivedElokim
    OivedElokim says:
    26 June 2017 at 18:15 |

    is a shvua b'ksav considerd a shvuah?

  • Binyomin96
    Binyomin96 says:
    12 November 2017 at 23:59 |

    How do I sign up for this?

    • obormottel
      obormottel says:
      13 November 2017 at 04:00 |

      You do it yourself, there is no sign-up.

  • Mevakesh1818
    Mevakesh1818 says:
    16 November 2017 at 00:51 |

    Is there somewhere that I can type my shvua so you can look at it to let me know if its ok and that in the future I can look at it as well and this way I dont need to have a paper lying around that others may find.

    • the.guard
      the.guard says:
      06 December 2017 at 07:04 |

      you can email it to and we will try and look over it. In terms of keeping it online, I think you should just save it in a folder in your email or in a google doc account.

  • Higiazman
    Higiazman says:
    27 April 2018 at 17:52 |

    where can i find the text (lashon) of the neder

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