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Tool 10: Extra Strong Fences - TaPhSiC Method

Part 4/7 (to see other parts of the article, click on the pages at the bottom)

by GYE (See all authors)


Click on the image above for a 40 minute shiur that explains the TaPHSiC method in detail.
Click here for the Generic Nusach for the Double-Fenced TaPHSiC Method

Part 4: The Double-Fence TaPHSiC Method

An even more powerful form of the TaPHSiC method is to make it into a double fence by using it for both before and after the fall.

For example: Make a list of things to do before falling, such as taking a half hour walk, reaching out by phone to a friend from GYE for help, etc. Then, make the shvuah that if you act out before doing the things on your list, you will have to do something very painful (say, give $500 to Tzedaka). But if you act out AFTER doing the things on your list, you will only have to give $50 to Tzedaka. In this way, you will feel obligated to do the things on your list before giving in, because you know that once you give in and the lust has past, you won’t be able to ignore the shvuah. The genius of this is, that by the time you are finished doing the things on the list, the lust attack will usually have dissipated. And often before giving in, even thinking of the things you will have to do will make you drop the whole idea in the first place. This double-fence TaPHSiC method has been shown to be one of the most powerful ways for frum addicts to break the addiction for the long term.

A member shared on our forum how the double-fence TaPHSiC method works for him:

I made a commitment that if I wanted to look at shmutz online I would first do one of 4 things, (1) talk through how I'm feeling with my wife, (2) go for a 30 min run or exercise, or (3) learn Torah for 30 min, or (4) read about the holocaust for 30 min. Then I made a shvuah that if I did anyone of these 4 actions before looking, then I would only have to give $75 to Tzedakah. But if I did not do any of these 4 actions but just went right ahead and looked, I would have to give $750 to Tzedaka. I am unemployed now (so a lot of time on my hands), and so taking a $750 hit is just not possible for me right now. When the Yetzer Hara gets us in the moment, he makes us forget all consequences. With this method, it’s just much harder to forget the consequences. B”H I haven't looked at any shmutz online since I made this commitment. It helps me a lot and I hope it can help you too.

We can keep making minor adjustments as we go along. That is why it's best to make the vow only for a week at a time at first, and then maybe a month... (We must make sure to renew the shvuah BEFORE it expires. Often the addiction convinces us that we’re doing OK, only to catch us off guard when we suddenly realize that the shvuah has expired!). Once we are confident and comfortable with the vow and see that it really works for us, we may need to make this vow only once a year!

It’s a delicate balance, but with careful thought and siyatta dishmaya, most Frum addicts can find a formula that really works for them, over time. And once we have found it, we will know. There will be a sudden feeling of joy – a tremendous new freedom in our lives. We will feel like we have literally been freed from the self-imposed “prison” that we have been living in for so many years!

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Comments (12)

  • Avraham1983
    Avraham1983 says:
    14 August 2016 at 17:07 |

    I have a question on the shiur how do I go about this

  • David64
    David64 says:
    21 April 2017 at 07:02 |

    Is there any way to download the shiur?

    • obormottel
      obormottel says:
      27 April 2017 at 07:31 |

      To download, right-click on the link above and select "Save link as" or "Save target as" (depending on your system). This will download the file to your hard drive.

      To listen to the shiur by phone, dial the playback number (857) 957-1119

      After dialing the number, put in this PIN Code: 651874#

      Then press reference number 3# to begin the shiur.

      You can fast forward or rewind 30 seconds using the number 1 and 2 on the keyboard.
      Press 5 to pause and to continue.

  • Nachman613
    Nachman613 says:
    22 May 2017 at 20:01 |

    Is there any way to listen to the 40 min shiur without internet like calling a number?

    • obormottel
      obormottel says:
      23 May 2017 at 05:59 |

      The answer is right above. Open your eyes, you're safe here;)

  • OivedElokim
    OivedElokim says:
    26 June 2017 at 18:15 |

    is a shvua b'ksav considerd a shvuah?

  • Binyomin96
    Binyomin96 says:
    12 November 2017 at 23:59 |

    How do I sign up for this?

    • obormottel
      obormottel says:
      13 November 2017 at 04:00 |

      You do it yourself, there is no sign-up.

  • Mevakesh1818
    Mevakesh1818 says:
    16 November 2017 at 00:51 |

    Is there somewhere that I can type my shvua so you can look at it to let me know if its ok and that in the future I can look at it as well and this way I dont need to have a paper lying around that others may find.

    • the.guard
      the.guard says:
      06 December 2017 at 07:04 |

      you can email it to and we will try and look over it. In terms of keeping it online, I think you should just save it in a folder in your email or in a google doc account.

  • Higiazman
    Higiazman says:
    27 April 2018 at 17:52 |

    where can i find the text (lashon) of the neder

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