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Tool 10: Extra Strong Fences - TaPhSiC Method

Part 7/7 (to see other parts of the article, click on the pages at the bottom)

by GYE (See all authors)

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Click on the image above for a 40 minute shiur that explains the TaPHSiC method in detail.

Cautionary Notes:

Although the TaPHSiC method is very powerful, finding the perfect formula is delicate and DANGEROUS business. If we vow to do something too painful, we run the risk that we’ll break our vow, which besides for the serious sin, can lead to deterioration since the person can chas veshalom feel that if he has transgressed this sin, there’s no hope for him anyway! On the other hand, if it’s not painful enough, there’s always the risk of continued falls. Feel free to send your shvuah ideas to us by email (gye.help [at] gmail [dot] com) before making them, for advice.

It is important to write up a list of the vows for our records, and also to enable us to review them carefully before making them each time. In addition, having a list of the vows will help us refine them as we discover the ones that worked for better or for worse, and we can then use this refined list to make the vows again for progressively longer periods of time.

It is also important to understand that the TaPHSiC method is like putting an electrified fence at the edge of a cliff. If you come close to the edge, you will be “shocked” and back away. However, it goes without saying that if someone continues to walk alongside the edge of the cliff, the repeated shocks will start becoming very painful. At some point, he may just turn the electricity in the wires off, which will lead to a fall soon after. Or at some point, even the electricity won’t help and he’ll stumble and fall through the fence.

Therefore, in conjunction with this method, it is vital to put up other fences as well; fences that will keep us far away from the “edge of the cliff”. This means installing a good filter, as discussed in previous tools. And on top of that filter, we need to install an “Accountability system” as well, such as eBlaster or Webchaver which sends reports of our internet usage to someone we would be ashamed to disappoint. This makes the repercussions all the more real, and keeps us far from even trying to find loop-holes in our filter.

The bottom line is, that although this method is like putting a strong electric fence at the edge of the cliff to stop us when all else fails, we need to continue to use the many tools of the GYE handbook to keep ourselves safely away from the edge.

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Comments (7)

  • Avraham1983
    Avraham1983 says:
    14 August 2016 at 17:07 |

    I have a question on the shiur how do I go about this

  • David64
    David64 says:
    21 April 2017 at 07:02 |

    Is there any way to download the shiur?

    • obormottel
      obormottel says:
      27 April 2017 at 07:31 |

      To download, right-click on the link above and select "Save link as" or "Save target as" (depending on your system). This will download the file to your hard drive.

      To listen to the shiur by phone, dial the playback number (857) 957-1119

      After dialing the number, put in this PIN Code: 651874#

      Then press reference number 3# to begin the shiur.

      You can fast forward or rewind 30 seconds using the number 1 and 2 on the keyboard.
      Press 5 to pause and to continue.

  • Nachman613
    Nachman613 says:
    22 May 2017 at 20:01 |

    Is there any way to listen to the 40 min shiur without internet like calling a number?

    • obormottel
      obormottel says:
      23 May 2017 at 05:59 |

      The answer is right above. Open your eyes, you're safe here;)

  • OivedElokim
    OivedElokim says:
    26 June 2017 at 18:15 |

    is a shvua b'ksav considerd a shvuah?

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