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A new challenge 01 Oct 2024 10:33 #422706

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Hi everyone, I decided to start a new chat bc I feel like a new person since I joined GYE. I totally mean what I say, just as an example I dont feel anymore like an animal with this bestial part of me getting out every time that I would be alone at home... 
Baroukh H Im at 43 clean days, and if you add it to the last attempt I did Im at 93 days !! Honestly it's awesome and it never worked that well!!
I dont remember who talked to me about the taphsyc method with the shvuah but it clearly helped. It took me like 3 months to adjust the terms and the knassim but at the end I think it's quite balanced
I'll let you guys know BezH !!!
Thank you again

Re: A new challenge 19 Nov 2024 11:15 #425354

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Hi everyone ! 
It's been a while that I did not post but I kept going BH. I just reached 90 days and I feel really good and thankful to 'ה, and to everyone that helped me here
I dont know what's supposed to be the following step, if people who went through it can help me
Thanks !

Re: A new challenge 19 Nov 2024 12:09 #425359

Mazel Tov on reaching 90! May you be zoche to many many more!

Re: A new challenge 19 Nov 2024 14:11 #425367

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אמן !!!! וכן למר

Last Edit: 19 Nov 2024 14:11 by ShtettlMan.

Re: A new challenge 19 Nov 2024 20:56 #425399

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ShtettlMan wrote on 19 Nov 2024 11:15:
Hi everyone ! 
It's been a while that I did not post but I kept going BH. I just reached 90 days and I feel really good and thankful to 'ה, and to everyone that helped me here
I dont know what's supposed to be the following step, if people who went through it can help me
Thanks !

Cooooooooooooooooooooongratulations!

That's huge. The following step is recognizing you accomplished something amazing. Probably you should reward yourself.

The downside to focusing on the streak, is when you win the streak some minority of people get left with a deep down feeling like they're done and then they lose all their motivation (in a very subtle way) and fall.

A good idea is to set a new goal (how bout going for 180?). A better idea is that while you work on the next ninety, you also disengage a little from actively counting daily, and try to work on feeling like a different person. That is to say, don't change what's been working. But try to focus less on a goal of days, and more on a goal of internal change.

You accomplishment is deeply inspiring. Keep on trucking!

Re: A new challenge 20 Nov 2024 09:22 #425448

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Wow that's really smart
Im gonna try that 
thank you!

Re: A new challenge 21 Nov 2024 19:26 #425598

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I've been reading articles and articles and articles for the last 2 days. Honestly I dont know why, as my sequence is still going, but I feel a bit down of what I've read. Wanted to know How bad things could end up, and all the divorces that occured because of p&m dependance just scare me. Is it really possible to get out of these problems? How can I avoid just falling in 2 weeks and start a new account?
Please help me guys I really don't see how I should handle it. (ps: I can't call HHM as I'm not in America and he has no access to Whatsapp)

Re: A new challenge 21 Nov 2024 20:00 #425599

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You can engage in conversations here. There are other chevra that have WhatsApp and can help.
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guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/375452-Work-in-progress

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Re: A new challenge 21 Nov 2024 20:59 #425602

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    Take it One Day At A Time. Don't worry about 2 weeks bc you can't actively change what may happen then or even tomorrow. Focus on today because that's the only time you have control of. You can't react to things that may happen, you can only prepare yourself by focusing on the now.
    Each day you gain more experience in fighting the battle. If we fall, then we learn from our mistakes, but know that we are not failures because we fell, we are humans that are trying to better ourselves in an area that is difficult to improve on. 

Keep on Trucking, One Day At A Time!!
"The best filter is the one you don't test"-Dov
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Re: A new challenge 21 Nov 2024 21:17 #425603

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jewizard21 wrote on 21 Nov 2024 20:59:
    Take it One Day At A Time. Don't worry about 2 weeks bc you can't actively change what may happen then or even tomorrow. Focus on today because that's the only time you have control of. You can't react to things that may happen, you can only prepare yourself by focusing on the now.
    Each day you gain more experience in fighting the battle. If we fall, then we learn from our mistakes, but know that we are not failures because we fell, we are humans that are trying to better ourselves in an area that is difficult to improve on. 

Keep on Trucking, One Day At A Time!!

The wizard has spoken the TRUTH! 
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