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Scientific studies show that it takes 90 days to break an addictive pattern in the mind. Start your own Log of your journey to 90 days! Post here to update us on your status and to give each other chizuk to stay strong!

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Re: Halfway There! 11 Dec 2020 19:29 #358560

gevura shebyesod
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You need to change your title to “90% to 90 days”

!אנא עבדא דקודשא בריך הוא

וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל

"If it would be so easy there wouldn't be a GYE, but if it would be impossible there also wouldn't be a GYE."
"Sometimes a hard decision leads to an easier outcome."
- General Grant

My story: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/111583-hello-my-friends

Re: Halfway There! 17 Dec 2020 03:54 #358887

yeshivaguy Current streak: 6 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1493 Karma: 148	Watching ur number go up! Keep shteiging. And please inform us of struggles and tactics you’ve been using, along the way

Re: Halfway There! 17 Dec 2020 05:39 #358898

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Thanks for the well wishes! I don't think it's really appropriate to be discussing a lot of the struggles I've had (and continue to have) along the way, since most are only problems that would affect married people and might be triggering. (I'd be fine to take about that over PM, though.)

But in terms of tactics, primarily I've been keeping busy with learning new things I'm interested in at night so as to avoid feeling like I have too much free time. Of course, when not spending time with my wife and doing my share of the chores.

And I'm not sure what exactly induced the change in mindset, but the thought of looking at other women that way is just... unsettling now. And the thought that I'd be doing something that could jeopardize my relationship with my wife is so very unsavory.

Last Edit: 17 Dec 2020 05:42 by blueorangeballoon.

Re: Halfway There! 17 Dec 2020 05:44 #358901

oivedelokim
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The most effective weapon in this fighting is היסח הדעת. If you don’t focus on lust-it disappears. Staying busy is the surest method to staying clean (in my experience).

I am a bochur with a passion for meaning and truth, searching to remain clean and live a holy and fulfilling life.

If you are reading this-you have a friend in me.
Feel free to PM me and I'll share my offline contact information, so we can call and text. I'd be honored if you'd trust me with your story and promise to support you in any way I possibly can.
I've been on GYE for over 7 years. "I may walk slow, but I never walk back" (-Abraham Lincoln?).
(For the background and meaning of my username- see Tanya chapter 15).

My current thread

Re: My Journey to 90 Days 20 Dec 2020 04:43 #359135

blueorangeballoon Current streak: 1519 days OFFLINE Fresh Boarder Posts: 18 Karma: 1	And I made it! 90 days clean.

Re: My Journey to 90 Days 20 Dec 2020 04:46 #359136

yeshivaguy Current streak: 6 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1493 Karma: 148	MAZEL TOV!!!!!!! WOOOOHHOOOOOO!!!!!

Re: My Journey to 90 Days 20 Dec 2020 07:37 #359146

zedj Current streak: 14 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 627 Karma: 46	To many more celebrations! You should make a L'chaim! I know you know this but.... The yetzer horah doesn't leave after 90 days! Stay with us and keep posting updates
	One who has given up hope is without a G‑d. One who sees hope in each day is already free

Re: My Journey to 90 Days 20 Dec 2020 15:12 #359162

grant400 Current streak: 47 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1490 Karma: 173	blueorangeballoon wrote on 20 Dec 2020 04:43: And I made it! 90 days clean. Congratulations! Many more!!!!
	"Just Regular Movies" Grant's Rants The Story Teller & Related Threads The Five Languages of Love Embarrassing Things We All Do and Think

Re: My Journey to 90 Days 20 Dec 2020 16:34 #359167

realestatemogul Current streak: 1290 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 398 Karma: 29	Congrats!! Good for you and wish you much hatzlacha!! Don't stop the work at 90, now is time for 100, 110, and 120!
	Check out my thread guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/334915-This-is-going-to-be-the-time-I-get-to-90%21

Re: My Journey to 90 Days 20 Dec 2020 17:18 #359177

sapy OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 533 Karma: 53	MAZEL TOV!!!

Re: My Journey to 90 Days 21 Dec 2020 05:32 #359250

oivedelokim
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Mazel Tov!

מחיל אל חיל!

Re: My Journey to 90 Days 21 Dec 2020 05:35 #359253

Hashem Help Me Current streak: 2888 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 4042	Mazel tov!!! Remember day 91 is not so much different.......
	Feel free to contact me at michelgelner@gmail.com My threads: Lessons Learned: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/335248-Lessons-Learned My Story and G-d Bless GYE: guardyoureyes.com/forum/17-Balei-Battims-Forum/303036-My-story-and-G-d-bless-GYE

Re: My Journey to 90 Days 04 Jan 2021 01:49 #360466

yeshivaguy Current streak: 6 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1493 Karma: 148	Sooo nuu? Hows it goin??

Re: My Journey to 90 Days 04 Jan 2021 02:28 #360470

blueorangeballoon Current streak: 1519 days OFFLINE Fresh Boarder Posts: 18 Karma: 1	105 days now. Porn hasn't been an issue in some time, and while I still have some problems with the other, I feel in control most of the time now.