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Re: I will make it b"h 08 Feb 2017 08:25 #305232

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MayanHamisgaber wrote on 07 Feb 2017 20:24:
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Thank you, not to sound depressed, like i said at day 30 so what but now I'm saying it not out of stress or frustration rather while it is a nice accomplishment I still have to realize that this in no way means that I am cured and must always be on guard hence just trying to get through now and only now.

B"H nothing to stressing today imagine that....

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Re: I will make it b"h 08 Feb 2017 12:59 #305256

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cordnoy wrote on 08 Feb 2017 04:36:
Forget the addict question.

What are you doin' to change?

And please don't say, "I'm not lookin' at porn and I'm postin'," for that's not inner change.


for inner change I'm trying to be honest with myself about my ego anger and self esteem figuring out when and why I get angry/egoistic and working on these middos thru mussar and talking to friends and family.
Also listened to the chossen shmuzzen by R' Fuerman(or however you spell it) also downloading and listening to Dov's calls and reading the different advice found here and trying to decide what works for me from all of these places.
Is there something else  should try?
Thank you for takking time to help me
very important thread: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21" option="guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21">FEEL THE HUGS!!!

Re: I will make it b"h 08 Feb 2017 13:44 #305260

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MayanHamisgaber wrote on 08 Feb 2017 12:59:

cordnoy wrote on 08 Feb 2017 04:36:
Forget the addict question.

What are you doin' to change?

And please don't say, "I'm not lookin' at porn and I'm postin'," for that's not inner change.


for inner change I'm trying to be honest with myself about my ego anger and self esteem figuring out when and why I get angry/egoistic and working on these middos thru mussar and talking to friends and family.
Also listened to the chossen shmuzzen by R' Fuerman(or however you spell it) also downloading and listening to Dov's calls and reading the different advice found here and trying to decide what works for me from all of these places.
Is there something else  should try?
Thank you for takking time to help me

Ate you tryin' to figure this all out by yourself?
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Re: I will make it b"h 08 Feb 2017 13:44 #305261

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MayanHamisgaber wrote on 08 Feb 2017 12:59:

cordnoy wrote on 08 Feb 2017 04:36:
Forget the addict question.

What are you doin' to change?

And please don't say, "I'm not lookin' at porn and I'm postin'," for that's not inner change.


for inner change I'm trying to be honest with myself about my ego anger and self esteem figuring out when and why I get angry/egoistic and working on these middos thru mussar and talking to friends and family.
Also listened to the chossen shmuzzen by R' Fuerman(or however you spell it) also downloading and listening to Dov's calls and reading the different advice found here and trying to decide what works for me from all of these places.
Is there something else  should try?
Thank you for takking time to help me

Are you tryin' to figure this all out by yourself?
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My threads: Mikvah Night - Page 1, Page 2, Page 3, Last Page

https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/210029-Tryin
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Re: I will make it b"h 08 Feb 2017 18:16 #305297

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since coming on to gye yes with the exception of talking to my wife no-one knows about this
very important thread: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21" option="guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21">FEEL THE HUGS!!!

Re: I will make it b"h 08 Feb 2017 19:11 #305309

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MayanHamisgaber wrote on 08 Feb 2017 18:16:
since coming on to gye yes with the exception of talking to my wife no-one knows about this

Food for thought
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Re: I will make it b"h 08 Feb 2017 20:54 #305318

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have thought about it alot already posted about it and you said time to get a new rebbe 
I agree but that is easier said than done as I really don't want to let more poeple into my private life
very important thread: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21" option="guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21">FEEL THE HUGS!!!

Re: I will make it b"h 08 Feb 2017 20:59 #305321

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sorry cordnoy you did not say it's time to get a new rebbe gevurah did it's on page 5
very important thread: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21" option="guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21">FEEL THE HUGS!!!

Re: I will make it b"h 08 Feb 2017 22:58 #305343

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MayanHamisgaber wrote on 08 Feb 2017 20:54:
have thought about it alot already posted about it and you said time to get a new rebbe 
I agree but that is easier said than done as I really don't want to let more poeple into my private life

No one is suggesting "people".  If you choose well, one good mentor may be worth that discomfort.  You can speak anonymously on the phone from a google voice phone number and get the advice, chizuk you may thrive on. But the decision is yours.
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Re: I will make it b"h 08 Feb 2017 23:11 #305350

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At the risk of an outpouring of love from many here I'll say my reason why right now i do not want to find one

1)I am looking t move back to the states soon and it could get complicated 

2)I feel that working on the 3 middos mentioned above should at least curb this beast inside me and so far only I can change me by being brutally honest with myself.
True having a mentor or rebbe to talk to is a good thing but so far I have made very good progress by talking to my wife parents and friends and I see no reason why this cannot continue to work.
Anyones thoughts or comments are welcome and who knows maybe I am wrong I am not afraid to be wrong wont be the first time and probably wont be the last time either
very important thread: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21" option="guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21">FEEL THE HUGS!!!

Re: I will make it b"h 09 Feb 2017 02:38 #305362

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MayanHamisgaber wrote on 08 Feb 2017 12:59:

cordnoy wrote on 08 Feb 2017 04:36:
Forget the addict question.

What are you doin' to change?

And please don't say, "I'm not lookin' at porn and I'm postin'," for that's not inner change.


for inner change I'm trying to be honest with myself about my ego anger and self esteem figuring out when and why I get angry/egoistic and working on these middos thru mussar and talking to friends and family.
Also listened to the chossen shmuzzen by R' Fuerman(or however you spell it) also downloading and listening to Dov's calls and reading the different advice found here and trying to decide what works for me from all of these places.
Is there something else  should try?

(From a later post) True having a mentor or rebbe to talk to is a good thing but so far I have made very good progress by talking to my wife parents and friends and I see no reason why this cannot continue to work.


Thank you for takking time to help me

Can we have a convo. Do you mind if I inquire my dear brother what's goin on
  1. Can you explain working on these middos thru mussar. What does that mean exactly
  2. "figuring out when and why I get angry/egoistic". Im clueless how to do that myself. How are you managing
  3. "Talking to my wife parents and friends" about the weather? About porn?

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Re: I will make it b"h 09 Feb 2017 07:45 #305377

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cordnoy wrote on 08 Feb 2017 19:11:

MayanHamisgaber wrote on 08 Feb 2017 18:16:
since coming on to gye yes with the exception of talking to my wife no-one knows about this

Food for thought

You say you're listening to Dov's calls. Have you gotten to this one?

Disclosing just to your wife may not be as pious as one thinks... give the call a listen ;-)
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Re: I will make it b"h 09 Feb 2017 08:02 #305384

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Singularity wrote on 09 Feb 2017 07:45:

cordnoy wrote on 08 Feb 2017 19:11:

MayanHamisgaber wrote on 08 Feb 2017 18:16:
since coming on to gye yes with the exception of talking to my wife no-one knows about this

Food for thought

You say you're listening to Dov's calls. Have you gotten to this one?

Disclosing just to your wife may not be as pious as one thinks... give the call a listen ;-)


look at the beginning of the thread where I said that many rebbiem  and my parents know that I have this problem
What I meant was that only my wife knows that I am on gye
Thanks for the reminder though
very important thread: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21" option="guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21">FEEL THE HUGS!!!

Re: I will make it b"h 09 Feb 2017 08:12 #305388

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Sorry about that. Some (most) times I am too lazy to go back hundreds of posts >.<
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Re: I will make it b"h 09 Feb 2017 08:12 #305389

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Markz wrote on 09 Feb 2017 02:38:

MayanHamisgaber wrote on 08 Feb 2017 12:59:

cordnoy wrote on 08 Feb 2017 04:36:
Forget the addict question.

What are you doin' to change?

And please don't say, "I'm not lookin' at porn and I'm postin'," for that's not inner change.


for inner change I'm trying to be honest with myself about my ego anger and self esteem figuring out when and why I get angry/egoistic and working on these middos thru mussar and talking to friends and family.
Also listened to the chossen shmuzzen by R' Fuerman(or however you spell it) also downloading and listening to Dov's calls and reading the different advice found here and trying to decide what works for me from all of these places.
Is there something else  should try?

(From a later post) True having a mentor or rebbe to talk to is a good thing but so far I have made very good progress by talking to my wife parents and friends and I see no reason why this cannot continue to work.


Thank you for takking time to help me

Can we have a convo. Do you mind if I inquire my dear brother what's goin on
  1. Can you explain working on these middos thru mussar. What does that mean exactly
  2. "figuring out when and why I get angry/egoistic". Im clueless how to do that myself. How are you managing
  3. "Talking to my wife parents and friends" about the weather? About porn?

All the best - my brother!!

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1) learning the basic seforim (sha'aray t'shuvah m'seilas y'sharim orchos tzadikim)  about each midda then understanding in a practical way how they apply to me and where I am holding with them and then 

2) looking back after I get angry or whatever what happened why did I act like that what mentality did I have that should be changed or my outlook at situations or people
The biggest challenge for me is not looking down at people for the faults that I see for I probably have bigger faults than them 

3) about my middos and where I am holding with my lusts (am I down,up,need soe help....)

is this what you wanted to clarify 
thank you all for helping me express this
very important thread: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21" option="guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/19180-FEEL-THE-HUGS%21%21%21">FEEL THE HUGS!!!
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